Reid Takes Toronto, May 13-19th!

by Reid on March 1, 2013

Sex and Awakening Toronto 2013 poster
Sex Geeks Invade Toronto!

Join Reid Mihalko, Monique Darling and Lawrence Lanoff for 6 days of awesome, sex geeky, sex positivity in Toronto this May 13th-19th!

Speed Flirting and Full-Body Kiss

Date: Monday May, 13th
Time: 7-10pm
Location: 231 Mutual St. (416) 599 – 7665 –
Admission: Women $5, Men under 35 w/student ID $20, Men under 35 w/out student ID $50 admission. All men pay an additional $5 for workshop.

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Join world renowned sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko and authenticity coach Monique Darling, for an entertaining evening of frank, humorous conversations and hot demonstrations on how to take your flirting and kissing to the next level!


Have you ever been ashamed to ask for something you wanted? Have you liked someone and wanted to flirt, but didn’t know how to break the ice? Have you ever been flirted with, but felt uncomfortable flirting back over shyness or fear? Can you remember a time in your life when you felt embarrassed about something that felt good?

From flirting, to romance, to sex, many of us feel paralyzed and powerless to make the first step. Learning how to give yourself permission for flirting and being comfortable asking for what you want are excellent skills to transform your social life.


  • Reid’s unique perspective on flirting that you can immediately put to use.
  • How 7th Grade and cultural shame are keeping us from flirting our way to more love and freedom in life.
  • Communication tools and strategies to have you asking for what you want in your love life, the bedroom and beyond!

Group exercises that will include silly (yet powerful) flirting exercises, as well as practicing asking for what we want sexually.


Great making out is more than just using your mouth… watch, take notes and ask questions.

Have you ever liked someone only to discover that they were severely lacking in the kissing department? Are you worried that you might be one of those “bad kissers” the Cosmo articles talk about? Your lover is “almost there” when it comes to kissing, but you’re at a loss for how to upgrade their technique or even talk about it? Perhaps people tell you that you’re a good kisser, but you want to be a GREAT kisser…

Kissing. Macking. Smoooooching. Necking. Snogging. Lip-Locking. Tonsil Hockey…

Call it what you will, but making out is one of the best appetizers on the menu when it comes to turning a person on. Full-Body Kissing (the art of using your mouth, lips, tongue, face, hands, arms, hair, shoulders, and legs) can be a main course all to itself, but only if you know how!


  • How to use your entire body to turn any kiss into a Full-Bodied Kiss
  • Ways to use pressure, body weight, and sound to enhance you and your partner’s making out
  • Reid’s favorite erogenous zones for surprise smooch attacks!
  • Ears, back of the neck, and wrists and how to tease them with your kisses…
  • Why French Kissing isn’t the end-all be-all and what lies beyond simple “tongue macrame”…
  • Practical approaches to teaching a lover how to be a better kisser.
  • Fingers and forearms and why they’re JUST as important as your lips in making out…
  • Plus… Tips on breaking the ice for that anxiety-ridden first kiss and how not to botch it!

Whether you’re focusing on making your date swoon the first time your lips touch or getting your lover breathing heavy and writhing with pleasure on the couch, The Full-Body Kiss workshop is going to upgrade what your mouth and body are capable of. Take your kissing technique beyond 8th grade, and start getting your black belt in making out today!

This is a clothing optional, participation-optional workshop. Group exercises are not mandatory. Voyeurism is participation! You are free AND encouraged to change your mind at any time!!

Introduction to Sexual Energetics

Date: Tuesday, May 14th
Time: 7:15-9pm
Location: Spirit Wind Centre – 64 Oxford St. 2nd fl. (416) 939 – 9583
Cost: $20pp

Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko, Reality-Hacker Lawrence Lanoff and Authenticity Coach Monique Darling for a workshop devoted to exploring sexual energetics.

  • Gain the underlying principles and approaches to playing with energy from the sexual to the sublime.
  • Learn tools, tips and tricks for unlocking stuck sexual energy and turn life into an orgasmic playground that doesn’t have to look anything like sex.
  • Get in touch with your own energetic field, manipulate it and turn it into a powerful source of connection and bliss.
  • Discover how and where to touch another to tune into, access, tease and play with their erotic energy, the energy of two people or the energy of the entire group!

This is workshop will feature frank (and humourous!) language and fully-clothed demonstrations. Participation is not required. Come with all your questions and a notebook! Bring a partner, find a partner there, switch partners, or experience it on your own. Many options will be offered to support each individual experience.

