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How Do I Cope Knowing That My Girlfriend Is Not Sexually Attracted To Me?

How Do I Cope Knowing That My Girlfriend Is Not Sexually Attracted To Me?     Cathy: How do I cope with knowing my girlfriend doesn’t want to be sexual with me anymore or she’s not sexually attracted to me? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and […]

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How Do I Tell Them That I’m Only For A Casual Hook Up Without Making Them Feel Rejected?

How Do I Tell Them That I’m Only For A Casual Hook Up Without Making Them Feel Rejected?           Cathy: What do you do if you’re into someone for a casual hook up but not for anything deeper and you’re not sure how to tell them without kind of making them […]

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A Few Resources on Power Dynamics…

An area that often gets overlooked in relationship and sex education is the area of individual/institutional power dynamics and how they impact relationships. This is an area that I was sorely lacking understanding in, but as I continue to journey further down the rabbit hole, slowly developing more awareness and understanding, I would be remiss if I didn’t shout from the rooftops, “Learning how power dynamics are impacting your relationships changes everything!”

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When To See The Doctor If Penetration Hurts?

When To See The Doctor If Penetration Hurts?       Cathy: When do you know if it’s time to see a doctor when penetration hurts? Someone wrote in and said if her partner goes to deep it really hurts, I feel like there’s a blockage or something. I can only handle 5-6 inches, is […]

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How To Be Authentic and Not Disappointing Someone At The Same Time?

How To Be Authentic and Not Disappointing Someone At The Same Time?       Cathy: How do you handle it if you’re a kind person and you don’t want to have other people be disappointed but you want to be authentic too? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com Reid: Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com […]

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As A Sex Educator, What Do I Do If Sex Organizations and Conferences Don’t Pay Their Presenters?

As A Sex Educator, What Do I Do If Sex Organizations and Conferences Don’t Pay Their Presenters?   Cathy: Someone wrote in and said what about sex positive and kink organizations and conferences that don’t pay their presenters, what can we do about this as an educator? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com Reid: And […]

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Reid’s Safer Sex Elevator Speech – UPGRADED for Your P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E.

Many people find it difficult to have a safer sex conversation because no one ever taught us how! I use the P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E. acronym to help me recall each of the Safer Sex Elevator Speech’s 8 steps…

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You Have Reid’s Difficult Conversation Formula But You Freeze When It’s Time To Use It, What To Do?

You Have Reid’s Difficult Conversation Formula But You Freeze When It’s Time To Use It, What To Do?   Cathy: What do you do if you have Reid’s difficult conversation formula? You fill it all out, you love it and when it comes to the moment of actually using it you feel freeze. This is […]

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How Can You Create More Sex Date When You’re In A Long Distance Relationship?

How Can You Create More Sex Date When You’re In A Long Distance Relationship?     Cathy: How can you create more sex date and phone play times when you’re in a long distance relationship this is Reid Mihalko http://www.ReidAboutSex.com Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com Cathy: Why, you don’t remember after all this time? Reid: […]

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My Partner Has Cheated And Lied In The Past, How Can I Trust Her?

My Partner Has Cheated And Lied In The Past, How Can I Trust Her?       Cathy: Someone else wrote in and said they just stared opening up their relationship and her partner just met another girl which he likes which is just great, my only problem is she has a lot of trust […]

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