Reid Takes Calgary, May 9-12th!

by Reid on February 26, 2013

Sex educator Reid Mihalko of wearing an orange Sex Geek teeshirt and intimacy coach Monique Darling of dressed in a beautiful red dress and red flower in her hair teaching togetherOh, oh, OH CANADA with Reid and Monique!

Reid and Monique have a full weekend of events lined up for you, May 9th-12th! All events below. Get your tickets EARLY, as every time they have had these events in San Diego they have sold out. =)

Thurs May 9,2013 Healing Your Sexual Shame and Flirting
Friday May 10, 2013 Cuddle Party
Saturday May 11, 2013 the Energetics of Sexual Ecstasy Part 1 with Reid and Monique
Saturday Night May 11, 2013 Sacred Sexuality Play Party “Lab” with Reid and Monique
Sunday May 10, 2013 9-noon Communication Mastery~How to Say What’s Not Being Said
Sunday May 12, 2013 1-6:30pm Energetic Sex Practicum/Playday

Healing Your Sexual Shame and Flirting

DATE: Thurs May 9,2013, Healing Your Sexual Shame and Flirting
TIME: 7-10pm
WHERE: TBD, Calgary, AB, Canada
Cost: $30

Have you ever been too ashamed to ask for something you wanted? Liked someone and wanted to flirt, but didn’t know how to break the ice? Can you remember a time in your life when you felt embarrassed or shameful for something that felt good? Ever had someone start flirting with you but couldn’t flirt back and all you could do was be overcome by shyness or fear?
You’d be surprised how easily shame strangles our ability to flirt.

For many of us, feelings of shame (or trying to avoid them) keep us from asking for and experiencing things that we want. From flirting to romance to sex, many of us feel paralyzed by shame and powerless to change it. The results over a lifetime can be catastrophic. The great news is you don’t have to let shame stop you anymore and you don’t need to be “shameless” to get what you want in your relationships. Both flirting and asking for what you want are excellent skills to transform your social world and life.

In this special 3-hour, interactive workshop you will learn:

  • The emotional tools and approaches Reid uses to deal with his own sexual shame
  • Reid’s unique perspective on flirting that you can implement immediately
  • How to “track” your shame and have it lead you to breakthroughs in your relationships
  • How 7th Grade and cultural shame are keeping us from flirting our way to more love and freedom in life
  • Communication tools and strategies to have you asking for what you want in your love life, the bedroom and beyond!

This is a clothes-on, participation-optional workshop. Group exercises are not mandatory. Voyeurism is participation! And you are free to change your mind at any time. Exercises will include silly (yet powerful) flirting exercises as well as practicing asking for what we want sexually, both activities will be used as catalysts for accessing our shame and working through it by revealing it and witnessing it.


Date: Fri, May 10
Time: 6:30-10pm
Location: TBA SW Calgary, Alberta
Cost: Love Donation of $30

Join Cuddle Party founder Reid Mihalko and Cuddle Party Facilitators Monique Darling and Rovena Skye for an official Cuddle Party experience!

Cuddle Party is a 3 1/2 hour workshop experience where participants engage in communication exercises, explore touch in a non-sexual space, experience personal exploration and intimacy, and have fun with like minded friends from the community.

Nurturing and consensual loving touch is good for maintaing healthy blood pressure, a strong nervous system and a balanced emotional health. One’s ability to connect with and develop greater trust in others is emphasized during the group exchanges during Cuddle Party’s. Self-care is a cornerstone of Cuddle Party experience.

As seen on CBS’s the DR’S –

Cuddle Party is a formal, non-sexual event that offers participants an opportunity to explore intimacy with like-minded others. In a relaxed environment, that upholds personal boundaries and maintains a professional atmosphere, at all times, one is encouraged to engage in communication and touch, in a non-threatening, share-affirming environment.

Cuddle Party is a holistic, social environment, that attracts fascinating people from all walks of life. It provides a special and unique opportunity for connection, learning and growth. Come cuddle with us!

About Cuddle Party from Monique:

I have facilitated 100’s of Cuddle Parties. I am as passionate about the Cuddle Party experience today, as I was the first one, over five years ago. YES! It helped me reclaim my voice and I am passionate about helping others do the same.

