Want some tips from the creator of Blow Job Grad School?
With Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com and Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and SexGeekSummerCamp.com.
Cathy: How do you give a blowjob? This is Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com.
Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from the TheIntimacyDojo.com.
Cathy: We teach this amazing workshop on how to give a blowjob.
Reid: It’s called blowjob grad school, and you’re a PHD.
Cathy: Would you give us three pointers from that workshop?
Reid: Yes. If I can only teach you three things, a blowjob is a hand job with your mouth added, and that’s where people somehow forget. Because they think they’re not supposed to use their hands. These are magnificent devices, regardless of your gender or sexual orientation. This works on giving head to strap ons, and things like that too. You’re using your hands to create pleasure …
Cathy: Extend your mouth as well.
Reid: … and extend you mouth, so that it’s not a look mom no hands kind of thing, like you see in porn. Which can be cool, but do that, and then get your hand back on the cock. That would be the first thing I would say.
The second thing is using pressure and squeezing with your hands, but also pressure on the persons pelvis, or on their chest, or whatever you can do using your body weight to give them something to hump against, so that they’re more … The penis owner, or the strap-on owner is more into their pelvic floor.
Cathy: You’re involving more of the body.
Reid: You’re involving more of the body, but in the pelvic floor. Which is basically what happens is people get aroused, all their erectile tissue filled with stuff that’s inside their pelvis is coming online, and your pelvic floor muscles, and all the ligaments and things that are inside your pelvis … As you make these subtle movements … They’re tugging, and squeezing, and rubbing up against all the feel good erectile tissue. What that does … This is basically why we hump when we become aroused. I’m not just trying to rub my genitals against you. I’m jerking myself off from the inside. You can increase that persons pleasure, while using weight, and pushing and pulling on them, so that they’re getting more into their body. Rather than just trying to create sensation on the penis.
Then my third tip … What is my third tip? There’s so many places we can go with this. Do we talk about scrotums and nuts? The undercarriage, and how you work that, because people forget.
Cathy: Can I share a tip that I really love that you tip?
Reid: Sure.
Cathy: Is you can go down on a cock before it’s hard.
Reid: Ah!
Cathy: I think that was really … I had this mental … Whether from watching porn, or just cultural baggage or whatever … I thought the cock had to be hard before you put your mouth on it. Knowing that I could go down on a soft cock, which lets me put the whole cock in my mouth pretty easily. It feels good, it stimulates the person. That was really a big tip for me.
Reid: We’ll go with that, no pun intended on big tip. Playing with somebody who has a flaccid penis. Usually be a penis owner. That’s just not a strap-on, because …
Cathy: They’re generally not flaccid.
Reid: Not unless you’re using a packing cock. Which is is soft cock for a lot reasons. Google it.
Cathy: They generally don’t get hard.
Reid: They don’t get hard. Although science, you never know. You playing with somebody’s cock when it’s flaccid … The other big bonus is you’re telling the penis owner that it’s okay that it’s soft. Which is not messaging we get in this very erection centric, Viagra …
Cathy: What’s wrong with you? Why aren’t you hard?
Reid: Yeah … Cialis world. Where sex cannot happen if I don’t have this raging hard on. You’re sending the message that, “No, sex can totally happen,” and that piece of mind and being able to feel pleasure with a flaccid cock is helping me get in my body, and not trigger all the shame alarms that just get us more in our heads, and further away from being with you, and being with our bodies.
All right, there you go. There are your three tips.
Cathy: If you would love to see Reid’s Blowjob Grad School, his program for sale on his store. I promise that we’re not nagging excessively in a passive aggressive way. We can loving invite him to give it up if the program …
Reid: That was funny.
Cathy: … Record the program, so that people don’t have to be in the city. I totally didn’t mean that.
Reid: If you’re watching this, and I already got it up and the link’s below, and if this is interesting for you, then check out that program, and it’ll be a couple hours of fun and geekiness.
Cathy: All the tips you couldn’t share now.
Reid: All the tips I couldn’t share, no pun intended.