What people are saying about Negotiating Successful Threesomes and a Sample of the Workbook…

by Reid on January 19, 2009

Here are a few testimonials from Reid Mihalko’s Negotiating Successful Threesomes, the 2-hour workshop on menagé à trios (with live demonstrations!), and a preview of the workshop’s Followup Compendium…

Reid,

Not only was your threesome workshop SUPER fun with all the live demos, but it also produced results within 24 hours.

The following night I met a couple at a party who wanted to experiment, but were very unsure about how to approach anyone or communicate their desires and boundaries. It felt surprisingly easy and natural to explore what they wanted, and to navigate a hot and rewarding experience for all three of us. In fact, the next day, the husband sent me this email:

  • ‘Connecting with you, after much uncertainty of how to break the ice, was definitely the highlight of our evening. Your energy, directness and honesty, empathy and enthusiasm, were *exactly* our best-case scenario for our first threesome.’


Thanks Reid – you rock!
D

I loved that people with all kinds of and depths of experience came to the workshop, and that you encouraged them to speak and contribute. I also seriously appreciated your attitude and your approach to leading the workshop. Your sincerity and attentive presence were obvious, as was the fact that you had prepared thoroughly for this workshop. These complemented each-other really well.

~Anonymous

As I said at the end of the session, a lot of the content was known to me but the formalization, structure and interactive nature of the event helped me to project  various perspectives on the big questions that surround the threesome.
During the workshop, I had the luxury of time to analyze what you and other people were saying and to really place the situations and issues you were presenting into a larger frame. I could correlate a lot of the content and advice to the business life, leadership practices and communication skills needed in tensed or even conflictual moments of life.
I will now look at your other on-line classes as I am particularly interested on how my wife (who did not attend last night) and I can find and pick potential great partners.
I look forward to talking to you again and attending another of your workshops. Please send me that electronic version of the successfull threesome workbook as you mentionned yesterday.

Best,
C.C.
New York City
And the preview of…

Negotiating Successful
Threesomes

Official Follow-Up Compendium

This Follow Up “Compendium” is broken down, more or less, chronologically:

  • P.T. (Pre-Threesome or Before You Try to Have a Threesome)
  • Set Up (Initiating the Threesome)
  • Pre-Bedroom
  • In-The-Bedroom
  • After-The-Bedroom

While, Negotiating Successful Threesomes dealt mostly with Pre-Bedroom and In-The-Bedroom, this follow up “workbook” will cover key bits of other areas as well, and go over some things that we didn’t get time to cover in 2-hours together.

Please give this a run through and let me know how it goes…

Oh, and for those of you who get off on proof reading and catching grammar hiccups, please unleash your mad skills with my blessings and email me any nefarious errors you happen upon. Since I aim to please, why not indulge the left brains of y’all!

Yours in self-expressed relationships,
Reid
reid@reidaboutsex.com


P.T. (Pre-Threesome)

Before you actually try to have a threesome, it’s a good idea to “do your homework,” what I like to call, as the lawyers say, “doing your due diligence.”

 

Exercises for Overcoming your Fears and Concerns

 

Overcoming fears and concerns begins with thinking about them and then talking about them. Like a musty rug, it’s not going to smell any better until you drag it out into the sunshine and flip it over. I invite you to try this exercises, not just for threesomes, but on all sorts of things and areas in your life….

Saying What’s Not Being Said Exercise:

1. Ask yourself:

  • • What are you not saying (about threesomes)?
  • • Who are you not saying this to who should know?
  • • What are you afraid is going to happen if you say it?
  • • Where else/what else aren’t you saying?

2. Write down your answers. Spend some time and really put your thoughts down.

3. Go share your list and answers with those people.

If you’re in a relationship, do this exercise together and share your lists together.

Be sure to share the contents of #3 in their entirety! This exercise isn’t named, “Only Saying Some Of What’s Not Being Said!”

Don’t skip anything or edit stuff out because you think is sounds silly or doesn’t make sense. The point is to share what you’re not saying with those you love, not to make sense of what you’re afraid of. Like the musty rug, it’s in the exposing of, the getting things out into the open air, that begins to shift things for the better… [end]

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