Looking for Anti-Racism Resources? Just in case you’re looking for resources that might help you and your loved ones around unlearning and learning around systemic oppression, police violence, and anti-racism work here are three links I found invaluable for my journey. Please share, and deep gratitude to all the people who contributed to the making of these resources… Scaffolded Anti-Racist Resources, National Resource List, and the Social Justice Love Languages.

On this page, you’ll find the following:

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These upcoming events may be in-person events or virtual. Virtual events tend to be recorded, so sign up and play catch-up! Two ** in the event listing indicates that it’s designed for Sex Educators & Sex-Positive Entreprenures. Some events have tiered ticket pricing and scholarships available. Please click the links to see the registration pages for more info!

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This year in November will be our 10th annual Facilitator Intensive (information on that event further down on this page) – find out why we sell out every year!!!

Every year we gather a multitude of truly extraordinary Facilitators from around the globe, to offer their greatest skills, tips, tricks, and mistakes, to upcoming facilitators.

This year we are doing a series of Zoom calls introducing the teachers for this 8-day-long event. First up is Reid! This is the first Zoom call of many, come back each day and meet all the teachers!!! He will share about finding your moral compass and following your integrity in facilitating.

Reid’s zoom will be Monday, July 22 at 11 am PST. Register to get the Zoom link, password and recording afterwards. Get Your Tickets & More Info HERE – Tell your friends!

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Dr. Alison Ash vs. Reid Mihalko

What better way to learn practical sex education that you can actually use when you get home than to watch two sex educators go head-to-head and reveal their best bedroom moves?

If you were a big fan of “I’ll show you mine, if you show me yours” as a kid, or you always wished there was a reality show called “Shagging With the Stars,” then this workshop might be for you. Tell your friends. Bring a date. Bring a notebook, too, while you’re at it!

When: Thu Aug 12024 7:00 PM – 9:30 PM
Where: Private venue in Oakland, CA (address listed on ticket)
Get Your Tickets & More Info HERE – Hurry, before we sell out!

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SUN, AUG 4th — ORAL SEX GRAD SCHOOL with Dr Alison Ash and Reid Mihalko

You’ve learned the basics…now it’s time to get your advanced education, and leave with your PhD in Oral Sex!

Would you like to take your current craft & skills to Jedi levels? Want to ask those nagging questions and get advanced-level tips and tricks for giving and receiving oral that leaves your loved ones stammering, “h-h-How did you do THAT?!”

Let sex and relationship educators Reid Mihalko of and Dr. Alison Ash of be your Head Deans (see what we did there?!) and give you your PhD in oral so you can give and/or receive mind-blowing blowjobs, cunnilingus, and analingus that leaves you and your lovers feeling satisfied, confident, and glowing with appreciation!

When: Sun Aug 42024 1:00 PM – 4:30 PM
Where: East Bay Community Space, 507 55th St, 94609
Get Your Tickets & More Info HERE – Tell your friends!

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Join Reid for Polytopia, Sex Positive Portland’s annual three-day-weekend exploration of polyamory! Held this year for the first time since 2019, this intimate event is limited to just 100 attendees, ensuring a cozy and connected experience. Grab your tickets before they sell out.

Reid will be teaching Dating Your Species and then going head-to-head against Allison Moon, author of Girl Sex 101, Bad Dyke, and Getting It, in the edutaining & electrifying Sex Educator Show Down (with LIVE demos)!!!

When: Aug 23-25, 2024
Where: Jupiter Hotel in Portland, OR
Tickets: Learn More and Get Your Tickets HERE.

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Speed Flirting & All Gender Temple Party w/Reid & Monique

We are starting out our temple party a little different this time, the first 45 mins will be for speed flirting, make sure you arrive by 7:30 to participate…

This is an experiential party for the sensually adventurous. This special evening welcomes ALL and is very gender friendly. This is an invitation to dive deeply into yourself and each other in ways you may have been afraid to do in the past. This is the party you want to come to even if you’ve never been to one before. We create an expansive, feeling-full environment charged with electricity, yet warmly grounded and earthy.

These events always sell out, so grab your spot now…

Date and time
Fri, Aug 30, 2024, 7:00 PM – 11:45 PM

Register and find out more about the event HERE
Facebook Invite – HERE> – tell your friends!