Cuddle Party experiences teach participants, they alone create their own safety container. How did it change my life? When I was growing up and received a NO, it felt like I was being rejected. The result was my emphasis on being nice, being lovable and being unconditionally available. The profound learning came when I realized my unyielding YES’s became a subconscious inability to trust another person’s YES, without their own personally vocalized NO!

I am very appreciative and honoured by the courage shown by those who have clear boundaries, and an ability to voice their YES and NO decisions without guilt, shame or fear. It gives me the confidence to ask for what my own heart desires, instead of censoring myself, knowing the receiver of my request has the voice and courage to embrace or withdraw, based on their own perimeters. “Thank you for taking care of your self”


BRING: Comfortable PJS, Blankets, Pillows and any kind of soft fluff to enhance your experience.


The opening Welcome Circle is for introductions and to go over the rules of Cuddle Party. This is an important aspect of the Cuddle Party experience and creates a safe container for all participants. It is essential that everyone be on time.

The Energetics Of Sexual Ecstasy Part 1

Date: Sat, May 11
Time: 10am-5pm
Location: TBA SW Calgary, Alberta
Cost: Love Donation of $99

Get your tickets EARLY, as every time they have had this event in San Diego it has sold out. =)

Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko of and Divine Interludes’ Monique Darling in San Diego, California, for 6-hours of deep, playful, powerful exploration, self-discovery and energetic sex “geekery!”

Only $99 for a full day (including a pot-luck styled meal break) designed to give you plenty of powerful personal attention, lots of group practice, and the opportunity for you to discover how much sexual energy you can run!

Tap into your own sense of ecstatic, sensual energy while expanding your understanding of how energy can be generated and released. Bring your energetic abilities to the next level.

In this 6-hour intensive “dojo” where we will play, learn, and practice, you will:

  • Learn Reid’s underlying principles and approaches to playing with energy from the sexual to the sublime
  • Be shown Monique’s tools, tips and tricks for unlocking your stuck sexual energy and turning life into an orgasmic playground that doesn’t have to look anything like “sex”…
  • Learn to get in touch with your own energetic field, manipulate it, and turn it into a powerful source of connection and bliss.
  • Discover how and where to touch another to tune into, access, tease and play with their erotic energy, the energy of two people, or the energy of a entire group!
  • Tap into the energy of all 7 major chakra’s by yourself, with a partner, or in a group
  • Discover the differences in “taste” between energetic orgasms from chakra to chakra
  • Be given techniques to keep your energy “clean” and ways not to be “clingy” or “creepy” with your energy.
  • Understand how to take care of your physical body when your orgasmic body doesn’t want to stop and keeps moving more and more ecstatic energy!
  • Expand the range of your sexual experience AND your ability to articulate it to “muggles” who’ve never felt their kundalini twitch or tapped into their own ecstatic potential!

With all the focus on holistic practices to weave the body, mind and soul, it’s rare anyone actually talks about the nuts and bolts of sex and how they apply to our various practices.

This workshop is Rated-PG13/R, will feature frank (and humorous!) language, fully-clothed demonstrations, and participation is not required. Please bring all your questions and a notebook!

This event is intended to be sensual, and energetically sexual, but not physically sexual. All playful activities and exercises will be guided and are optional, and you can do the entire workshop by yourself or with a partner or in groups. Clothes can stay on completely. All participants are asked to practice with each other or by yourself in whatever manner supports you best.

Bring a partner, find a partner there, switch partners, or experience the course on your own. Many options will be offered to support each individual experience.

Sacred Sexuality Play Party “Lab” with Reid and Monique

Date: Sat night, May 11
Time: Doors open at 7:30pm and CLOSE AT 8:00PM.
Location: TBA SW Calgary, Alberta
Cost: Love Exchange $30

Folks invited to purchase tickets to this event, are sensually, erotically and emotionally savvy enough to Play nicely with others… You’re a good sharer, you take good care of your toys and you use your words. 🙂 You are somebody who knows your own wants and boundaries and can communicate them clearly…… and/or you’re someone willing to work and explore these areas for your own growth and enjoyment!

If you’re reading this, thinking, “I would love to come, but I don’t want to play,” PLEASE COME and enjoy the pressure-free company of like-minded individuals and exit when you need.

Everyone who attends the Energetics of Sexual Ecstasy Part 1 with Reid and Monique, May 11 is invited to attend the play party “lab.”

