Shame

Shame, Perfectionism, and Redemption How Community Clean Things, Restore Justice, and Heal #cconheal

Shame, Perfectionism, and Redemption How Community Clean Things, Restore Justice, and Heal #cconheal       Cathy: To overcoming shame and perfectionist….perfectionism in the sex positive community, we want to promote a culture that enhances intimacy growth in community. I’m really glad you’re here today, I think this is a very difficult topic but we’re […]

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Are You Clean or Clear When Your STI Test Comes Back Negative?

Some people us the word “clean” when their STI or STD test results come back negative… Is there an upgrade? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Hey Cathy, I just got tested and I’m clean. How about you?  Cathy: Reid, I love that you got tested, and you’re clean whether […]

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Sabotaged Yourself And Now Stuck In A Shame Spiral? What Do You Do?

Feel like you ruined everything? How can you get out of the negative loop? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: What do you do when you self-sabotage something that you really wanted to do, and now you’re kind of falling in a shame spiral? This is Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com.  […]

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Feeling Shamed About Sex-Positive Business and Wanting To Meet More Peers?

Sex Workers and Sex-positive business people can sometimes be shamed about their work, and meeting with peers can help support you. How do you meet them? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: Are you going to do the business thing?  Reid: Yah I’m going to do the business thing cause […]

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If You Have HSV1 (Herpes) How Do You Know When You Can Kiss Again?

When is it safe to kiss people if you have herpes? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “If you have HSV-1 or Herpes 1, how do you know when to kiss again?” That’s really a pointy question. If you found out and diagnosed with something, […]

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How Does Shame Effect Your Ability To Share and Open Up?

Want your partner to change and think shame might help? Will it improve your relationship? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: So Reid and I were just listening to Brene Brown talking about shame and I thought there was really interesting too bit that I wanted to share and talk […]

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What Do You Do If Your Date Bores You?

How do you tell your date that you don’t want to continue with your date? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: What do you if your date bores you? Reid: Go on a second date! No! Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com.  Cathy: And […]

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Dealing With Shaming Comments About Herpes

How can you deal with hurtful, shaming comments around STIs? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Hate mail, hate mail, whatcha gonna do? Whatcha gonna do when the haters come for you? Okay, so this really isn’t necessarily hate mail …  Cathy: Well, calling us “fucking wackos” is a little […]

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Only Able To Have Orgasms With A Vibrator? How Can You Have More Fun With Your Partner?

How can you talk to your partner about needing a vibrator to have an orgasm? And have more fun with and without one? Find out with Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com Cathy: A reader wrote in and said, “I can only have orgasms with a vibrator and I haven’t really talked […]

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Sex Educator Shame

Are you tired of being shamed for being a sex educator? Both for teaching things that scare people, or for “being easy” (since you must want to be sexual with everyone!)? What can you do? With Reid Mihalko from ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Sex educator shame, what is it? Hi. This is […]

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