Does Being Old Lessen Your Life Force When You Ejaculate? | Facebook Walk With Reid
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And today’s question is actually kind of inspired by yesterday’s video which is about and also let me know if you can hear me. I want to make sure I don’t screw that up again. This this microphone is getting finicky or I have lint…pocket lint in my little iPhone port I have to figure that one. Hey Stefan! So…so the question is inspired by yesterday’s question who somebody wrote in about if as an older man ejaculating if it lessens your life force and we had had some great comments yesterday so Caroline Carrington thank you for leaving your brilliance in the comment field. And…and so I wanted to have a part two about this and talk about the benefits of not orgasming and it’s kind of a trick question because I know a lot of people would be like “They have to look…they have to watch this video.” But it’s only a trick question in that what I want to talk about is are the benefits of not ejaculating as a penis owner and then maybe tomorrow we’ll do we’ll talk about the benefits of not having an orgasm if you are a vulva owner.
And…and again I’m just gonna be my dorky geeky self and not make this about gender, I’m not gonna make it about equipment because you can identify however you want but let’s just talk about the…the plumbing and maybe the energetics and the hormonal aspects of what happens around ejaculation and orgasm and something that Caroline dropped in yesterday to the conversation because I was I was focused more on talking about the life-force piece and the life-force question and ejaculation question around life force tends to come from or when I’ve run into it it’s a Taoist sacred sexuality kind of conversation where they’ll talk about that energy and life force — Chi, Kundalini, Shakti those things also pop up in the Tantra world. There are also things that you know get talked about in Chinese medicine and in ayurvedic medicine so it’s more like like where do you come upon these conversations, where or schools of thought where they’re talking about life force and what increases life force, what doesn’t increase life force, can you leak life force, can….you know what…what are those things?
Most of the time you don’t hear Western doctors or at least not in America talking about like medical doctors from the more traditional Western medicine not maybe…maybe not holistic in alternative medicines but like you know somebody went to med school you don’t hear them talking about life force too often or Kundalini and I…maybe that’s a problem but yesterday’s question was more focused on those areas and now I want to chat a little bit about you know there’s all the benefits of having ejaculatory orgasms around what we…what has been studied or what I’ve run into, please add more information if you got it especially links to…to actual studies and peer-reviewed research but like when you have an orgasm of an ejaculatory nature, there’s a lot of hormones that get released into the body and orgasm in general for…for all types of genitalia owner tend to release a lot of stress reducing hormones and you know like good things for your immune system kind of situations roughly speaking…where it can be useful to not have an orgasm or withhold an orgasm and you know in a reductive way as a penis owner and talking about American culture withholding an orgasm means ejaculation because Americans especially are horrible about making the distinction between orgasm and ejaculation and this is where it gets really interesting and nerdy and geeky when you go into like Tantra and Taoist practices because there is a distinction there like you can have an orgasm and not ejaculate and if you’re…which you know for a lot of people in America is like “What? Say what? Like that’s a thing? You can do that?” As a as a young lad who had a penchant for climbing birch trees not in a Robert Frost kind of way, humping birch trees was kind of a thing for me when I was little because it gave me all these tinglies down there and I didn’t quite know what that was other than it felt good but you know not having gone through puberty yet I was having these tingly orgasmic feelings without ejaculation. And then once I went through puberty lo and behold came the day when I had my first ejaculatory orgasm because for me I don’t think I’d ever had a nocturnal emission before that but it was like “Whoa! Like no one told me about this” and I’m old enough to have had that happen before the porn on the internet days and before we had VCRs so like you know didn’t…couldn’t figure out how to work my dad stag film collection back then as a young wee lad.
So when you start going into Taoist sexuality and Tantra practices and things like that then there’s this distinction like can you have an orgasm as a penis owner and not ejaculate and there are bunch of different practices to kind of practice this idea, there’s energetic sex and just having a lot of pleasure that doesn’t you know these kind of creatic energetic spasms and waves of pleasure in your body that feel to me maybe not to you but to me very…very different than, than an ejaculatory orgasm it does not feel similar it’s more full body, a lot of pleasure. I’m somebody who’s twitchy from a Kundalini kind of awakening you know [Inaudible 00:07:12] spasm point of view. Not everybody is twitchy; people who’ve had Kundalini awakenings can express them in all different types of ways there’s not…a way that’s more evolved than another I just happen to be floppy and twitchy and that’s useful for when I’m teaching because I can show you that something’s happening, those twitches, those gross motor muscular responses those feel really good and they’re quite relaxing and there’s a lot of pleasure in them but it’s not the same as like genital pelvic floor tension build up and then the release that also is accompanied with my prostate having a bunch of muscular spasms and then ejaculating. Those are two very different things but as an American, no one ever talked to me about this, this was not common knowledge to me.
What’s interesting or what can some of the benefits be about learning how to experience and hold a lot of energy a lot of pleasure and not spill over into traditional ejaculatory orgasms is that you can last longer often and have mmm if you into penetrative sex for you know giving also receiving you know whether you’re receiving the penetrative sex like there’s a lot more choice and variety there in being able to play with and kind of explore sensation and pleasure because you get good at steering away from ejaculatory orgasms which for a lot of us you know as we get older kind of signals time for a refractory period there’s like a dip in libido and…and maybe interest certainly a dip in erection usually and so you know when…when you do come from an ejaculation perspective like at least I’m experiencing this kind of you know like time to take a break let’s get a snack, let’s take a little brief power nap or…or let’s focus on you for a while doing something different. Being able to control if and when you ejaculate then gives you a lot more room to explore and play with penetrative sex you know fucking and things like that in ways that weren’t there for me before and all the practice and the exercises and the things you need to do…