Can Lack Of Lube Cause The Condom To Break?

by Reid on November 30, 2016

Young Gay Men Couple Kissing On Bed With Rose After Champagne ToIf you’re dry can that cause the condom to break?

With Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from

Cathy: There it goes. So someone wrote in and said she is inexperienced having multiple-partner sex. She’s …

Reid:    She’s inexperienced having multiple-partnered sex?

Cathy: Yeah. So she had some questions.

Reid:    Multi partners, meaning more than one person in the bed?

Cathy: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Reid:    Excellent.

Cathy: Yes, or more than partner in the bed.

Reid:    At a time?

Cathy: Not necessarily at the same time.

Reid:    Congruently or consecutively?

Cathy: I believe she’s talking about consecutively.

Reid:    Is congruently the right word? That’s not the right word.

Cathy: No.

Reid:    Hmm.

Cathy: But it’s nice if you’re congruent when you’re all in bed together.

Reid:    That’s true. Consecutive…

Cathy: Serial or parallel?

Reid:    Hmm. We’ll figure that out in the next video.

Cathy: Yeah.

Reid:    Go ahead.

Cathy: So she said she slept with a man on Saturday.

Reid:    Yeah.

Cathy: He’s still trying to figure it out.

Reid:    Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Cathy: She’s wasn’t highly lubricated.

Reid:    Consecutive. No, that’s not the word. Go ahead. Highly lubricated, I’m paying attention.

Cathy: She was not highly lubricated.

Reid:    She was not highly lubricated.

Cathy: Yes. She was preorgasmic, and the condom broke.

Reid:    Okay.

Cathy: She’s wondering if… He said that it was too dry, she was too dry, and the condom was too small and that’s why it broke. She’s concerned, is that true? What should she… What could she do in the future to avoid condoms breaking?

Reid:    Okay. So, the main thing is using lubrication. Have lube by the bedside that is latex or condom safe, because there are certain kinds of … Like petroleum jelly or Vaseline, you know, the stuff that our grandmothers used.

Cathy: Yeah, not a good with condoms.

Reid:    Not good for condoms, and all kinds of condoms, even non-latex condoms. So, any kind of petroleum-based lube, you can’t use with condoms.

Cathy: Don’t use.

Reid:    A lot of oil-based lubes, like even coconut oil are not condom safe.

Cathy: Right. This is Reid Mihalko from

Reid:    Oh. Oh my God! That’s who I am! I’m Reid Mihalko! Thank you, I’ve been wondering.

Cathy: I’m Cathy.

Reid:    This is Cathy Vartuli from

Cathy: Thanks.

Reid:    Yeah, you’re welcome.

Cathy: Okay, so in the future, if she uses… They use lube, that will help?

Reid:    Mm-hmm (affirmative). It will help a lot, and also putting on the condom correctly.

Cathy: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Reid:    So, they make condoms in lots of different sizes.

Cathy: Yes. We should do a video right after this about how to put a condom on correctly.

Reid:    Maybe. Maybe not. Or consecutive partners.

Cathy: (Laughs)

Reid:    So basically they make lots of different-sized condoms. I have friends who have large penises.

Cathy: Okay.

Reid:    They have been using safely, for decades…

Cathy: Small…

Reid:    Regular-sized condoms.

Cathy: Okay.

Reid:    So, if you’re using a finger cot; that is not a condom. That is for your finger, not for a penis.

Cathy: Yeah.

Reid:    So I have experience with these friends.

Cathy: Yeah.

Reid:    Using condoms that are regular standard sized condoms.

Cathy: Right.

Reid:    And…

Cathy: Not having them break.

Reid:    I have… I mean my friends…

Cathy: Yes.

Reid:    Have never had one break.

Cathy: (Laughs)

Reid:    So I think that’s because, one: We’re using lubrication.

Cathy: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Reid:    Two: We’re putting on the condom…

Cathy: Correctly.

Reid:    Correctly. Now most penis owners out there don’t like to think it’s their fault if a condom breaks.

Cathy: Right.

Reid:    Regardless of if it breaks or not, what are the things that you can do so that it doesn’t break in the future? Learning how to apply a condom correctly.

Cathy: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Reid:    There are videos all over the Internet about this. We can make one. Then using lubrication, even when you don’t think lubrication’s needed.

Cathy: Yeah.

Reid:    Can just help.

Cathy: Well, it feels better too. The stimulation feels better.

Reid:    Putting a drop of lube in the condom, or lubing up your cock before you put the condom on, can also help. One: Also increase the sensation.

Cathy: Mm-hmm (affirmative).

Reid:    But it reduces friction.

Cathy: Yeah.

Reid:    On both sides of the condom, which, and you are a PhD Engineer.

Cathy: Yes.

Reid:    I would assume would help…

Cathy: Reduce the…

Reid:    The long… Yeah.

Cathy: Less chance of tearing.

Reid:    Increase the longevity of the condom. As long as you’re using lube that is condom safe.

Cathy: Yes. Yes. Actually when they test condoms, they’ll individually pull one out to quality test. They blow it up to well larger than any male member that I’ve seen.

Reid:    But filling up a condom with air.

Cathy: Yes.

Reid:    Correct me if I’m wrong engineer.

Cathy: Is different than…

Reid:    Is not friction.

Cathy: Right.

Reid:    There you go.

Cathy: Right.

Reid:    So, still thinking of whether it’s not congruent. Consecutive is one after the other. What is the word?! Leave it in the comments! What’s the word for when you have things happening all at once?

Cathy: Yes.

Reid:    So not consecutive, one after the other, or serial lovers, but all at once. There’s a word for this.

Cathy: Pile?

Reid:    Yes.

Cathy: (Laughs)

Reid:    Leave that in the comments! Help us! Help us.

Cathy: Bye. (Laughs)

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