Reid visits the Sexploration with Monika Podcast to Talk Conscious, Sexy Threesome and Embracing the Awkward
You Can Have a Conscious, Sexy Threesome By Embracing the Awkward – ft. Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com
Monica hosts sex educator Reid Mihalko in a tree house outside Portland, Oregon, to discuss how to make threesomes conscious, less awkward, and more fun. Reid shares key principles from his “Negotiating Successful Threesomes” class, including defining what “success” means, deciding whether to play with people you know or strangers, and seeking partners who have already had successful threesomes. They emphasize expanding what counts as sex, going slow, and reducing pressure by “putting more crayons in the crayon box.” Reid explains safer-sex communication, testing, and harm-reduction strategies, and offers his Embrace the Awkward Formula for starting when things get quiet. They also cover check-ins/timeouts, handling jealousy or feeling left out, not forcing sex, and damage control when a threesome goes sideways, plus where to find Reid’s resources and calendar.
Listen to the podcast episode here:
- The Sexploration with Monika Podcast website:
- https://sexplorationwithmonika.libsyn.com/you-can-have-a-conscious-sexy-threesome-by-embracing-the-awkward-ft-reid-mihalko-of-reidaboutsexcom
- Apple:
- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-can-have-a-conscious-sexy-threesome-by/id473568290?i=1000767273757
Resources from the Episode:
- The Embrace The Awkward Formula – https://ReidAboutSex.com/awkward
- The Safer Sex Elevator Speech — https://ReidAboutSex.com/elevator
- Reid’s Online Store for Negotiating Successful Threesomes + MORE sex geeky classes! – https://ReidAboutSex.com/kajabi-store
- Reid’s calendar — https://ReidAboutSex.com/calendar
Episode Timestamps:
- 00:00 Welcome and Guests
- 02:10 Why Threesomes Feel Awkward
- 04:41 Defining Threesome Success
- 06:34 Known vs Strangers
- 07:29 Find Experienced Partners
- 08:06 Poly vs Swinging Needs
- 13:07 Expand What Counts
- 15:50 Safer Sex Talk
- 17:23 Starting the Action
- 18:05 Embrace the Awkward
- 18:56 Trigger Phrase Setup
- 19:19 Make a Clear Ask
- 20:40 Melt List Ideas
- 22:09 Help Them Start
- 23:21 Speed Orgy Story
- 24:39 Check Ins and Timeouts
- 26:42 Pivot When Off
- 28:53 Feeling Left Out
- 30:17 Jealousy and Performance
- 31:45 Mediocre Is Fine
- 32:56 Damage Control Steps
- 35:45 Wrap Up and Projects
About Monika
Host of Sexploration with Monika, Monika Thomas, was a radio personality from Alaska who quit her morning show to travel the world and start a talk show about sex. Not only is talking about sex more interesting than weather and traffic, but being more open about sex can make the world better: less shame, more information! Monika has learned so much (who knew women could ejaculate and men could have multiple orgasms)!
Monika is now a certified sexual health educator who teaches rape and domestic violence prevention classes, and her spiritual beliefs include, “Sex is proof that God loves us and wants us to have fun!” As host of “Sexploration with Monika,” she interviews sexperts on how we can get more of what we want exploring clinical sexology and neuroscience or BDSM and tantra with recurring themes like presence, safer sex, connection, communication, and play. Ask questions, check out sexy photos and blog articles, find events, and download archived Sexploration with Monika episodes at SexplorationwithMonika.com.