Sexual Self-Confidence

Celebrating Birthdays, Embracing Boldness, and Walking Towards Authenticity

Would you do me a favor, SexGeek? It’s my birthday weekend and I want to extend a unique invitation to YOU—one that turns the tradition of birthday wishes on its head. You see, as the birthday boy, I’m using my special day as an excuse for YOU to ask for what YOU want. Consider it a […]

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Unleash the Beast with Monique and Reid

Are You Ready To Unleash the Beast?! Ready To Uncage Your Inner Primal Animal? Let Reid Mihalko and Monique Darling take you on a weeklong immersion into the deepest, naughtiest, most wanton, parts of your desire and passion. Do you contain your wants to keep from upsetting others? Have you been told that “you’re too […]

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Receptive Masculine? Penetrative Feminine? Are Those Even a Thing? 🍑 🌶️  👀

What Is “Receptive Masculine”? And How That Phrase Came Into Being… The Receptive Masculine is a term I first said in Virginia Beach at a tantra practitioners conference back 2008. I was slowly switching from being one of the faces of Cuddle Party (which just turned 18 years old last week, BTW!) to focusing more specifically on sex & […]

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I Wonder What To Bring If I Attend to Play Parties

  I Wonder What To Bring If I Attend to Play Parties     Cathy: What should I bring when I go to a play Party? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/   Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/ What do you bring Cathy?   Cathy: Uhmmm….  I usually …   Reid; Wait a minute! Is […]

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I Want To Have Sex With Both Men and Women, How Do I Do It Ethically?

I Want To Have Sex With Both Men and Women, How Do I Do It Ethically?       Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “I’m a guy who has had sex with women for my entire life but I think I’m gay or bi. How do I ethically have sex with both men and […]

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As A Plus-Sized Women, How Do I Handle Pressures and Insecurities?

As A Plus-Sized Women, How Do I Handle Pressures and Insecurities? Cathy: So someone wrote in and said, “It would have been nice it would be nice to hear from Reid about any pressures he might feel about living up to expectations because on the surface he fits them all of what society deems attractive […]

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VIRTUAL Blowjob Grad School

You’ve learned the basics… Now it’s time to get your masters in the advanced tricks, and leave with your PhD in Fellatio! And Do It Without Ever Leaving Your Home! If you… Would like to take your current skills and craft to Jedi levels… Ask questions and get advanced-level tips and tricks… Leave your loved ones stammering, […]

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I Put My Dick In And She Screamed, What Do I Do When She Says Stop?

I Put My Dick In And She Screamed, What Do I Do When She Says Stop?             Cathy: So this might be somewhat trigerring question but I think it’s really important to answer. Someone wrote in and said I put my dick in a pussy and she screamed, what do […]

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Reid’s Safer Sex Elevator Speech – UPGRADED for Your P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E.

Many people find it difficult to have a safer sex conversation because no one ever taught us how! I use the P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E. acronym to help me recall each of the Safer Sex Elevator Speech’s 8 steps…

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How Can You Emotionally Support Yourself As You Transitioning Your Sexuality?

When your sexual identity is shifting how do you emotionally support yourself? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: How do you support yourself when you’re transforming your sexuality?  Reid: Into what?  Cathy: Into something new, whether you’re leaving kink or entering kink or exploring poly or might be gay or […]

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