Dating

How Do You Navigate Consent Violations In The Community?

How Do You Navigate Consent Violations In The Community?       Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “How do I navigate consent violations on a group and what about accusations for spaces where I might be in a facilitation role or even brave enough to step into one when no one else can or […]

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How Do You Deal With Feast Or Famine In Dating- Identity: Part 1

How Do You Deal With Feast Or Famine In Dating- Identity: Part 1         Reid: One of us is drinking coffee and one of us is not. Can you guess who? Cathy: [Laughing] it looks like a lot I can see from here. Reid: It does. This is Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ […]

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Single And Celebate For Years… Is There Anything Else To Try Around Dating?

Single And Celebate For Years… Is There Anything Else To Try Around Dating?   Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “I’ve been single and celibate for years. I’ve tried online dating, approached men, lost weight, joined a gym, joined a church, dyed my hair, volunteered in my community and still never got asked out even […]

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How Do I Manage Building A Sex Ed Business While Having A Full-time Job?

How Do I Manage Building A Sex Ed Business While Having A Full-time Job?       Cathy: Someone wrote it and said, “I’m super-psyched. I’ve been wanting to come to sex geek summer camp for three years.” They just got their ticket and Reid’s wearing the t-shirt pointing to it. She said “I’m not […]

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Can You Practice Social Skills On Low Status People In Your Community?

Can You Practice Social Skills On Low Status People In Your Community?         Reid: So there’s this thing about when you want to practice something socially, skill-wise in some communities they talk about picking somebody who’s of low importance in a community to practice on because if you fuck it up there’s […]

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The Condom Broke When I Was With A Sex Worker… Could I Have HIV?

The Condom Broke When I Was With A Sex Worker… Could I Have HIV?       Cathy: So someone wrote in and said, “I was having sex with a sex worker and the condom broke. I pulled out immediately and I didn’t ejaculate so does that mean if she has HIV, I’ve contracted it […]

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The Importance of Asking For What We Want!

The Importance of Asking For What We Want!               Reid: I just want to be the first to say that Cathy is making me do this video and withholding dinner from me. Cathy: The steak is over there. Reid: There’s…there’s steak Cathy: With mushrooms and blue cheese on top. […]

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Do Girls Ever Need To Be Forced A Little Bit?

Do Girls Ever Need To Be Forced A Little Bit?         Cathy: Do you have to force girls a little bit? I’m Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ Reid: I’m Reid Mihalko from https://reidaboutsex.com/. Give me context Cath, give me context. Cathy: Some…someone was talking about that he…he had a date with someone he […]

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What’s The Difference Between Objectification And Preferences In Sex?

What’s The Difference Between Objectification And Preferences In Sex?   Cathy: What’s the difference between objectification and preferences when you’re sleeping with someone of a particular type? Someone bigger, of color or tall, short, older, younger or whatever it is. I am here with Reid Mihalko from https://reidaboutsex.com/ Reid: And I am here with Cathy […]

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Determining One’s Needs Through Self-love Before Entering Into New Relationship

Determining One’s Needs Through Self-love Before Entering Into New Relationship       Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “When I was newly single after divorce I had all these men flocking to me and I was like having all kinds of hot poly kinky play, everything I dreamed of and then some I met […]

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