Afternoon Delight: Sexy Communication and Negotiations

Date: Wednesday May, 15th
Time: 3-5pm
Location: 231 Mutual St. (416) 599 – 7665 –
Cost: $10pp* – Drop In
*men must pay additional $50 admission to Oasis

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Learn sexy communication skills during this casual and informative afternoon discussion with special guests, sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko of, Reality-Hacker Lawrence Lanoff of and Authenticity Coach Monique Darling of

Whether you are looking to get sex ed savvy for safer sex at sex clubs, poly communities or for your one-on-one relationships and trysts, this informative talk will encourage a practice of safe sex talk in all your intimate relations. Regardless of experience, orientation, relationship status, age or politics, being able to talk about safer sex, knowledgeably, and act with integrity, makes sex, love and intimacy so much easier, for you and your partner(s)!

Iron Slut: Sex Educator Showdown!

Date: Wednesday May, 15th
Time: 7-10pm
Location: 231 Mutual St. – (416) 599 -7665 –
Cost: $20pp* – limited seating
*men must pay additional $50 admission to Oasis – Pre-purchase ticket and save $10!

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Watch and learn as real sex educators go head-to-head and reveal their best bedroom moves. What better way to learn about practical sex education that you can actually use than to watch three sex educators literally go head-to-head?

In this entertaining, informational, guaranteed-to-be-funny and friendly, “competitive” throw-down, we’ll let the audience watch, take notes, ask questions and when the dust finally settles, hang out and mingle with the experts and guests!

Join world renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko, Reality-Hacker Lawrence Lanoff and Sacred Sexuality Coach Monique Darling and watch as they go mano y mano and blow for blow against each other.

In this fun-filled 3 hour workshop learn:

  • What sex educators do under the covers and how
  • Their best tips and tricks (and probably not the kind you read about in Cosmo)
  • Their favorite, black belt sexy-sexy time moves!
  • And much, much more…

We can’t promise you badly dubbed voice-overs or high-jinx drama like TV’s Iron Chef, but we can promise you some down-to-earth applicable sex and relationship education.

If you were a big fan of “I’ll show you mine, if you show me yours” as a kid, or you always wished there was a reality show called “Shagging With the Stars,” then this workshop might be for you. Tell your friends. Bring a date. Bring a notebook too while you’re at it!

Official Cuddle Party!

Date: Thursday, May 16, 2013
Time: 7-10:30pm
Location: Wonderworks – 79 Harbord St, Toronto
Cost: $20pp

NOTE: This will be a media sponsored event: participants must be comfortable being filmed for TV

w/ Founder of Cuddle Party Reid Mihalko and special guest Monique DarlingReid Mihalko –
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Cuddle Party is a 3 1/2 hour workshop experience where participants engage in communication exercises, explore touch in a non-sexual space, experience personal exploration and intimacy, and have fun with like minded friends from the community.

Nurturing and consensual loving touch is good for maintaing healthy blood pressure, a strong nervous system and a balanced emotional health. One’s ability to connect with and develop greater trust in others is emphasized during the group exchanges during Cuddle Party’s. Self-care is a cornerstone of Cuddle Party experience.

As seen on CBS’s the DR’S

Cuddle Party is a formal, non-sexual event that offers participants an opportunity to explore intimacy with like-minded others. In a relaxed environment, that upholds personal boundaries and maintains a professional atmosphere, at all times, one is encouraged to engage in communication and touch, in a non-threatening, share-affirming environment.

Cuddle Party is a holistic, social environment, that attracts fascinating people from all walks of life. It provides a special and unique opportunity for connection, learning and growth. Come cuddle with us!

About Cuddle Party from Monique:

I have facilitated 100’s of Cuddle Parties. I am as passionate about the Cuddle Party experience today, as I was the first one, over five years ago. YES! It helped me reclaim my voice and I am passionate about helping others do the same.

Cuddle Party experiences teach participants, they alone create their own safety container. How did it change my life? When I was growing up and received a NO, it felt like I was being rejected. The result was my emphasis on being nice, being lovable and being unconditionally available. The profound learning came when I realized my unyielding YES’s became a subconscious inability to trust another person’s YES, without their own personally vocalized NO!

I am very appreciative and honoured by the courage shown by those who have clear boundaries, and an ability to voice their YES and NO decisions without guilt, shame or fear. It gives me the confidence to ask for what my own heart desires, instead of censoring myself, knowing the receiver of my request has the voice and courage to embrace or withdraw, based on their own perimeters. “Thank you for taking care of your self”


BRING: Comfortable PJS, Blankets, Pillows and any kind of soft fluff to enhance your experience.


The opening Welcome Circle is for introductions and to go over the rules of Cuddle Party. This is an important aspect of the Cuddle Party experience and creates a safe container for all participants. It is essential that everyone be on time.

