Negotiating Successful Threesomes Teaser
Reid: Hello! It’s Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com to give you a little teaser, a little taste of my workshop “Negotiating Successful Threesomes”. Now, if you can’t every get to the workshop, that’s okay, you can buy this in the store and watch the entire workshop on video. There’s also some other information, manuals and downloads and stuff like that that you can get; and I’m going to give you a little taste of something super useful whether you get to the workshop or download anything ever and this is what I deal with and what I call the awkward formula because your ability to be comfortable with feeling awkward isn’t just a threesome thing, this changes your entire life. It’s my belief that most people are just stuck in seventh grade and by using the awkward formula you can learn how to initiate things, not just in threesome but all different kinds of things. But for today we’ll use the awkward formula and apply it to threesomes.
So, the awkward formula basically is this, let’s imagine that you have two people that you want to have a threesome with; perhaps you don’t even ever want to have a threesome, you just want to know that you could have one, which is why you would take this workshop. But the idea of you’ve got your two people, you’ve negotiated the safer sex, you’ve had all the conversations, you’re back at the apartment or wherever you’re at, you’ve run out of wine or tea or water or whatever you guys have been drinking and it is now time for the sex; and things get awkward. So the next time you’re feeling awkward, remember everybody’s stuck in seventh grade, the reason no one’s initiating, no one’s taking the first step is everyone’s feeling awkward. It’s like seventh grade on steroids.
So the next time that you’re feeling awkward take a deep breath and say to yourself (inhales deeply) “The awkward is upon us.” Then take another breath and say to the other people out loud “I have an idea!” To which most people, who are also feeling awkward and do not know how to initiate, when you say “I have an idea!” they will often respond with “What?” Upon which you then suggest something that you would like that includes both of them. Now the reason I say something that you would like is that a lot of people will suggest things that they’re kind of not into because then if it gets shot down it’s not that big of a deal.
Understand, in the threesome situation, when you guys are waiting for “the sex” and you say you have an idea and they say “What?” they’re there to have some sort of erotic experience. Suggest something that you would like because often they will say yes and at least then you’re stuck doing something that you like!
If they say yes, then you must initiate what you just said. Grab their hands and start doing whatever it is that you wanted to do, whether that is let’s all take a shower together, I think all three of us should make out, I think you and I should strip your wife down and give her an erotic massage, or I think I should watch you and your husband do your favorite sexual thing. Whatever that is, you have to initiate what you suggested, if they say yes, or else it will get awkward again. If it gets awkward again, breathe (inhales), and repeat these steps. In which case you say “I have an idea” and they’re like “What?” I’m like “How about we actually initiate that thing that I just suggested and you said yes to?” Grab their hands and then begin.
I kid you not, I have taught this at the Negotiating Successful Threesomes workshop and every year I get two or three emails from people who used it that night and it actually works. So my gift to you, regardless of if you ever come to the workshop or not, The Awkward Formula made simple; and if you do get a chance, please come on down, check out Negotiating Successful Threesomes, whether it’s in my store or in person. I hope to meet you at some point one day in person at one of my events.
It’s Reid Mihalko for http://ReidAboutSex.com; go be awkward.