Resources! Resources! Rah! Rah! Rah!
It’s hard enough to have a successful relationship with one person and you want to explore open relationships and non-monogamy?! You came to the right place!
Congratulations on being the kind of person who’s smart enough and courageously curious enough to fortify themselves with resources on open relationships and non-monogamy!
Let the brain-sex begin… And, if these resources helped, please share this with others! If you think something awesome is missing, please leave your suggestions in the comments sections.
Yours in sex geekery,
REiD
Ps. Some of the links you’ll find below are affiliate links. Feel free to use them if you’d like me to get credit for your purchases. Affiliate links don’t cost you anything extra. I means companies like Amazon send me small percentage of their sale as a sort of “finders fee.”
Recommended Books
Some of these books aren’t about polyamory per se, but have amazingly powerful information on relationships that will help you understand and navigate whatever your relationship styles may be. And, for the books that do deal specifically with non-monogamy, these are, in my opinion, some of the best of the best…
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern
Building Open Relationships: Your hands on guide to swinging, polyamory, and beyond! by Dr. Liz Powell
Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex by Allison Moon
(Fun Fact: Allison is my primary partner! Yes, THAT Allison!)
Love’s Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin Patterson
The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Mating In Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships by Stella Harris
Girl-Sex 101 by Allison Moon
Opening Up by Tristan Taormino
The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino
Radical Honesty: How To Transform Your Life By Telling The Truth by Brad Blanton
The Art of Living Consciously: The Power of Awareness to Transform Everyday Life by Nathaniel Branden
The Hard Questions by Susan Piver – This is a book that focuses on marriage, but the questions in it are AMAZINGLY POWERFUL. Super useful!
Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss what Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen, and Roger Fisher
More Than Two: A Practical Guide To Ethical Polyamory by Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux – You may want to read this article first, FYI.
The New Intimacy: Open-Ended Marriage and Alternative Lifestyles by Roanld Michael Mazur
Recommended Videos
Rather than overwhelm you with video after video, here’s a great discussion on non-monogamy that the boundless Sunny Bates invited me to contribute to. Alongside the brilliant thoughts and ideas of Esther Perel and Diana Adams, Esq., I talk about the value of Dating Your Species, treating jealousy like asthma, and more. Enjoy, Special Arrangements: The Changing Face of the 21st Century Relationship…
Jessica Fern Ask Me Anything with Misha Bonaventura of The Bonobo Network – Replay Link HERE.
Recommended Podcasts
These are my four favorites podcasts for poly and other amazing sex geeky brain-sex…
Polyamory Weekly Podcast – Podcasts devoted to exploring polyamory by one of my favorite poly geeks, Cunning Minx! This link is set to find all of Reid’s appearances, btw.
Life On The Swingset Podcast – Podcasts on Non-Monogamy. This link is set to find all of Reid’s appearances, btw.
Sex Nerd Sandra Podcast – One of my favorite sex-positive podcasts. This link jumps to a podcast where Sandra, Allison Moon of Girl-Sex 101, and I talk about Threesomes.
Sex Out Loud Podcast – Being a guest on Tristan Taormino podcast is always an honor! This link jumps to one of my favorite appearances on her show.
Recommended Websites and Organizations
Loving More, national polyamory organization – LoveMore.com
Tristan Taormino’s website from her Opening Up book with a GREAT poly group directory – OpeningUp.net
Kasidie, international swinger website run by great people – Kasidie.com
FetLife, the Facebook for Kinky People and the Kink-Curious… As with Facebook, be sure to read and be clear on their privacy policy. Because posting explicit photos. That’s why. It’s just good to know what you’re agreeing to. – FetLife.com
Reid-Created Courses and Programs…
Relationship10x: Transform Your Relationships 10 fold in Just 10 Minutes a Day!
Up your relationship skills and sexual savvy with Relationship10x. Spend the 6-weeks with internationally known sex and relationship geek, Reid Mihalko, upgrading your abilities in 3 key areas: Communication, Sex & Affection, and Relationship Aptitude. Why? So your loved ones will feel more open, more able to share and be themselves with you, and so they will associate YOU with the joy and delight they feel.
Battling the 8-Armed Octopus of Jealousy
Is jealousy kicking your butt? Or a lover’s butt? Check out Reid’s course on taming the 8-armed octopus of jealousy!
Earning Your BLACKBELT In Relationships
Check out Reid’s humorous and informative polyamory advice DVD with Kamal Devi from the Showtime show, Polyamory: Married and Dating!
Poly-Curious 101: Understanding Non-Monogamy e-Course
Curious about this new “lovestyle” you’re hearing a lot about called polyamory? With articulate and generous Relationship Specialists, LiYana Silver and Reid Mihalko, learn all you ever wanted to know (and probably a little bit more) about Polyamory: the movement for responsible non-monogamy that is opening up hearts and relationships in even the most unexpected of places.
Finding Your Perfect Poly Match
Join renowned sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko and expert in interpersonal relationship dynamics, Dr. Beth, for this downloadable, 3-call teleclass series (click link above for Call Outlines) designed to teach you to stop picking Mr. and Ms. Wrong, and how you can find better matches for your open relationships.
Creating Connection with Women – Free download
Join Reid Mihalko as he gives up his techniques and shares his philosophy on how to meet and connect with the women of today in this candid interview with self-esteem coach Andrew Schwartz.
Initiating Successful Threesomes Teleclass and Workbook
In this downloadable podcast, designed for adults of any orientation and relationship status, Reid will share his basic, foundational approaches on how to take an exciting, erotic idea (in this case, the threesome) and turn it into an actuality. This approach you can implement across all sorts of other intriguing desires in your lovelife, not just menagé Ã trios, btw!
Oral Sex Expertise Made Simple
Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko for the next installment in his Sexual Self-Confidence Series: Oral Sex Expertise! 2-hours of humorous, down to Earth, clothes-on-sex education where Reid personally walks you through his best teachings and techniques for creating AND receiving oral pleasuring.
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