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Cool Down Styles

“Take a Chill-Pill” has a whole new meaning (and use)! When you are upset, what do you naturally do to calm down? What does your partner do when they’re upset? When you’re aware how you operate best in relationships, and understand how your loved ones function best, you have a huge leg up on having […]

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Bringing Back The Spark!

How YOU can bring back the spark! Why Security Doesn’t Excite Excitement and Why Excitement Doesn’t Make Security Feel Secure! What makes us feel secure rarely turns us on. Security is a relief. It’s sure. Security soothes your nervous system. Excitement feels dangerous. It’s stimulating. Excitement pumps the adrenaline. Adventure and intimacy are opposites, but both […]

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Sensual and Erotic

Go, Team Sensuality! In my last article, I suggested you try new things as a couple to create more sparks in your relationship by rediscovering each other. If you missed it, you can find it here: reidaboutsex.com/bringing-back-the-spark In this article, I’m going to also recommend that you guys create a team project around sexuality. Sensual and […]

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The Morning After: Con-Drop & the Art of Surviving Workshops, Retreats and Conferences [Article with Video]

All this growth stuff is a LOT of work! Multi-day workshops, retreats and conferences can be life-changing. They can also be life-draining.While multiple-day experiences allow attendees to put on their “workshop wetsuits” and dive deep into the waters of transformation, they can also stress our nervous and immune systems, and strain relationships in counterproductive ways. […]

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Reid appears on Oprah’s Our America with Lisa Ling On OWN!

Reid hosts a swinger’s play party for Lisa Ling! Our America with Lisa Ling takes viewers along for an in-depth look at some of the most controversial and thought-provoking issues in the United States today. In Our America’s 2012 season finale, Swingers Next Door, Lisa Ling interviews sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com on non-monogamy and […]

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Say What’s Not Being Said: Reid’s Formula for Difficult Conversations

It’s what you’re not saying that’s destroying your relationships… The plain truth of intimacy is this: It’s what we’re not saying in our relationships that’s slowly killing them. Withholding the important and even the trivial, over time, fosters resentment and mistrust, eroding intimacy. And it’s not just the negative stuff that we don’t say that’s […]

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Reid Quoted In Slate.com Article On Cuddling…

“As adults, we have fully-formed prefrontal cortexes … we can control ourselves,” Mihalko insisted… Just Hold Me Do real men like to cuddle? By Dave Johns Posted, Slate.com; Tuesday, Dec. 7, 2010, at 6:57 AM ET The first signs came early. Most infants can’t do much, and I was no exception, according to grown-ups who […]

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End of Summer Newsletter

It’s Back To School season, so just so you know I’m being a good boy and doing my homework (a.k.a. putting this newsletter together and shipping it out) before I can go outside and play! For the record I’m at a sex positive summer camp that I’m teaching at in Maryland right now and the […]

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June’s Reid(ing)AboutSex Is Fundamental Newsletter

June is late! But only because we were busy juggling all those dildos and dental dams! Plus, it was Belladonna’s fault, we swear… June was a busy, busy month for me and ReidAboutSex… It was busy mostly because I was decompressing from a month on the road in May (see May’s newsletter), dealing with pesky […]

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