Special Guest Facilitators

Reid Mihalko, Oakland, CA, helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health for adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Monique Darling, San Diego, CA, is the founder of Divine Interludes which provides workshops and experiential play-shops in the art of Tantra and conscious loving. She has studied and taught with renowned Tantra teachers and extraordinary workshop facilitators since 1990 and is a certified Cuddly Party Facilitator. She has been featured on TLC and The Dr’s and has been interviewed by magazines across the USA One of Monique’s great joys in life is helping others reclaim their power and natural sensuality. She is available for private sessions, experiential workshops and Cuddle Parties.

Negotiating Successful SEXperiences

Date: Friday, May 17th
Time: 7-9:30pm
Location: 853 Bloor St. W. – studio basement, 1 block east of
Ossington subway
Cost: $25pp – Drop in style or pay in advance (space is limited)
Ticket purchase/info: Email or call and 416-887-5621

Sex and Consciousness Awakenings +Kinky4Play P3 Playshop Experience & Sexual Awakening Centre Presents:

Negotiating Successful SEXperiences w/ Special Guests:

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Many of us crave more ecstasy and more opportunities to experience unusual, out-of-the-box play that expands how we are able to experience our bodies, pleasure and sexuality. In this exciting workshop we will explore how to create the possibilities for play by reading bodies, slowing down and talking about sex.

Learn and identify the kinds of sex you want more of by exploring a variety of play scenarios in an environment of safety and playfulness. This promises to be a night of delicious opportunity for ecstatic play and creating new connections with yourself and others. You will always have the choice as to your level of participation in the workshop.

We will explore ways you can:

  • Communicate your needs clearly and without drama once the difficult conversations are out of the way
  • Choose lovers and play partners who meet your standards
  • Figure out what a boundary is and where your boundaries exist, so all involved can negotiate a win-win!
  • Explore how to read other people’s bodies and create more possibilities for play
  • Learn to talk about sex in a non-awkward way creating ease in communication
  • Witness negotiation and play scenarios by your facilitators
  • Practice creating your own safe space to play!

Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko, Reality-Hacker Lawrence Lanoff and Authenticity Coach Monique Darling for a two hours and half workshop devoted to exploring communication and negotiation skills. Open to singles, couples and multiple partners whom want to learn how to create workable boundaries and agreements for playing sexually with others. This is a clothes-on, interactive workshop experience. Come ready to play and learn!

The Art & Practice of Energetic Intimacy

Saturday, May 18, 2013 – 10am-5pm & 7-11pm
Sunday, May 19, 2013 – 10am-5pm
Location: TBA, Toronto, Canada
Cost: $495 Weekend (incl Sat. evening event – Hard Day’s Night!)
$395 Early Bird Special – deadline: April Fools Day
First 6 tickets only $325
Register ASAP:

May 18 at 10:00am until May 19 at 5:00pm in EDT

Join us for a weekend of “unlearning” everything you think you know about sexuality and consciousness. Spend two full days, including an evening event/sensual meditation, with mavericks of the sex and consciousness educator communities: Sex and Relationship Expert Reid Mihalko, Reality-Hacker Lawrence Lanoff, and Authenticity Coach Monique Darling. These masters are tops in their fields and together will weave an expansive, life and pleasure affirming weekend, rich in practice, process and play.

Many of us yearn to:

  • Show up authentically in life
  • Interact with exuberance
  • Express ourselves powerfully
  • Connect tenderly with others
  • Inhabit our own nature
  • Take risks
  • Live passionately!

There are many reasons why we might shut down our own brilliance. Society discourages us from asserting ourselves vigorously, or fiercely insisting on our boundaries or our preferences.

We all have feelings of ferocity and tenderness, but we must feel safe in order to be vulnerable and intimate with another. Part of that safety is being confident in our own ability to say NO and take a stand for our boundaries. Only then can we play in the realm of our true HELL YES!

We seldom have the opportunity to tenderly hold other people with nourishing human contact, or to hold ourselves with tender curiosity and radical self-love. To be held by others in our vulnerability and to be cherished despite our feelings of brokenness, is part of our humanity.

Each of us has a sophisticated and subtle energetic system that courses through our body. In Indian and Yogic cultures, it’s called Nadis and runs Kundalini energy throughout an energetic Chakra system. In Traditional Chinese Medicine it’s energy meridians and Chi flow. In Western Medicine, it’s chemistry and our central and peripheral nervous systems which fire electrical impulses and synapses.

Regardless of what belief system you subscribe to, our bodies are giving off signals. These cues and clues can be read and tracked with practice, especially during sex! Engaging these subtle and powerful energies, and interacting with them in a focused state, can make for a deeply transformative experience.

