Dating & Connection

Celebrating Birthdays, Embracing Boldness, and Walking Towards Authenticity

Would you do me a favor, SexGeek? It’s my birthday weekend and I want to extend a unique invitation to YOU—one that turns the tradition of birthday wishes on its head. You see, as the birthday boy, I’m using my special day as an excuse for YOU to ask for what YOU want. Consider it a […]

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Speed Flirting & All Gender Temple Party w/Reid & Monique

This is an experiential party for the sensually adventurous. This special evening welcomes ALL and is very gender friendly. Reid Mihalko is back!!! Oh how Austin and I have missed him! These events always sell out, so grab your spot now.. We are starting out our temple party a little different tonight, the first 45 […]

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Romance Home Run – Step 1: Are you flirting with a Cat or a Dog?

Romance Home Run Step 1 – Are you flirting with a Cat or a Dog? What’s a Romance Home Run? And do you know how to hit one? Today we pose the questions: What the difference between flirting and being romantic? And how do you hit a Romance Home Run in your relationships? Before we can step up to bat, let’s discuss…  The Difference […]

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Romance Home Run – Step 2: Adding Love Languages to Your Flirting and Romancing

Romance Home Run Step 2 – Adding Love Languages to Your Flirting and Romancing Are you ready for Step 2 in creating a Romance Home Run? Here comes the pitch… And… BOOOM! Knock it out of the park, why don’cha! (And your lovers go wild…) If you missed the previous Step 1 post and you’re looking to up your batting average […]

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Myth Busting: “Keeping It Casual” = You Don’t Care

The Common Misconception:“Keep It Casual” Automatically Means “Not Caring” How many times have you (or someone you know) started dating someone with whom you clicked, only to find yourself madly in love with them ASAP… And then, a year later, find yourselves mad at each other and no longer in love? (And still emotionally attached […]

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The Venn Diagram of Compatability and Why Is It Important?

What Is The Venn Diagram of Compatability and Why Is It Important? The Venn Diagram of Compatability (A.K.A. The Venn Diagram of “Is This Even a Good Idea?”) consists of four circles that Misha Bonaventura and I created. We suggest folks seeking to date or hook up take a peek at the four circles BEFORE […]

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From Premature Attachment To Slut Secure – 5-Week Course

Finding yourself in over your head trying to balance this world of relationship, sluttiness, sexy possibility, love chemicals, and secure attachment? Know someone who’s caught feelings when they didn’t want to? Have you tried not to catch feelings only to have your stomach and heart tied up in knots after having great sex with great […]

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Midlife Crisis, Anyone?

Midlife Crisis, Anyone? 🏖️ I’ve taken up kitesurfing in Mexico! Is it the Pandemic? A midlife crisis? Both? It might be both – the pandemic seems NEVER ending, and I am about to turn 54 at the end of January… However; I also think I’m finally harnessing my sex geeky learning skills to exert some […]

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Do You Fib To Empower Someone Else’s Feelings?

Do You Fib To Empower Someone Else’s Feelings?           Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “When is it okay to fib to spare someone’s feelings? Are you just empowering them if you do that or just being a nice person?” I’m here with Reid Mihalko from https://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: And the person […]

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Is Micro-cheating A Big Deal?

Is Micro-cheating A Big Deal?           Cathy:  What is micro-cheating and should you be concerned about it? I’m here with Reid Mihalko from https://reidaboutsex.com/ who’s doing his getting rid of the shine. Reid: I’m all oily. Cathy: And I’m Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Reid: I want to look professional. Cathy: And […]

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