Other things to know about attending our Sacred Sexual Play Party “Lab”…

Leaving early is not a no-no! You are more than welcome to arrive when the doors open and leave during or after the Welcome Circle, or anytime you’d like. Really. There will be no pressure for you to do ANY activity at this party unless you put that pressure on yourself.

My biggest request is that you come with a fun-loving, warm, caring, open-minded, generous, thoughtful, compassionate, non-judgemental attitude and that you conduct yourself with the highest level of integrity possible.
I also add that you give yourself room to not be good or perfect at all of this, whatever, “all of this” means to you for an event like this.

Just set your intention for the evening on honoring and respecting both yourself, your desires, your needs, and your dislikes; give yourself room to go slowly; throw in a secondary intention to honor and respect the other guests’ needs and desires to the best of your ability while honoring yourself… And then show up to play, to relax, to frolic, and -quite possibly- to learn something about yourself!

We’ll start the opening circle when we close the doors – PLEASE text 619-655-6877, if you’re running late so we can try to hold the doors open for ya! Save yourself the stress and just get there on time and kick back. 😉

This will be a very chill, fun, playful event where sex and nudity will most likely occur. Come relax. Come sip a glass of something or a cup of tea. Come smooch. Come play. Come watch. (Voyeurism is participation!)

What is Play with a capital “P?”

Play with a capital “P” is whatever it means to you. You are invited to co-create whatever feeds your soul. Participation (also with a capital “P”) can mean many things and voyeurs are as warmly welcomed as the most actively engaged. It’s a sensual space where participants are encouraged to explore themselves and others in ways that are stimulating, nurturing, exciting, safe and FUN!

I’m going to open the doors for people to begin arriving at the above stated time and I’m going to close the doors and lock people out when we start our Welcome Circle.

The Welcome Circle is what we use to introduce ourselves to one another, have a safer sex conversation, share any boundaries and relationship agreements people should know about and get all comfy and ready to Play. is the easiest, least scary and most direct site to go to for good safer sex info.

After the Welcome Circle, it’s an all skate! For those of you who ever went to a roller skating rink growing up, you know that an “all skate” refers to when the DJ called for everyone to get on the rink and do their thing, whatever their thing might be.

WHAT TO BRING: You and your sexy ass (no farm animals, please). Whatever food and drink you might want for the evening. (No drugs other than alcohol please. We like our Playmates to be present and capable of connection.) If you’d like to share, that’s very nice. Sharing is caring. 🙂 Bring whatever sexy things you’d like to don and lounge in while we frolick or just throw on your regular weekend clothes or relaxation and chillin’. Bring along whatever safer sex accoutrements you desire (condoms, dental dams, gloves, toys, lube – whatever you might be needing to create that perrrrrfect evening). I have lots of supplies and toys, but only YOU know what YOU need. Oh, and please bring a Playful attitude and an open heart and mind.

PLEASE BE ON TIME. For participants to Play with abandon, we need to co-create a safe environment. Having people floating in and out makes that difficult. Therefore, the doors will lock at the time mentioned above, sharp. If you are running unavoidably late, call and we’ll see what we can do. But don’t run unavoidably late please. Looking forward to Playing with you!

Email or call Monique if you have any questions or concerns – 619-655-6877

Communication Mastery~How to Say What’s Not Being Said

Date: Sun, May 12
Time: 9am-Noon
Location: TBA, Calgary AB, Canada
Cost: $30
Reserve your spot NOW:

Sometimes all that is left is to scream your heart out… It seems that no matter what you say you’re not being heard. No matter how clearly you feel the truth that you are sharing, what ends up coming out of your mouth makes no sense to the other side. But it doesn’t have to be that way! Join us and learn how to transform your world and your relationships by learning how to communicate more masterfully!

Sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko will boil down more than 150,000 conversations he’s had about sex and relationships and walk us through his best thinking and advice on making sex, dating, relationships and mating work! He will share with all of us:

  • Communication Skills to “ask for what you want”
  • How to avoid past relationship mistake
  • A few of Reid’s “black belt” relationship tips and tricks!

Workshop facilitator extraordinaire Monique Darling will share tips and tricks from her journey of holding everything inside to finding the joy in sharing the most scary stuff first. Discovering that if the other person is still there, only then can your relationship truly begin.

