Dating

Loved, Honored and Cherished, Part II

In my last article I talked about creating safety and how to determine what you and your partner(s) might need to feel safe and grounded in your relationship to create a loved, honored and cherished experience. If you’re not in a romantic relationship right now, you can do this for yourself, for friends and family, for other […]

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Who wins? Feeling Unsafe Vs Feeling Cherished

Feeling Cherished We all want relationships that get richer and deeper and create less stress. Bonus points when they can nourish and fulfill us in new ways! Surprisingly, this is just some of the magic that happens as we start to figure out who and what we are in relationships, what our needs and desires […]

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Cool Down Styles

“Take a Chill-Pill” has a whole new meaning (and use)! When you are upset, what do you naturally do to calm down? What does your partner do when they’re upset? When you’re aware how you operate best in relationships, and understand how your loved ones function best, you have a huge leg up on having […]

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Bringing Back The Spark!

How YOU can bring back the spark! Why Security Doesn’t Excite Excitement and Why Excitement Doesn’t Make Security Feel Secure! What makes us feel secure rarely turns us on. Security is a relief. It’s sure. Security soothes your nervous system. Excitement feels dangerous. It’s stimulating. Excitement pumps the adrenaline. Adventure and intimacy are opposites, but both […]

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Sensual and Erotic

Go, Team Sensuality! In my last article, I suggested you try new things as a couple to create more sparks in your relationship by rediscovering each other. If you missed it, you can find it here: reidaboutsex.com/bringing-back-the-spark In this article, I’m going to also recommend that you guys create a team project around sexuality. Sensual and […]

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Have the Relationship Agreements Conversation BEFORE You Go To Burning Man!

As a Sex Geek and avid Burning Man enthusiast with five+ dusty tours of booty under my belt (er…duty. Tours of duty!), one of the single, best bits of advice I can give any couple, semi-couple, or friends-with-benefits attending the Burn is this… Have your relationship agreements conversation before you step foot on the Playa. A […]

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Iron Slut royally returns to Oakland, Aug 5th, as Kink Academy’s Princess Kali takes on Reid!

K is for Kali and Kinky… R is for Reid and Really Not Kinky! Watch and Learn as Kali demos the kinky stuff vs Reid’s non-kinky and let’s see who “wins!” What better way to learn about practical sex and kink education that you can actually use than to watch two sex educators literally go […]

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Plays Well With Others: Negotiating Relationship Boundaries and Agreements for Group Sexploration! tickles LA July 13th!

Knowing where to draw the line together and how to talk about it can save you both a ton of headache the next day! Navigating group sexual dynamics in any relationship takes skill, patience and a little bit of luck. If “luck” is where opportunity and preparation meet, then learning how to negotiate sound relationship […]

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Play Parties: How To Throw ‘Em and How To Attend ‘Em! seduces LA, July 12th!

Learn the ins and outs of the modern day “play party,” ’cause orgies are sooooo Roman Empire! Do you label your relationships as “Monagmish” or “Mongamy-Plus?” Maybe the term “Swinger” or “Modern Relationship” more accurately describes you and your loved ones? Are you a Poly person with a penchant for having your multiple loves under […]

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