Are There Non-Monogamy Focused Dating Sites?

by Reid on March 21, 2017

diverse multiracial colleagues discussing tech startup business ideas on tablet computer deviceWhat sites are non-monogamy focused?

Find out with Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from

Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, are there non-monogamy specific dating sites? 

Reid: It’s called Tinder. Oh, burn. Swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe. 

Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from 

Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from Yes, there are some websites that are specific to non-monogamy. Then there also are some sites that are just kind of dating sites in general where the algorithms and some of the questions they ask work out really well for people who are non-monogamous. 

Cathy: Like Okay Cupid or Plenty of Fish. 

Reid: Okay Cupid has a really good algorithm for that and I’ve had lots of poly friends who have had great success meeting poly folk, or non-monogamously minded people. There is Kotango with a K, O Tango and that is a site that was started by Christopher Ryan from Sex at Dawn and also poly superstar, who created, or was one of the co-founders for Mission Control, San Francisco, and Kinky Salon, which is now a global kind of thing. That is a specifically poly-amory, non-monogamy minded dating site. Then there are adult sites for swingers and things like that like, with a K. I really like those people. Then we can get into a whole debate about swinging and whether swinging is actually, if that’s a dating site or if that’s a swinging site for couples, but that’s not the focus of this video. Then there are also some pretty famous cheating websites out there which is another version of non-monogamy. I don’t advocate for that because I’m all about transparency and communication so I won’t name any of those websites. Then there are poly-amory resources, like Tristan Taormino’s book, Opening Up, which also has a resource site online and I believe it’s 

Cathy: I believe so. 

Reid: Then there is Loving More, which is one of the older, older in a meaning been around for a long time, poly-amory websites and organizations and they have a great resource center. Then there’s all kinds of like meet ups and things like that, where you can meet non-monogamously minded folks and also, then there’s the whole kink world where, and this is a conversation about what’s the difference between dating and community building and meeting people that you may want to, you might be romantically or non-monogamously interested in. 

Cathy: Yeah, in Dallas where I was for a long time, there was a North Texas Poly, and they would have different meet ups, like a dinner, a pot luck dinner and it was a great way to meet people and also just get connected with the community as well. Things like that. 

Reid: Then we could talk about hook up sites, because that’s a different form of non-monogamy, but since this question was about dating, we’ll just say that hooking up is not necessarily in most people’s mind the same as dating, with air quotes. 

Cathy: Yeah. We hope this helped. We’d love to know if you know of other good dating sites. Please leave links below, your information below and we’ll talk to you soon. 

Reid: Bye.

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