Intimacy

What Are Things To Consider and Goals When Merging Policules

What Are Things To Consider and Goals When Merging Policules         Cathy: If you’re merging household and determining compatibility, what are some thoughts about poly styles and goals to talk about with the partners that are merging? We want to have a really peaceful powerful group as we merge our polycules.   […]

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I Can’t Orgasm With My Boyfriend, What Do I Do?

I Can’t Orgasm With My Boyfriend, What Do I Do?       Cathy: Someone wrote in and said that. I have tons of orgasms when I’m by myself masturbating. But having orgasms with my partner is challenging. I’d love to hear what you have to say about that. And how can I go about […]

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Do You Feel Like You’re Not Good Enough?

Do You Feel Like You’re Not Good Enough?       Cathy: Someone wrote, oh. You want to finish picking your teeth?   Reid: No, I’m good. Oh! Oh! We started.   Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, I really been trying really hard to be a good fit for someone else because I don’t […]

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How Do You Navigate Consent Violations In The Community?

How Do You Navigate Consent Violations In The Community?       Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “How do I navigate consent violations on a group and what about accusations for spaces where I might be in a facilitation role or even brave enough to step into one when no one else can or […]

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How Do You Deal With Feast Or Famine In Dating- Identity: Part 2

How Do You Deal With Feast Or Famine In Dating- Identity: Part 2       Cathy: How do you deal with feast and famine when you’re in relationships when you really feeling this way, one way or the other, you’re feeling that strongly and we’re going to be talking specifically about how your…peoples identity […]

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How Do You Deal With Feast Or Famine In Dating- Identity: Part 1

How Do You Deal With Feast Or Famine In Dating- Identity: Part 1         Reid: One of us is drinking coffee and one of us is not. Can you guess who? Cathy: [Laughing] it looks like a lot I can see from here. Reid: It does. This is Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ […]

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Single And Celebate For Years… Is There Anything Else To Try Around Dating?

Single And Celebate For Years… Is There Anything Else To Try Around Dating?   Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “I’ve been single and celibate for years. I’ve tried online dating, approached men, lost weight, joined a gym, joined a church, dyed my hair, volunteered in my community and still never got asked out even […]

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How Do I Manage Building A Sex Ed Business While Having A Full-time Job?

How Do I Manage Building A Sex Ed Business While Having A Full-time Job?       Cathy: Someone wrote it and said, “I’m super-psyched. I’ve been wanting to come to sex geek summer camp for three years.” They just got their ticket and Reid’s wearing the t-shirt pointing to it. She said “I’m not […]

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Can You Practice Social Skills On Low Status People In Your Community?

Can You Practice Social Skills On Low Status People In Your Community?         Reid: So there’s this thing about when you want to practice something socially, skill-wise in some communities they talk about picking somebody who’s of low importance in a community to practice on because if you fuck it up there’s […]

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The Condom Broke When I Was With A Sex Worker… Could I Have HIV?

The Condom Broke When I Was With A Sex Worker… Could I Have HIV?       Cathy: So someone wrote in and said, “I was having sex with a sex worker and the condom broke. I pulled out immediately and I didn’t ejaculate so does that mean if she has HIV, I’ve contracted it […]

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