Get ready to embark on a thrilling adventure into the realm of energy interplay with Reid Mihalko, Monique and Peter! If you’ve ever felt like life’s a wild ride, labeled as “too much,” or “high maintenance,” fear not, you’re among friends. Join us as we uncover the hidden tribe of energy-sensitive souls, eagerly awaiting to connect and revel in the magic of our innate abilities.

Throughout our journey, we’ve traversed the boundless landscapes of energetic intimacy, and now, dear friend, it’s your turn to join the dance. Discover the ecstasy of your being by embracing every emotion, letting life-force energy flow freely through your veins. This weekend promises an exhilarating voyage of self-discovery, where you’ll unlock your innate powers, deepen your connection to your energetic essence, and reclaim your divine right to pleasure and passion. So, buckle up and get ready to transform your life into a playground of cosmic delight, surrounded by our vibrant community of kindred spirits!

Date and time
Sat, Aug 31, 2024, 12:00 PM – 5:30 PM

Register and find out more about the event HERE

Spread the word on Facebook HERE


Come join 3 tantrikas at play, and Immerse yourself in a realm of conscious sensuality, erotic exploration of the senses, and deep reverent connection as you embrace the five elements…

What does “temple party” mean? In short, it is whatever it means to you. We attach the word ‘sacred’ to any practice, experience, or way-of-being that slows us down and deepens our experience of being alive. Our sensuality/sxxuality are a manifestation and expression-of our vital life-force and creative energy. It can play, move, and be shared and enjoyed in many ways. You are invited to co-create whatever feeds your soul.

This is the party you want to come to if you’ve never been AND this is the party you want to come to if you want to experience how to take generating safe play space for you and your loved ones to the next level.

Date and time
SAT, AUG 21, 2024 AT 7:00 PM – 11:45 PM

Register and find out more about the event HERE
Facebook Invite – HERE> – tell your friends!

Event Banner. Erotic Massage Secrets with Monique Darling, Peter Petersen & Reid Mihalko. Learn skills to enhance sensitivity, increase orgasmic potency, and touch beyond the body!


Would you like to learn touch that goes beyond the body and activates the connection to energy and spirit?… Treating the body as a temple and bringing in the sacredness of touch and connection?… Erotic touch that activates the pleasure centers of your body?

Unlock your inner sacred erotic self and discover the joy of ‘BEING’ pleasure. Learn the temple arts of tantric touch whilst being in a safe & held space for exploration. Bring your curiosity and drop into this evening workshop where we will explore how to give and receive Erotic tantric touch with your partner. (Or be paired up with other participants in different erotic touch practices)

Everyone will have the opportunity to learn specific skills to enhance sensitivity, increase orgasmic potency and bring you closer in relationship to pleasure and your body.

The workshop will last 4 hours – with the opportunity for everyone to receive & give different erotic touch and tantric massage.

Date and time
SUN, SEP 1, 2024 AT 4:00 PM – 9:30 PM

Register and find out more about the event HERE
Spread the word on Facebook HERE

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Event Banner for Destination 3-Day Play Party Extravaganza: New Orleans! Demos. Dancing and Debauchery... day temple immersion in a magical space in the middle of New Orleans. Sept 1h-16th. Headshots of Monique, Reid, Peter, and Major in the bottom-right corner. The background is one of the famous streets in New Orleans.


Join Monique, Reid, Peter, and special guest star Major for a transformative 3-day temple immersion in the vibrant city of New Orleans! Experience pleasure, connection, and exploration through erotic demos, dancing, and delightful debauchery. Immerse yourself in a safe and magical space where all genders, bodies, and orientations are celebrated.

Indulge in instructional classes, kink exploration, and sensual touch practices. Enjoy sexy positive discussions over delicious meals, midnight snacks, and plenty of refreshments to keep you energized. Participate in welcome circles, play spaces, and non-sexual areas for meditation and relaxation.

Embark on field trips to heated pools and hot tubs, engage in Qigong and dance sessions, and join in on authentic relating games led by experienced facilitators. With a supportive emotional team and plenty of free time to explore, this is your chance to live fully expressed and sensual life. Don’t miss out on this extraordinary event in one of the world’s most soulful cities!

Ticket and & Registration Info HERE
Spread the word on Facebook HERE.

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Event Banner for the California Tantra Festival. Including discount code Reid10


Use Code REID10 to get 10% off your ticket!

