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These upcoming events may be in-person events or virtual. Virtual events tend to be recorded, so sign up and play catch-up! Two ** in the event listing indicates that it’s designed for Sex Educators. Some events have tiered ticket pricing and scholarships available. Please see the registration page for info!

Welcome to 2023’s Events…

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Would you like to expand the range of your ENERGETIC sxxual experience?
Turn YOUR life into an orgasmic playground that doesn’t have to look anything like “sxx”…
Learn to get in touch with your own energetic field, manipulate it, and turn it into a powerful source of connection and bliss.
Discover how and where to touch another to tune into, access, tease and play with their erotic energy, the energy of two people, or the energy of an entire group!

Let us show you our tools, tips and tricks for unlocking your stuck sxxual energy
AND of course Monique’s Infamous creation… the “Heart Fuck!”
This workshop is Rated-PG13/R, will feature frank (and humorous!) language, fully-clothed demonstrations, and participation is not required. Please bring all your questions and a notebook!
Bring a partner, find a partner there, switch partners, or experience the course on your own. Many options will be offered to support each individual experience.

Next up Let Monique, Reid, and Peter lead you through a welcome circle where a room of strangers slowly opens up and winds up on the same page, having the opportunity to be seen, heard, and understood in ways maybe you have never even imagined!!

Date and time
Fri, February 10, 2023, 7:30 PM – 11:30 PM CST

Register and find out more about the event HERE
Spread the word on Facebook HERE


Friday night NOT enough for you?! Spend the entire weekend – Friday thru Sunday – with Reid, Monique & Peter!

Are you energy sensitive? Can life on planet earth be a roller coaster of epic proportions? Do you feel A LOT, and have you been labeled “high maintenance” or “too this” or “too that?” All too often those that are more attuned to the energy all around them are left with the feeling that they are alone, that they are “crazy” and that no one else could understand. How would it feel to know that there are more of us out here than you can possibly imagine? A tribe waiting to connect and play in this magical field that we have innate access to?

Your hosts have been playing in the infinite realms of energy our entire lives, (probably for many lifetimes 😉 ) and everywhere we go people are asking what is Energetic Sxx?

We hold a space where your feelings are 100% welcomed, because on the other side of all of your emotions is the bliss of your being where you can ride waves of energetic currents and possibilities. By FEELING all of your emotions, you are able to fully allow life-force energy to flow through your entire body and expand your capacity for greater pleasure. This special Weekend hosted by the incredible Mia, will dive into all of this and SO much more!!!

Be ready to discover a clear path for tapping into your natural abilities for creating the life you desire where all of you is celebrated. We will be using our sxxual energy to claim and allow these desires to come alive in the world (sxx magic).
Come share YOU and allow the community to help amplify your truth!

Here are some benefits you will receive through this deep and playful gathering:

  • Play with the Aliveness of your body!
  • Anchor an ability to transform life into an orgasmic playground way beyond traditional sxx
  • Deepen your connection to your own energetic field
  • More unconditional Self Love and Acceptance
  • Strengthen and hone your skills to engage and play energetically solo and one-on-one
  • Understand and speak your boundaries
  • Release shame and old stories that don’t serve you
  • Claim your right to sxxual pleasure and passion
  • Communication skills that encourage asking for what you want
  • Meditation, Experiential, FEEL…..Integrate and Anchor

Date and time
Fri, Feb 10, 2023, 7:30 PM (evening session); Sat– Sun, Feb 11-12, 2023, 11:00am-5:00 PM CST both days

Register and find out more about the event HERE

Spread the word on Facebook HERE


All Gender Temple Party w/ a touch of Kink w/ Reid, Peter, & Monique

This is an experiential party for the sensually adventurous. This special evening welcomes ALL and is very gender friendly. This is an invitation to dive deeply into yourself and each other in ways you may have been afraid to do in the past. This is the party you want to come to even if you’ve never been to one before. We create an expansive, feeling-full environment charged with electricity, yet warmly grounded and earthy.

Date and time
Sat, February 11, 2023, 7:30 PM – 11:30 PM CST

Register and find out more about the event HERE
Facebook Invite – HERE> – tell your friends!

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Are You Ready To Unleash the Beast?! Up Your Sexual Self-Confidence & Uncage Your Inner Primal Animal? – Let Reid Mihalko and Monique Darling take you on a weeklong immersion into the deepest, naughtiest, most wanton, parts of your desire and passion. (And give you skills to pass that knowledge on to your lovers!)

