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Are You Dating A Cat Or A Dog? [Article on YourTango]

… the answer will revive romance in your relationship! [E.T.A. – Oct 1, 2019: This article was republished on YourTango, but it’s become hard to find the Page 2 of the article on their site now, so I’m posting the entire article here so folks can find it easily. I also updated broken links and […]

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Jealousy vs. Envy

In the last article I talked about Jealousy as Asthma and shared how you can identify, avoid, and inoculate against the 8 tentacles/triggers of the Octopus of Jealousy. I also promised to share soon about the difference between Jealousy and Envy, because it can make a BIG difference in relationships. So here’s the distinction between jealousy and […]

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Treat Jealousy Like Asthma

Jealousy isn’t something we look at closely, in general. We’re mostly taught that jealousy is bad, painful, shameful, and there is no relief. When it comes for you, you’re sunk, and it’s better to pretend it doesn’t exist and to just suffer through it when it does happen. (Or, blame our partners viciously if jealousy […]

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Loved, Honored and Cherished, Part II

In my last article I talked about creating safety and how to determine what you and your partner(s) might need to feel safe and grounded in your relationship to create a loved, honored and cherished experience. If you’re not in a romantic relationship right now, you can do this for yourself, for friends and family, for other […]

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Who wins? Feeling Unsafe Vs Feeling Cherished

Feeling Cherished We all want relationships that get richer and deeper and create less stress. Bonus points when they can nourish and fulfill us in new ways! Surprisingly, this is just some of the magic that happens as we start to figure out who and what we are in relationships, what our needs and desires […]

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Are You Dating Your Species?

The Old Dating Vs The New Dating Most of us were taught that we should be happy if we find a nice mate, one that is usually kind and considerate, who brushes their teeth regularly, brings home a paycheck, and pays the electric bill on time… What is this “species” stuff? The old dating mentality […]

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Cool Down Styles

“Take a Chill-Pill” has a whole new meaning (and use)! When you are upset, what do you naturally do to calm down? What does your partner do when they’re upset? When you’re aware how you operate best in relationships, and understand how your loved ones function best, you have a huge leg up on having […]

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Bringing Back The Spark!

How YOU can bring back the spark! Why Security Doesn’t Excite Excitement and Why Excitement Doesn’t Make Security Feel Secure! What makes us feel secure rarely turns us on. Security is a relief. It’s sure. Security soothes your nervous system. Excitement feels dangerous. It’s stimulating. Excitement pumps the adrenaline. Adventure and intimacy are opposites, but both […]

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Sensual and Erotic

Go, Team Sensuality! In my last article, I suggested you try new things as a couple to create more sparks in your relationship by rediscovering each other. If you missed it, you can find it here: reidaboutsex.com/bringing-back-the-spark In this article, I’m going to also recommend that you guys create a team project around sexuality. Sensual and […]

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The Morning After: Con-Drop & the Art of Surviving Workshops, Retreats and Conferences [Article with Video]

All this growth stuff is a LOT of work! Multi-day workshops, retreats and conferences can be life-changing. They can also be life-draining.While multiple-day experiences allow attendees to put on their “workshop wetsuits” and dive deep into the waters of transformation, they can also stress our nervous and immune systems, and strain relationships in counterproductive ways. […]

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