If I Need Lube For Sex, Does That Mean I’m Not Turned On?

by Reid on April 19, 2015

Closeup of happy young woman with boyfriend spending time togethDoes needing lube mean there’s anything wrong?

Join Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.comand Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com as they share.


Cathy: We had someone write to us about needing lube for sex. She had thought originally because she needed lube, her partner thought that that meant she wasn’t turned on. What do you think about that Reid?

Reid: I have lots of thoughts about this. I’m Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com

Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com

Reid: Lube. Lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube, lube. Lube’s a good thing, don’t mean anything, if you need lube, if you don’t need lube. All of us at some point in our lives, will need more lube. It doesn’t mean anything. Sometimes, you’re just super hot and super juicy, sometimes you’re not.

Cathy: I think it depend on the part of the cycle you’re in. If you had enough to sleep or drink first thing …

Reid: If you’re pre-menopausal or not menopausal or just your body just doesn’t get super … You don’t get super moist. Then the whole anal sex thing, like your butt doesn’t self lubricate so it needs lube. The big things to know about lube, lube almost always creates more sensation than it takes away. Use proper lube, I’m not talking about 40W motor oil or something like that, which technically is a form of lubrication, just not usually for vulvas and penises, or butts.

Cathy: Yes.

Reid: Water-based lubes, silicone-based lube, things like coconut oil can be really great too.

Cathy: Don’t use coconut oil with condoms.

Reid: Yeah, it’s not condom safe. The idea of creating less drag, skin-to-skin drag and having things be more slippery, hence lubrication, for my physicists out there, your decreasingly coefficient of ‘meu’. That’s right, I said that.

Cathy: Yeah, you did.

Reid: The idea of that, you using lube creates the opportunity for your nerve endings to feel more sensation and less pain by having skin kind of tugging and dragging. That’s why you want to use lube. Lube is a good thing?

Cathy: Yes, and it doesn’t mean anything. I know that I personally been really turned on and not been super wet and there’s been other times when I didn’t physically feel that turned on and I was really wet. It doesn’t necessarily correlate so …

Reid: If you want to create more pleasure and you’re not ruining somebody’s fancy $5,000 dress or pants that need to be dry cleaned that day, use lube. It’s always a good bet. That’s all I have to say.

Cathy: We’d love to know what you think, leave your comments below.

Reid: Bye.

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