What Is A Geek?

by Reid on October 19, 2015

Hispanic couple relaxingWhat is a Sex Geek?

Join Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com as she asks sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com to define this term and help you see if you might just be…a Sex Geek!

Also see: How Do You Find Sex Geeks?

Urban Dictionary Definition:
Someone who takes pride in learning, applying and spreading throughout their lives accurate sexual health information, effective communication skills, and relationship blackbelt knowhow regardless of sexual identity and practices.
~ ReidAboutSex

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Cathy:  Hi, everyone. This is Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com, and we’re here with Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com.

Reid:  And a sex geek shirt!

Cathy: Well, we did a video on how to find sex geeks, and a bunch of people have asked, “What’s a sex geek?” So if they’re wearing a shirt like this, you’re pretty certain that they’re a sex geek.

Reid:  We are clearly labeled. Very geeky.

Cathy: Could you explain what a sex geek is?

Reid:  I’m embarrassed to say that I do not know the actual definition, which I created, off-hand. You can go to UrbanDictionary.com and look up “sex geek” – that’s my definition.

It’s also on my website. Basically, what a sex geek is, is anybody who takes pride and has excitement about having really great communications skills, black-belt-level relationship know-how, and some sexual self-confidence, and sharing those skill sets with other people, no matter what those people’s self-expression of life is.

So however “sex geek” flows through you… You know, you’re a sex geek if you get excited about this information. You want to share it with other people.

Cathy: So you might study tantra and be a total sex geek.

Reid:  You could be a sex geek in tantra. You could also study tantra and not be a sex geek. You could just be somebody who’s like, “Tantra helps me get into my body, and I love breathing, and I love being closer and more intimate toward my partner,” and maybe you’re not a sex geek.

There’s no judgment. It’s not like, “Something is broken; you’re not a sex geek.” Sex geeks come in many different sizes and colors and all different kinds of areas of study: tantra, polyamory, monogamy. You could be completely “by the book, in the box, love… be married and conservative and having sex once a week” and you could still be a sex geek because it’s about your health and about communication.

Cathy: Understanding more than what you figured out in fifth grade when you were talking behind the bleachers with your best friend.

Reid:  Exactly. Improving your life and hopefully the lives of others by taking sex from a negative place to a place where we don’t have to be ashamed about it. And willing to show up and do the work, and realizing why that work is important. And those people – I mean, we’re human beings too. I still get cranky. I still get snarky with my partner, and we’ll get into a fight and then I’ll be a sonofabitch, and not want to admit I was sorry.

Cathy: (laughing)

Reid: You know? It’s not like sex geeks are the answer to your relationship woes, but people who think this kind of information is important, who get excited about it. I think exploring your life, your sexuality, your relationship styles, and surrounding yourself with people who are sex-geeky might make for a better life.

Cathy: It’s definitely very entertaining.

Reid:  Yes. Unless you think I’m a complete jackass, in which case maybe sex geeks are just annoying.

Cathy: If you like to identify sex geeks, you can look for the t-shirt.

Reid: They’re on my website.

Cathy: It’s a great way to identify other people and let them know that you’re a sex geek too.

Reid: It’s fun. So I hope this was helpful. E-mail Cathy. Let her know at TheIntimacyDojo.com how and what you feel about being a sex geek.

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