Ready to transform your life and relationships? Join Reid at the Awaken as Love Tantra Festival in California, where you’ll be surrounded by nature, indulging in organic delights, and learning from top-notch facilitators. Over five days, dive deep into creating more intimacy, excitement, and bliss. Celebrate, connect, and equip yourself with tools to bring these powerful changes back into your daily life. Let’s embark on this transformative journey together – click the links below to learn more and join us in this celebration of love and life!

Use Code REID10 to get 10% off your ticket!
Ticket and & Registration Info HERE
Spread the word on Facebook HERE.

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Event Banner for the 10th annual Transformational Intensive for extraordinary facilitators. Transform your work. Uplevel your life. November 1 - 8, 2024. Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. 8 day, 10 instructors. The background for this text is a beach at sunset. Headshots of all 9 presenters are on the left and right sides of the flyer. Clockwise from top left: Monique Darling, Peter Petersen, Reid Mihalko, Major Tom, Dave Booda, Cathy Vartuli, Nikki, Lindbergh, Cathleene Cienfuegos, Shawn Roof, and Lawrence Lanoff.


Eight Days, Ten Instructors! — Join Reid, Monique Darling, Peter Peterson and a host of their favorite teachers for a weeklong deep dive into taking your teaching and facilitation abilities to the next level!

It’s our tenth year, and each one gets better and better!!
This year its in a little slice of heaven, Cabo San Lucas… Beach view Accommodations plus a rooftop with stunning 360 view! It is 8 days, with 10 extraordinary facilitators, and we are opening registration for just 18 attendees. Every year we have sold out!!!
This is the greatest creative inspiration Peter and Monique have ever created. It’s a culmination of their life’s work thus far.
We have spent the last 9 years now traveling the world learning and practicing these tools and now I want to share them with you. So many of you have asked for the steps, for a training to be able to do what we do, well I’m going to offer you one better…. we are going to offer you an intensive, a “Monique & Peter Boot Camp” if you will, with myself and some other extraordinary facilitators, to help you find out what’s in the way of you being able to offer your greatest gift to the world, to your clients, workshop attendees, partners, and every aspect of your life. Always remember YOU! You are the gift!!

Read the more about fabulous event and which teachers will be teaching via either link below…

Ticket & Registration Info HERE
Spread the word oFacebook HERE.


These are events that have been booked out far in advance, just in case you are someone who likes to plan like that AND sometimes get a deal on early-bird pricing!

Stay tuned for waaaaay in advance events popping up here soon…


These offerings are “evergreen,” meaning you can nerd out on them and start solving your problems and upping your sexual self-confidence anytime! Please join us…

Banner. Which of the 8 arms of jealousy kicks your ass the most?
Link to grab your free Jealousy Map —

ICYMI… Get Your FREE Jealousy Map!

Did you know that jealousy is an octopus with 8 arms? 🐙 And that each arm points to clues that will lead YOU to defeating the green-eyed monster that’s wreaking so much pain and havoc in our lives!

Use this link so I can send you your free Jealousy Map —

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Feeling insecure about developing sexual friendships?
Do you find yourself falling in love too soon? Attaching to the wrong people?
Have you heard of Attachment Theory and suspect it might be wreaking havoc on your love life?
If you want to frolic with more grace, love, respect, and loads of pleasure this year…

Join educators (and self-identified sluts) Misha Bonaventura & Reid Mihalko and OVER 200+ amazing, like-minded humans for a 5-week, learn-at-your-own-pace, video series exploring how we sometimes “fall in love too soon,” why we sometimes form premature attachments to others, and what we can do to make healthier, more conscious choices! Come nerd out on attachment styles & the unique ways we fall in love (not everyone falls in love the same way, BTW!) so we can foster healthier, more conscious relationships!

From Premature Attachment To Slut Secure covers:

  • Week 1: I Like You, Now What?
  • Week 2: Dealing with Relationship Escalation Creep
  • Week 3: Finding & Falling Into Security
  • Week 4: Creating An Open Embrace
  • Week 5: Being SECURE, No Matter What!

Misha and Reid want you to have all the amazing & yummy things you’re wishing for in the New Year. Have all the sex, have all the friendships, and have all the love with all the ease. Mitigate the hard feelings, the presumptions, the premature attachment woes as you hone and celebrate your sex & intimacy superpowers!

Access all recordings, worksheets, and the Slut Secure Community Forum for $197!
See the whole event breakdown and register HERE.

