Cuffing season is lurking — That fall-and-winter stretch when single people often feel an extra pull to find someone to date, cuddle, romance, or cozy up with while it’s cold outside.
And your bed is sitting there thinking, “Ummm… Do we have any PLANS for this winter?” 😂 🛏️ 🔥
So, as part of our back-to-school, Slut Era Semester…
4 Reasons Why Having a Personalized Bucket List Might Help Keep Your Bed Warm This Winter 🪣💕😈
And no — creating a Bucket List does NOT magically cause hot people to materialize underneath your comforter.
If only my worksheets were THAT powerful. 😂
But taking some time to figure out what YOU actually want —and writing it down— can make a surprisingly BIG difference when opportunities for pleasure, romance, intimacy, adventure, and shenanigans come a’knocking.
Here’s why…
🌶️ REASON #1: It’s Hard to Ask for What You Want When You Don’t Know What You Want
Imagine someone delicious looks you in the eyes and asks: “What have you always wanted to try?”
Would your brain light up with possibilities?
Or…
Crickets. 🦗🦗🦗
Then you respond, “Uhhhh… I dunno. What do YOU wanna do?”
There’s nothing wrong with not knowing.
Most of us were never taught to sit down and actually get CURIOUS about our desires.
And sometimes what we want isn’t even particularly “wild.”
Maybe you want…
🔥 A fantasy you’ve never tried.
💕 More romance.
💋 A night of ridiculously luxurious kissing.
🛏️ A hotel getaway with your longtime partner.
😈 A threesome.
🥰 More cuddling.
💃 Dancing with someone who makes you feel irresistible.
Or an experience you don’t even have words for… yet.
A personalized Bucket List gives your desires somewhere to LAND.
And once you know what you want? Once it’s all on your LIST…
It gets a whole lot easier to talk about it. ✅
💕 REASON #2: Knowing What You Want Helps You NOTICE Opportunities
Have you ever realized AFTER the fact… “Ohhhhhhh! I could have asked for THAT!”
#Facepalm 😂
Sometimes opportunity knocks…
And we don’t recognize it because we haven’t figured out what we’d actually like to invite inside.
Having a Bucket List makes your brain better at noticing possibilities.
Maybe somebody mentions they LOVE giving massages…
And massage has been sitting on your list.
Maybe a partner asks what would make your birthday feel special…
And you actually have an answer.
Maybe somebody says:
“I’ve always wanted to try ______…”
And something inside you goes:
WAIT!
THAT’S ON MY LIST TOO! 🤩
Knowing what you want doesn’t guarantee anything will happen.
But when opportunity knocks?
It’s nice to know what you’d actually like to say YES to when you open the door… 🥰💦
🧠 REASON #3: Your Bucket List Can Help You Separate YOUR Desires From Everybody Else’s
Here’s something sneaky…
Sometimes the things we think we’re “supposed” to want aren’t actually the things that TURN US ON.
Seggs-positive culture has its own version of peer pressure.
You can start thinking:
“Shouldn’t I want more partners?”
“Shouldn’t I be kinkier?”
“Shouldn’t my fantasies be more adventurous?”
“Is my Bucket List slutty enough?!”
😂 😬 😭
Nope.
There is no Slut Era Final Exam.
Nobody gets extra credit for having the longest or wildest list.
Your Bucket List might contain something outrageous.
It might contain something romantic.
Something intimate.
Something kinky.
Something tender.
Something completely ridiculous.
Something that makes you blush.
Or something as simple as:
“I want more mornings waking up next to fresh coffee and someone I adore.”
The important part?
It’s YOUR list.
YOURS.
Because your Slut Era gets to mean whatever YOU want it to mean, and your Bucket List gets to have whatever YOU want on it. Period.
🔥 REASON #4: Desire + Communication = MUCH Better Odds of Something Actually Happening ✅
A fantasy trapped inside your brain has a pretty limited dating life. 😂
Eventually, if you want other people involved… You may need to use your WORDS.
Knowing what you want helps you move from:“I wish something exciting would happen…” to…
“I’ve always wanted to try this. Would you ever be interested?”
That doesn’t mean pressuring anyone.
It doesn’t mean treating your Bucket List like a sexual scavenger hunt.
And it definitely doesn’t mean another human being’s sole existence is to check boxes off your list, or that they owe you because you could use your words…
It means getting clearer about your desires so you can share possibilities…
Hear somebody else’s desires…
Find the places where your YESes overlap…
And maybe, juuuuuust maybe, where your Venn Diagrams overlap… create something fun, delicious, and hawt together. 😈💕😈
WHICH BRINGS US TO YOUR SLUT ERA SEMESTER ASSIGNMENT… 🧑🎓🪣
We’re putting all of this bucket list hype into practice 😈🌶️🪣💕
Building Your Spicy Bucket List
Get Clear About What You Actually Want!
👉 https://bit.ly/build-your-bucket-list
JOIN US! WHY?
We’re going to brainstorm.
Dream.
Laugh.
Fill out worksheets.
Explore Reid’s Fear List and Shame Tracking tools.
Look at some of the common mistakes people make with Bucket Lists.
And help you build a list that feels less like a pressured “to-do list”…
And more like an invitation into possibilities. 🤩
And if your first thought is…
“But Reid, I DON’T KNOW WHAT I WANT!”
Perfect.
COME TO CLASS. 😂
That’s kind of the point.
You don’t need to arrive with a giant list.
You don’t have to be single.
You don’t have to be hooking up.
You don’t have to be polyamorous.
You don’t have to be kinky.
You can bring your longtime partner.
Bring your curiosity.
Bring a completely blank page.
And we’ll start there.
Because summer might be over… But your Slut Era doesn’t have to be. 🍂😈💕
And everything comes with my 30-Day, No-Risk, Money-Back Guarantee.
Come to class. Do the exercises. Dive into the materials.
If you think I wasted your time, ask for your money back.
Boom! Done! 👍💸
So…
Grab your notebook.
Put on your creative-thinking cap.
Already have a Bucket List? GREAT. Bring it! We’ll help you expand it, question it, refine it, and maybe discover a few things you didn’t even know belonged on there! 😈🪣💕
Together, we can put some more SPICE 🌶️ and PUMP 💪 into your pumpkin spice season! 🎃☕😈
Your bed and heart may thank you this winter. 😂🔥🛏️
And if creating a personalized check list doesn’t peak your interests, I’ve got several fun, virtual classes happening, each designed to help you get back to school so YOU can kick-off your Slut Era Semester and put some PUMP and SPICE into pumpkin spice season! 🎃☕🔥
Pick the virtual class that calls you the most, or attend all of them… YOU. DO. YOU. It is your semester after all…
🍁🍁🍁
That’s it for today. I hope your Monday is off to a good start!
Please feel free to share this any of your friends or loved ones you think might benefit from kicking off their Slut Era Back-To-School Semester with us, Sex Geek!
Yours in creating a most delicious fall semester,
REiD
Ps. I hope the temptation of you joining us lessens the pain of your Monday!!!
