Getting A Sex Doll To Satisfy Your Partner When You’re Not Being Frisky
Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “How do you guys feel about getting a sex doll to satisfy your partner when you’re not feeling frisky?” They’re wondering if it’s a good way to keep people happy when one of them is having low sex drive or abstinence. I’m here with Reid Mihalko from https://reidaboutsex.com/
Reid: And the person sitting next to me is Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/
Cathy: And we love when you write in with questions.
Reid: We love those questions. Sex dolls, go Cathy Vartuli. I want to know what a Ph.D. scientist has to say.
Cathy: Well, I have no problem when people are using sex toys and I think a sex doll is a form of sex toy, maybe a little bit larger one that’s….and atomically correct, but as long as everyone involve feels okay with it, I think that that’s fine it’s like maybe a very generous gift for someone who is feeling a lot of passion when their partner is at a low drive or going through medical procedures or has to travel for a long time, I think that’s really you know that’s something you should talk about with your partner and find out if there are interested for one and if they feel threathened or uncomfortable with it then figure out if it’s something they want to experiment with or…
Reid: I mean the comedy that showing up now is someone’s partner walks in on their partner, cheating on them with a sex doll.
Cathy: Yeah, and there are….well, there’s actually ones where you can make them look like your spouse or your partner as well so
Reid: Well, there’s real dolls, there’s inflatable sex toy dolls, there’s…there’s a you know doll not parts or segments, but like you could just get the butt and you can get like you know you can get the butt booty of your favorite porn star. It’s not technically a doll because it’s just the part I guess it’s like the Chicken McNugget of the sex doll maybe? I don’t know, I don’t know if that was good. But I mean I certainly don’t have any judgements, the main “judgement”, if I have any, is like does…is everybody left feeling better about themselves more self-express
Cathy: Empowered
Reid: more access to self-love which is tricky, right? Because you can have shame come up when you’re using a doll or a toy or anything like that. A partner can feel guilty or shameful if they’re saying “No, I’m…I have a headache go fuck the doll.” So like
Cathy: Or the doll just laying out of the bed when they come home.
Reid: Yeah, yeah it’s like, it’s like that’s how you know, that’s how you know. It’s the doll sitting there on the bed and waiting for you. But again like you know joking aside if…if it’s helping people get their needs met and taking pressure and “have to” off of people so that people feel like they have more room in their life and more space to be themselves and…and again like having all those conversations might mean you going to you know hire a therapist or something like that or going to a workshop or working with a coach so that you, you can parse out your own emotions around it
Cathy: Yeah
Reid: And then holds space for your partner’s emotions. I’m not saying it’s easy to get to those places but you can do the work to navigate life to figure out those things or at least have a little bit more clarity so that you’re not completely overwhelmed or powerless from having you know adults sometimes complex conversations and these are also not conversations that you need to get done in you know a five minute YouTube video either.
Cathy: Yeah, but this might be a good way to introduce a topic if you wanted to.
Reid: Sure and if you’re sitting here watching this video with your partner and you kind of go, “Are you trying to ell me something?” You might have just happened upon this video like I’m not saying that if they’re sitting right next to you
Cathy: That is what you’re doing
Reid: That…that…that there’s any hidden meaning, but again like use these videos to start conversations and be like what do you think about, you know I mean, maybe there’s a threesome in your future with a sex doll, who knows?
Cathy: Yeah. Please leave comments below. We’d love to know what you think.
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Many people have a prejudice against sex dolls, but I think if the partners are honest enough, sex dolls can make the relationship between the partners more harmonious.