Comes with Reid’s 30-Day, Money-Back, Happiness Guarantee.


That Have Been Recorded…

Just because you missed it, doesn’t mean you can’t participate! Purchase access to the recordings and bonuses NOW…

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Get lifetime access to Dating Your Species for just $47. Watch the videos, do the worksheets, learn how to avoid the Venn Diagram of Misery and start Dating Your Species!
CLICK HERE for more info.
Comes with Reid’s 30-Day, No-Risk, Money-Back Guarantee: Test-drive all the course materials for an entire month! If you learn nothing, just ask for your money back within 30-days and receive a full refund.

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Blowjob Grad School, the workshop

Get lifetime access to Bj Grad School — the videos, the handout — for just $47!
Click HERE for more info.
Comes with Reid’s 30-Day, No-Risk, Money-Back Guarantee: Test-drive all the course materials for an entire month! If you learn nothing, just ask for your money back within 30-days and receive a full refund.

**Offerings for Sex Educators,
Therapists, Workshop Facilitators,
and the Sex-Ed Adjacent…

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Attn: Educators! Reach More People, Help More People, Attract More Paying Clients…

Join Cathy of, Reid of, and some amazing sex educators for 2-days of recorded classes focusing on creating (and actually implementing) your very own kick-ass freemium! Help those in need while you build your credibility as an educator and turn the curious into clients!

More info and course registration HERE >>
Sign-Up for the FREE training on How To Give Good Freemium HERE >>

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Sarah schwab October 10, 2012 at 12:45 pm

Reid, I would like to sign up for your calendar. I missed your work shop last weekend here in Denver but I am interested in finding out where your next one will be. Last night in Denver you were awesome and “eye opening!!” – I’ve been with my husband for 13 years and three kids later we could both use some tips to keep it interesting… I walked away with a we-vib but I’m sure there is more we can learn/ do.


Reid June 11, 2013 at 1:13 pm

The easiest ways to see where I’m teaching, Sarah, are to sign up for my newsletter announcements ( and to follow my FB Fan Page – – and my Twitter account –

Thanks for the comment. Sorry for the delayed response.

Yours in sex geekery,


Lucien Vattel December 28, 2012 at 12:47 am

Would like the calendar of events Reid!
met at Mindshare.



Dorothy January 2, 2013 at 1:02 pm

Would be interested in attending a seminar or workshop.


Reid June 11, 2013 at 1:07 pm

The easiest ways to see where I’m teaching, Dorothy, are to sign up for my newsletter announcements ( and to follow my FB Fan Page – – and my Twitter account –

Hope to meet you one day!



Miriam December 13, 2013 at 3:28 am


I was wondering if you’ll be going to Australia anytime “soon”



Reid December 18, 2013 at 2:19 pm

Someday, Miriam! If you know of any organizations who want to lure me Down Under, let them know to reach out to me via this website! I’d love to be an International Sex Geek! Thanks for writing, Miriam. xxREiD


bea of san luis obispo December 18, 2013 at 2:36 am

Monique says you will be in Vegas for Valentine’s weekend. Whats the event? I get your newsletter but haven’t seen it. Thanks, bea


Reid December 18, 2013 at 2:18 pm

The Vegas event is called Relationship10x LIVE or R10x LIVE for short, Bea! You can sign-up for free informational videos and learn more about R10x LIVE here: Join me in Las Vegas for Valentine’s!


Bridget May 28, 2014 at 4:51 am

I just “discovered” you- and have been watching and reading everything I can. I’m much more of a mess than I was aware – I had all but 2 of the jealousy triggers and I’m feeling stuck in the Victorian era to boot. I don’t even want to go into detail about my “relationship” here. Help!
I need a one on one with you!


Reid August 25, 2014 at 2:47 pm

Bridget! You can get all the info on coaching here: – let me know how I can help! 🙂


Laurence McGrath May 11, 2019 at 10:36 pm

So when you coming to Michigan? A very proud of you McGrath wants to thank you!


Heather July 25, 2019 at 10:14 am

Are you doing a workshop in Calgary anytime soon ?


Reid October 4, 2019 at 11:19 am

Hey, Heather! I’m scheming to come back up to Canada in the New Year. Go to and download the Safer Sex Elevator Speech P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E. Acronym sheet, which will also add you to my email list! Win-Win!


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