Come and explore with us how to hold difficult conversations, understand the different love languages you and your loved ones might have as your filter of giving and receiving love, learn to communicate what’s not being said in a way that will empower and connect you with others better.

We will cover different modalities of communication verbal and non verbal.

Open to the possibility that as you unpeel the layers and reveal the tender heart inside, as you expose and share that which seems most unacceptable, that just maybe you will find yourself met with eyes of love, respect and understanding instead of the eyes of judgment you may fear. In this place we co-create a circle of true and limitless healing, as we make space together for all the messy bits and together marvel at the absolute beauty which resides in the authentic and unique you.

Give yourself the gift of permission to be. Permission to shed the heavy layers of what you have held back and stand empowered in your true and marvelous self.

Come as you are. Leave as all you may be.

Energetic Sex Practicum/Playday

Date: Sunday, May 12
Time: 1pm-6:30pm
Cost: Sexy $69

For those of you who have taken part 1, we are also offering you a completely experiential “lab” day in which Reid and I will offer suggestions and then you get to run with them! This day is for YOU to create, to explore, to dive deep, to ask questions while you are trying out and putting to use all of the tips, tricks and techniques you have been learning.

You MUST have come to Energetic Sex Part 1 to participate.

Some area’s we will encourage you to try and lightly facilitate you through are:

  • Helping you be more in tune with your lover during sex
  • Giving you ways to integrate your “woo woo” with practical and pragmatic ways to mix your passion and your knowledge into your bedroom activities
  • masterfully guiding you on a journey toward deeper pleasure and delight
  • group energetic play

Regardless of what belief system you subscribe to, our bodies are giving off signals, an these cues and clues can be read and tracked with practice, especially during sex! And in a world as uptight about sex and intimacy as ours, engaging these subtle and powerful energies and learning how to interact with them can transform people’s relationships to themselves and to each other.
As you practice and get more hands on experience with your partner/s you will begin to intensify your sensitivity and your ability to follow the moving of your partners’ sexual energy, learning how you can be completely in touch with the movement and vibrations of your partner’s arousal.

This experiential day is for those of you who learn by doing. The only limits as to what you can discover about you and your partners energetic ecstasy are those in which you put there. Let go play, discover, uncover, and dare to see how much pleasure you can really allow yourself. While having Reid and I there for back up, to amp things up, cool things off, allow you to let your “kite” truly soar, knowing we are there to help reel you in.

Expand the range of your sexual experience AND your ability to articulate it to “muggles” who’ve never felt their kundalini twitch or tapped into their own ecstatic potential!

This event is intended to be sensual, and energetically sexual, but not physically sexual. As such it will be done fully clothed. The last 1 hr and a half will be more explicit as we dive into Merging Body and Soul in Bed: Sex Ed Tips for the Spiritually and Yogic-ally Minded

With all the focus on holistic practices to weave the body, mind and soul, it’s rare anyone actually talks about the nuts and bolts of sex and how they apply to our various practices.

In training our bodies, disciplining our minds, and expanding our hearts, you’ve probably had teachers adjust our hip angle, make note of your breathing, or give you an illuminating tip on how to navigate your mind. With all the emphasis on holistic approaches and integration in our spiritual pursuits all too often no one talks pragmatically about the nuts and bolts of sex and lovemaking!

We’ve all experienced how a slight change of a few degrees in one area of the body can open up other areas tremendously. Don’t you think it’s about time someone showed you what adjustments you should be making in the bedroom?

Areas that will be covered:

  • The top five things your yoga or tantra teacher probably never told you about sex and love
  • The ergonomics of dynamic sex and what the Kama Sutra isn’t showing you…
  • Three ways to increase orgasmic energy that have nothing to do with breathing
  • How to give oral sex that would calm Kali or have Govinda consider settling down! 🙂
  • How to bring your energetic play over when you DO decide to get naked…

This part of the workshop is Rated-R/NC-17 and will feature frank language and explicit demonstrations when appropriate. Please bring all your questions and a notebook!

Bring a partner, find a partner there, switch partners, or experience the course on your own. Many options will be offered to support each individual experience.

If this sounds like a day of heaven to you grab your ticket right now as it is sure to sell out!

Remember, you must have taken Part 1, to participate in this Lab day.


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