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Myth Busting: “Keeping It Casual” = You Don’t Care

The Common Misconception:“Keep It Casual” Automatically Means “Not Caring” How many times have you (or someone you know) started dating someone with whom you clicked, only to find yourself madly in love with them ASAP… And then, a year later, find yourselves mad at each other and no longer in love? (And still emotionally attached […]

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Breathing Easier Equals Heavey Breathing This Valentine’s 💘

A Box of Chocolates Is Soooooo Pre-Pandemic… Greetings from Lisbon, Sex Geek! My partner (and author of Girl Sex 101), Allison Moon, and I are on a long-overdue vacation in Portugal. (Allison LOVES seafood, by the way, and last year, after we got vaccinated, Allison snatched up some super low-priced tickets to Portugal so we’d have something […]

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Midlife Crisis, Anyone?

Midlife Crisis, Anyone? 🏖️ I’ve taken up kitesurfing in Mexico! Is it the Pandemic? A midlife crisis? Both? It might be both — the pandemic seems NEVER ending, and I am about to turn 54 at the end of January… However; I also think I’m finally harnessing my sex geeky learning skills to exert some […]

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How To Figure Out Your Specific Needs When You Feel Ashamed of Them?

  How To Figure Out Your Specific Needs When You Feel Ashamed of them?   Cathy: Someone wrote it and said, “How do you go about finding out what your specific needs are when you feel ashamed for needing things at all from anybody else? For example I don’t feel comfortable with asking for a […]

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How To Avoid Procrastination On That Great Workshop Idea?

  How To Avoid Procrastination On That Great Workshop Idea? Cathy: Have you ever had a great idea for a workshop but you kept procrastinating and struggling with it maybe because it meant so much to you, you’re afraid you wouldn’t get it right? This is Reid Mihalko from https://reidaboutsex.com/   Reid: Cathy Vartuli from […]

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As A Plus-Sized Women, How Do I Handle Pressures and Insecurities?

As A Plus-Sized Women, How Do I Handle Pressures and Insecurities? Cathy: So someone wrote in and said, “It would have been nice it would be nice to hear from Reid about any pressures he might feel about living up to expectations because on the surface he fits them all of what society deems attractive […]

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A Few Resources on Power Dynamics…

An area that often gets overlooked in relationship and sex education is the area of individual/institutional power dynamics and how they impact relationships. This is an area that I was sorely lacking understanding in, but as I continue to journey further down the rabbit hole, slowly developing more awareness and understanding, I would be remiss if I didn’t shout from the rooftops, “Learning how power dynamics are impacting your relationships changes everything!”

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Reid’s Safer Sex Elevator Speech – UPGRADED for Your P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E.

Many people find it difficult to have a safer sex conversation because no one ever taught us how! I use the P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E. acronym to help me recall each of the Safer Sex Elevator Speech’s 8 steps…

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Safer Sex: E is for Essentials About Me

Use your safer sex/STI status conversation as building blocks towards creating a sexy, satisfying win-win by including an Essentials About Me segment! In my Safer Sex Elevator Speech post, I share my favorite way to have a safer sex , STD/STI status conversation. I use the P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E. acronym to help remind me of each step. […]

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Sexual Freedom Scholarship Contest: Woodhull Freedom Summit and Sex Geek Summer Camp!

And The Contest Winners Are… See all the wonderfully inspiring entries below, along with our winners! Prepare to be inspired, moved to tears, and touched by what sexual freedom means to these amazing people who participated in this year’s Sexual Freedom Contest… Many, many thanks to everyone who participated and gave support! And huge appreciation […]

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