Come join us for this week-long exploration if you’re ready to dive deep where you will:

  • Discover how to explore sxx and intimacy with the least amount of drama and the most amount of pleasure by unlocking your sxxual self-expression and erotic creativity.
  • Unlearn the fallacy that your partner must be equally as excited for you to be able to ask for the sxx you want.
  • Overcome the worry that people are always saying yes to things they don’t want, and reframe how you and your loved ones can be a yes to what YOU want without it backfiring in your face or used against you later.
  • And much more…

Ticket and & Registration Info HERE
Spread the word on Facebook HERE.


After years of people asking for a facilitator training based solely on Energetic Sxx, it’s finally here!!!

In this 7-day Facilitator Intensive, Reid Mihalko, Monique Darling and Peter Petersen will be inviting you on an in-depth and lovingly guided exploration of energy in and around your body. Walk away with your own level 1 certification to offer Energy Sxx your way!

Drawing on decades of experience of living, teaching, and playing in the multiverse of energetic realms, these three internationally-renown teachers are bringing it all together!

We are selecting and curating the juiciest, the most divine, the most potent experiences we have learned over our lifetimes into these 7 days.

Ticket and & Registration Info HERE
Spread the word on Facebook HERE.

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Can YOU Say 350ft Slip ‘N Slide In 2023?

Are you a sex educator, workshop leader, toy blogger, Tantra teacher, therapist, sex worker, burlesque performer, coach (or someone whose career falls under the sex-positive entrepreneur umbrella?)…

If you need some R&R and want to nerd out on how to build a more successful business helping people… Then Sex Geek Summer Camp is for YOU!

Celebrating our 7th IN-PERSON Camp this June 17th-21st, 2023, in Portland, Oregon!!!!!

Make new friends and geek out on the business behind the business of sex ed + a 350-ft Slip ‘N Slide + S’mores!!!! What are you waiting for?!

Visit for more info and to secure your seat at the only 5-day/4-night business, marketing, and networking camp specifically for sex-positive professionals!


These offerings are “evergreen,” meaning you can nerd out on them and start solving your problems and upping your sexual self-confidence anytime! Please join us…

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ICYMI… Get Your FREE Jealousy Map!

Did you know that jealousy is an octopus with 8 arms? 🐙 And that each arm points to clues that will lead YOU to defeating the green-eyed monster that’s wreaking so much pain and havoc in our lives!

Use this link so I can send you your free Jealousy Map —

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Feeling insecure about developing sexual friendships?
Do you find yourself falling in love too soon? Attaching to the wrong people?
Have you heard of Attachment Theory and suspect it might be wreaking havoc on your love life?
If you want to frolic with more grace, love, respect, and loads of pleasure this year…

Join educators (and self-identified sluts) Misha Bonaventura & Reid Mihalko and OVER 200+ amazing, like-minded humans for a 5-week, learn-at-your-own-pace, video series exploring how we sometimes “fall in love too soon,” why we sometimes form premature attachments to others, and what we can do to make healthier, more conscious choices! Come nerd out on attachment styles & the unique ways we fall in love (not everyone falls in love the same way, BTW!) so we can foster healthier, more conscious relationships!

From Premature Attachment To Slut Secure covers:

  • Week 1: I Like You, Now What?
  • Week 2: Dealing with Relationship Escalation Creep
  • Week 3: Finding & Falling Into Security
  • Week 4: Creating An Open Embrace
  • Week 5: Being SECURE, No Matter What!

Misha and Reid want you to have all the amazing & yummy things you’re wishing for in the New Year. Have all the sex, have all the friendships, and have all the love with all the ease. Mitigate the hard feelings, the presumptions, the premature attachment woes as you hone and celebrate your sex & intimacy superpowers!

Access all recordings, worksheets, and the Slut Secure Community Forum for $197!
See the whole event breakdown and register HERE.

Comes with Reid’s 30-Day, Money-Back, Happiness Guarantee.


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Test-Drive working with Reid every month (PLUS, get immediate accessing to over $197-worth of relationship and sexual self-confidence building training videos) for Reid’s special $1 Trial Offer!


These are events that have been booked out far in advance, just in case you are someone who likes to plan like that AND sometimes get a deal on early-bird pricing!

No In-Advanced Events Scheduled Yet. Please Check Back Later…

That Have Been Recorded…

Just because you missed it, doesn’t mean you can’t participate! Purchase access to the recordings and bonuses NOW…

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Get lifetime access to Dating Your Species for just $47. Watch the videos, do the worksheets, learn how to avoid the Venn Diagram of Misery and start Dating Your Species!
CLICK HERE for more info.
Comes with Reid’s 30-Day, No-Risk, Money-Back Guarantee: Test-drive all the course materials for an entire month! If you learn nothing, just ask for your money back within 30-days and receive a full refund.

