Consent, Boundaries, Ethics

I Want To Have Sex With Both Men and Women, How Do I Do It Ethically?

I Want To Have Sex With Both Men and Women, How Do I Do It Ethically?       Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “I’m a guy who has had sex with women for my entire life but I think I’m gay or bi. How do I ethically have sex with both men and […]

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How Do You Navigate Consent Violations In The Community?

How Do You Navigate Consent Violations In The Community?       Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “How do I navigate consent violations on a group and what about accusations for spaces where I might be in a facilitation role or even brave enough to step into one when no one else can or […]

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A Few Resources on Power Dynamics…

An area that often gets overlooked in relationship and sex education is the area of individual/institutional power dynamics and how they impact relationships. This is an area that I was sorely lacking understanding in, but as I continue to journey further down the rabbit hole, slowly developing more awareness and understanding, I would be remiss if I didn’t shout from the rooftops, “Learning how power dynamics are impacting your relationships changes everything!”

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When Do You Try To Upgrade, and When Do You Set Boundaries?

If your partner asks for something that’s challenging, when do you try to step up and when do you say no? With Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, my question is say my partner ask to meet a need for them, which is difficult for me. […]

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What Do You Do If You’re Banned From A Community And Don’t Know What You Did?

Finding a balance between making it safe for people to share boundary violations and protecting their privacy, and removing people who violate boundaries- perhaps unknowingly is challenging. How do you handle it? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: What happens if you get banned from a community? How should you […]

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How Do You KNow When To Pull Out of An Event…

How do you know when to pull the plug for an event? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and SexGeekSummerCamp.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: How you do know when it’s time to pull out? Cathy : of an event. Reid: Of an event This is business advice because I’m wearing my “Sex Geek Summer […]

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How Do You Negotiate With Your Partner Around Their Overnight Dates?…

Dealing with new relationships in your relationship can be challenging… Listen to Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com disagree on what’s reasonable and draw your own conclusion! Leave comments below. Cathy:   Hi Reid and Cathy. I really need some advice and someone to tell me if the rule I have in my […]

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Sharing Vulnerably and Feeling Judged?

Told you’re insecure when you open up and share vulnerably? What do you do? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com.

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Dealing With A Mini-Stalker…

How do you deal with someone who “mini-stalks” you? It might be well below the “legal” limit, but it can be really awkward. What do you do? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: How do you deal with someone who mini-stalks you? This is Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: This […]

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Having Good Boundaries When You’re Being Playful

People like being playful and goofy, but they are not necessarily being as careful about boundaries. State your boundaries so that you can be even more playful. It’s not the other way around. With boundaries you can make people feel safer, and they will play back with you. Hear what relationship expert Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and […]

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