When sexual impulses are free flowing in the body, something natural and beautiful happens in our psyche and life pulsates with aliveness. Sexual energy is a profound whole-body healer and can bring forth delicious feelings of bliss and ecstasy from endorphin release. We will explore underlying principles and approaches to playing with sexual energy, energetically.

Below is an outline of what will be shared over the weekend:

  • Experience – Practice – Play!
  • Anchor an ability to transform life into an orgasmic playground that looks anything like traditional sex
  • Deepen your connection to your own energetic field
  • Strengthen and hone your skills to engage and play solo and one-on-one
  • Reinforce your abilities and awareness for engaging in group energetic play
  • Develop self-care practices and become comfortable setting boundaries
  • Release shame and haunting memories
  • Claim your right to sexual pleasure and passion
  • Communication skills that encourage asking for what you want
  • How to avoid past relationship mistakes
  • Black Belt relationship tips and tricks
  • Modalities of communication: verbal and non verbal

There will be times, over the weekend, when the atmosphere will be sensual and energetically sexual. All activities and exercises will be guided and are optional. You can participate in the workshop solo, with a partner and in small groups. All participants are asked to practice with each other, or by oneself, in whatever manner supports you best. Many options will be offered to support each individual experience.

Open to the possibility… As you peel your layers and reveal the tender heart inside, you expose and share that which seems most unacceptable. Here, you find yourself met with eyes of love, respect and understanding. In the space we create together, a circle of true and limitless healing can form. This program aims to awaken our infinite, unexpressed potential. Come as you are – leave all you can be.

Exotic Wonderland Puja and Active Meditation

Date: Saturday May 18th
Exotic Wonderland Puja w/ Monique Darling
Sex & Spirituality – How to Cultivate Pleasure in our Practice and in Our Bodies w/ Lawrence Lanoff
Time for both events: 7-11pm
Location for both events: BodiesWonderworks – 79 Harbord St, Toronto
Cost: $40pp or $60 couples | Free for attendees of The Art & Practice of Energetic Intimacy!

Practice of Energetic IntimacyExotic Wonderland Puja w/ Monique DarlingWe attach the word ‘sacred’ to any practice, experience, or way-of-being that slows us down and deepens our experience of being alive. Our sensuality is a manifestation and expression-of our vital sexual life-force and creative energy. It can play, move, be shared and enjoyed in many ways.Enter a world of visual delight, delicious aroma, mouth-watering pleasure, sensuous touch and healing sound in an exciting environment, created especially for this event! Join us for deep and sacred exploration of our life force energy. This special get-together also includes extremely powerful boundary-setting practices and exercises that encourage bonding, surrender and play.

Join us and explore ways YOU can:

  • Tune into your body
  • Dive deep into your senses
  • Integrate your playful and sensuous sides
  • Dive deep into your authenticity
  • Extend your awareness and your ability to listen to your body
  • Unmask the secrets of your heart
  • Release stuck energy that holds you back from manifesting love
  • Explore ways to experience life more joy fully

Monique will lead us through an empowering Puja experience that will include paired exercises such as:

  • Erotic feeding
  • Sensation body-play
  • Sound baths
  • Aromatherapy
  • “Bossy” massage
  • Tease and denial

Sex & Spirituality – How to Cultivate Pleasure in our Practice and in Our Bodies w/ Lawrence Lanoff

Enter the “Lawrence Adventure”. Be ready to get lost in sensations and feelings in your body and ride waves of energetic currents and possibilities. FEELING in your body, what it’s like to fully allow life-force energy to flow through the entire being, infinitely expands your capacity for greater personal pleasure.

This is an active meditation based on the current science of pleasure, and is all about learning to practice living in our pleasure at any given moment in time – even in the face of things not always feeling great!

With guided visualization and energetic expansion, a safe and sacred space is created where men and women begin to see each other with new-born eyes. Connecting with wonder, curiosity and awareness we will celebrate while exploring ourselves and our reflections.


  • Wear comfortable clothes
  • Bring cushions and/or blanket
  • Please eat before you arrive
  • Please arrive by 6:45 – Doors will be locked at 7:15pm

The entire event is guided and has very strong boundaries that are maintained to ensure a sacred and safe container for all attendees. Please arrive on time!

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

Sigh March 27, 2013 at 7:23 pm

I would love to go to Speed Flirting and Full-Body Kiss but I am not paying 10 times as much just because I am a man. That’s discriminatory. Why do men have to pay so much for a lecture?


Reid June 11, 2013 at 1:11 pm

Hey, Sigh.

The event space is an adult sex club and admission/ticket prices are reflective of their membership costs, hence the price difference. Please don’t take it personally.

Thanks for the comment.

Yours in sex geekery,


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