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Blowjob Grad School, the workshop

Get lifetime access to Bj Grad School — the videos, the handout — for just $47!
Click HERE for more info.
Comes with Reid’s 30-Day, No-Risk, Money-Back Guarantee: Test-drive all the course materials for an entire month! If you learn nothing, just ask for your money back within 30-days and receive a full refund.

**Offerings for Sex Educators,
Therapists, Workshop Facilitators,
and the Sex-Ed Adjacent…

Wanting To Give Up Being a Sex Educator? —

This FREE CALL for YOU Can Help…

Are you in or adjacent to the sex education field and wondering if being in sex ed is even relevant anymore? We’re feeling it, too, so let’s get together and nerd out on why our work is SO DAMN IMPORTANT and what we can do to avoid falling into a well of existential crisis, get re-inspired, and prevent burning out.

When: NOW! The call replay awaits you!!!

Register to get the replay access link sent to your inbox ASAP! —

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Attn: Educators! Reach More People, Help More People, Attract More Paying Clients…

Join Cathy of, Reid of, and some amazing sex educators for 2-days of recorded classes focusing on creating (and actually implementing) your very own kick-ass freemium! Help those in need while you build your credibility as an educator and turn the curious into clients!

More info and course registration HERE >>
Sign-Up for the FREE training on How To Give Good Freemium HERE >>

ICYMI… **ATTN: Event Producers, Educators, Workshop Leaders & Performers Who Want To Run In-Person Events in 2022…

What would YOU do if you were running an in-person event with 150 people? How about 70-THOUSAND people? (Yes, that says 70,000!) 👀 👀 👀 Looking to run LIVE, in-person events in 2022? Free discussion panel on live event protocols from educators who ran 150-to-70K ppl events this summer… Hear what worked, what didn’t, what they’re tweaking for next year! ❤ Register to get the replay links…

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Sarah schwab October 10, 2012 at 12:45 pm

Reid, I would like to sign up for your calendar. I missed your work shop last weekend here in Denver but I am interested in finding out where your next one will be. Last night in Denver you were awesome and “eye opening!!” – I’ve been with my husband for 13 years and three kids later we could both use some tips to keep it interesting… I walked away with a we-vib but I’m sure there is more we can learn/ do.


Reid June 11, 2013 at 1:13 pm

The easiest ways to see where I’m teaching, Sarah, are to sign up for my newsletter announcements ( and to follow my FB Fan Page – – and my Twitter account –

Thanks for the comment. Sorry for the delayed response.

Yours in sex geekery,


Lucien Vattel December 28, 2012 at 12:47 am

Would like the calendar of events Reid!
met at Mindshare.



Dorothy January 2, 2013 at 1:02 pm

Would be interested in attending a seminar or workshop.


Reid June 11, 2013 at 1:07 pm

The easiest ways to see where I’m teaching, Dorothy, are to sign up for my newsletter announcements ( and to follow my FB Fan Page – – and my Twitter account –

Hope to meet you one day!



Miriam December 13, 2013 at 3:28 am


I was wondering if you’ll be going to Australia anytime “soon”



Reid December 18, 2013 at 2:19 pm

Someday, Miriam! If you know of any organizations who want to lure me Down Under, let them know to reach out to me via this website! I’d love to be an International Sex Geek! Thanks for writing, Miriam. xxREiD


bea of san luis obispo December 18, 2013 at 2:36 am

Monique says you will be in Vegas for Valentine’s weekend. Whats the event? I get your newsletter but haven’t seen it. Thanks, bea


Reid December 18, 2013 at 2:18 pm

The Vegas event is called Relationship10x LIVE or R10x LIVE for short, Bea! You can sign-up for free informational videos and learn more about R10x LIVE here: Join me in Las Vegas for Valentine’s!


Bridget May 28, 2014 at 4:51 am

I just “discovered” you- and have been watching and reading everything I can. I’m much more of a mess than I was aware – I had all but 2 of the jealousy triggers and I’m feeling stuck in the Victorian era to boot. I don’t even want to go into detail about my “relationship” here. Help!
I need a one on one with you!


Reid August 25, 2014 at 2:47 pm

Bridget! You can get all the info on coaching here: – let me know how I can help! 🙂


Laurence McGrath May 11, 2019 at 10:36 pm

So when you coming to Michigan? A very proud of you McGrath wants to thank you!


Heather July 25, 2019 at 10:14 am

Are you doing a workshop in Calgary anytime soon ?


Reid October 4, 2019 at 11:19 am

Hey, Heather! I’m scheming to come back up to Canada in the New Year. Go to and download the Safer Sex Elevator Speech P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E. Acronym sheet, which will also add you to my email list! Win-Win!


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