Orgasm Without Ejaculation? Is That Possible?
Cathy: Have you ever wondered about orgasm without ejaculation? Is it safe? Is it possible for penis owners?
Reid: What?! Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/
Cathy: Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/
Reid: You always call what we’re talking about so for this is a comment?
Cathy: It’s a question.
Reid: Question, yeay!
Cathy: This person would wanted to know is orgasm without ejaculation is that even a thing? Is it safe? Is it possible for men?
Reid: Yes, it is possible.
Cathy: I agree but I think you wanted more detail. I’m going to make my phone stop.
Reid: We’re punchy today. First off, thank you so much all of you who write in questions. We love the engagement, just thanks and thanks for those of you who share and spread and repost our videos all over the place. We appreciate it.
Cathy: Even if it’s like can you believe what these guys are doing?
Reid: Well, I mean we get that a lot. I sometimes I can’t believe we’re doing this but today we’re talking about non ejaculatory orgasm for we’re going to assume penis owners.
Cathy: Right. A lot of women are able to orgasm without ejaculation. Though I do know a few that can’t.
Reid: There’s others lots of there whole we’ve got videos talking about squirting and things like that. So the question here, the answer is yes and where I came upon the practice of the non-ejaculatory orgasm or the seeking of the skill sets to make that happen was from reading Mantak Chia, one of Mantak Chia’s Daoist sacred sexuality books where is talking about the cultivating and moving your chi and your sexual energy and one of the practices was which are basically then in Mantak Chia, he wouldn’t call it this but in America and in other parts of the world, it would be called edging which is the practice of learning more orgasmic control, more ejaculatory control for those of us, penis owners regardless of your gender whether you identify as a man or trans or this or that. Penises can belong to all kinds of people so I like to say penis owners for those of us who suffer or struggle with or there’s the challenge of we ejaculate too quickly or we ejaculate when we don’t want to. And the idea of ejaculation is a choice for some of us is like no it’s not, it happens when it wants to and it usually happens to soon. In kind of geeking out on this the idea is you practice masturbating and getting really close to orgasm and kind of hovering right on the edge of the cliff of the great abyss and there’s a lot of interesting things are happening one you’re teaching, you’re slowing the process down and starting to learn like how to hover in that realm or a lot of us when certainly when I was 10 or 9 or 11 or whatever I like had the big epiphany and then never left my bedroom and my mom was like Reid what are you doing in there? I’m like, nothing mom. I was doing a lot. I just masturbated to orgasm, to ejaculation and never knew that there was any place to hover. Because hovering was not what my 10-year old brain was into, right? It was like point and shoot. It was target practice like I was aiming to pull the trigger not aiming to just hover in front of the target. Wow, that was too much information. So in learning to hover there and then to kind of practice moving that energy, the Daoist sexuality practice and this also exist in Tantra and couple other places and even just a non-tantra, non-Daoist practices of just like sex therapy whether you’re helping or coaching clients on how to hold and experience their pleasure without tripping off the edge of the cliff into orgasm. The practice from the Daoist perspective is that you cultivate this ability to hold more and more energy without having to spill over and the idea is neurologically from a geek perspective, you’re rerouting your neural pathways to be able to hold that kind of arousal without trip wiring right into ejaculation and then I never thought this was possible. Now I kind of think it might be possible that you can train yourself to have the orgasm without ejaculating. This was all legend and myth but I had the experience because there are a couple of different ways to withhold orgasm. There’s some pressure point you can hit on your taint. That will allow you to ejaculate-
Cathy: Can you define taint for people-
Reid: Taint, taint balls, taint ass. Is the perineum, the skin between your scrotum and your anus and there’s a pressure point you can press which isn’t much of a pressure point. You’re actually pressing the tube that the semen comes down. You’re pressing it up against the sinew that’s there and you’re crimping it. So, you come but there’s no ejaculation, there’s no semen comes out. That’s kind of cheating because you’re still coming, it’s just doesn’t come through your urethra but in doing that practice, you start kind of learn and you’re starting to train your brain to eventually be able to not come, not ejaculate when you have the orgasm. I’m not even there and I’ve been doing this for a while granting I don’t practice everyday but it’s starting to feel like I might be getting to a place where now my musculature, my ability to Kegel and squeeze to crimp the vas deferens or the urethra, I might be strong enough to come but not ejaculate and now it’s starting to feel like I might actually be able to just tell my body, tell my brain don’t flip the switch and still have the orgasm. I think that’s what all the masters talk about and it might be possible but I don’t know yet but it feels like it might start to be able to be able to do that.
Cathy: I played with someone who is able to do that.
Reid: Oh, really?
Cathy: Yeah, it was the energy was there, the energy of orgasm was there I could feel that but there was no ejaculate.
Reid: Cool.
Cathy: Yeah and there was a lot of energy for continued to play which is really fun.
Reid: See the thing with me is when I have the orgasm, now I just want to take a nap. Ejaculation, no ejaculation.
Cathy: I used to be like that for myself and then I learned to practice rubbing backup and again to me that’s a practice. It’s something you train your body. If you train your body to always go to sleep then you want to go to sleep. If you train your body that orgasm could mean more play like, oh yes please. And then eventually want to go to sleep because you’re really tired. Let me know what you guys think.
Reid: Yeah, for me it feels like when I go to the buffet and then it’s like you eat and then when you train you sit down to be hungry again- I don’t know. Tricky stuff and Americans and other countries, we’re like we don’t talk about this so what do you think? What are your thoughts? All this esoteric, cool stuff.
Cathy: Yeah, leave comments below. Thanks for asking questions, too.