Insights Learned From Guelph University Sensuality Conference | Facebook Walk With Reid And Friends
Reid: Come on in.
Cathy: Are you in too?
Mandy: I’m coming.
Reid: Alright. It’s Facebook live. Mandy, you want to come and be on Facebook live? You can say hi. Guelph University
All: Hi. Wooh!
Reid: Sensuality Conference and so as people sign in, hit some emoticons. Because emoticons…they will make it rain. Emoticon is fabulous. Do you wanna be in this, too? Okay. So what did we what did we learn today? Does anyone wanna share?
Cathy: Dr. Karen Blair gave an amazing talk about the differences of support people get in same sexes and sex and relationships and there was a really insightful about how much the….the they were able to get a support and the resilient they can be even if there’s not, there are support that they’re not getting a support in general. They’re just really resilient. They’re just really insightful [Inaudible 00:00:50].
Dr. Liz: Yeah. Very well said. I really appreciated her the way that she explains that findings indicated how important friends support is for people who are in same-sex relationships.
Reid: Yep!
Dr. Liz: In an inverse fashion to family. It can really.. that that can be a something it’s very little challenging for a lot people too in same sex relationships. And it continue to increase resilience where when people have negative opinions about their relationship, they’re less likely to have an impact to them.
Cathy: Or like…it’s like there it’s you know…
Reid: Talk to the camera ‘coz it’s noisy, Very important
Cathy: They said, that there…that the people that were not related as closely were less supportive and they were wondering if it’s because they push them away if they’re not. If family wasn’t so supportive, they don’t care. And I know that’s cheap for me if I they’re not super supportive I’m not gonna tell them all of the details.
Reid: Other things that we learn today?
Girl 2: We are not interested in that support anyway
All: Yeah
Girl 2: so it doesn’t matter to me as much or it doesn’t
Dr. Ruthie: We had great time in trans topics. And if people would want wanna see close to #explorepain2017. We had a [inaudible 1:50:00], where people got to cry, and punch and do wacks and have all kinds of fun stuffs. So, yeah. That was fun. I’m going to be with my coworkers with the potential manner.
Girls: Yehey!
Dr. Ruthie: and we [inaudible 2:03:00] as well, so it’s fine.
Reid: And then you and I were in the what was the the one were in the Perfectionism Channel?
Dr. Zelaika: It was I instead of safe space, brain space is my thing right now. And then yeah.
Reid: That was good. That was good.
Dr. Liz: Thank you.
Dr. Zelaika: That was so really really good point.
Reid: Something I learn today, well for…for your panel that you two did with Heather, what I really loved was the idea of how you set the container for we’re kind of on the edge of a conversation that hasn’t might not have great language yet. So if you know please feel free in the class to raise your hand and let’s have the discussion if something problematic comes up. If we can do it live like let’s do a live its because the entire conversation is not getting direct about perfectionism and shame things like that
Dr. Zelaika: Yeah, things happen like you….if you mess up, who can you go to, who can you be held accountable with?
Reid: Yeah.
Dr. Zelaika: And have that discussion and grow and improve.
Dr. Liz: And know that like identify it before you mess up because all of us are going to mess up. So likely how lucky’s that gonna be.
Reid: And then well, as we wrap it up like where can people find you? Website do you wanna share? So people can…
Dr. Zelaika: https://zelaika.com/ Z.E.L.A.I.K.A
Reid: Yeah.
Dr. Ruthie: I’m Dr. Ruthie on Twitter https://twitter.com/drruthie and you can find the conference at http://guelphsexualityconference.ca/.
Reid: And thank you for all the work to put all this together.
All: Yay!!
Dr. Liz: https://sexpositivepsych.com/ search the internet for https://sexpositivepsych.com/ and you’ll find me.
Girl 2: Clever and blog site http://liveandletlove.ca/
Cathy: Cathy Vartuli http://theintimacydojo.com/
Reid: And Reid About sex at https://reidaboutsex.com/. Alright, alright thanks for sharing today something that we learn today about sexuality.
Dr. Zelaika: I had fun learning too. I mean I had to unlearn some things.
Reid: Yeah. That’s true.
Dr. Zelaika: Yeah.
Reid: That’s a good one. Like when do we unlearn.
Dr. Zelaika: Yeah, when we learn, but then you unlearn.
Reid: Okay let’s learn on that. What’s something you unlearned?
Dr. Zelaika: I’m unlearning my normative internalize mentality.
Reid: Got it. Alright. Anything else? Other things? That’s a good one.
Dr. Liz: I’m still in the process of unlearning cause its my own type key using the dykes to reproduce group sex people.
Dr. Zelaika: I knew that! It’s my own [inaudible 4:32:00]
Reid: I use folks. These folks. Work well?
Dr. Liz: I love folks. I love folks.
Dr. Zelaika: That’s better!
Reid: Yeah!… with the X? Alright it’s telling me 10% battery. So anything else you unlearn today?
Dr. Ruthie: So I did some of money about what it means to watch a quali-quantitative like in the statistic research stuff. It was so engaging.
Dr. Liz: It was.
Dr. Ruthie: It was so engaging.
Reid: Yeah. Yeah yeah yeah. Statistic don’t have to be boring ladies and gentlemen.
Dr. Ruthie: No
Dr. Liz: Take a try on a research.
Girl 2: I am still unlearning my assumptions to stay strong to what I see on the outside of the person.
Reid: Yea, alright. Cathy?
Cathy: And the course…course of relationships always gonna take to another level there. It’s a great topic.
Reid: Alright, there we go. Bye, everyone. Click some emoticons. And we’ll see you later. From Guelph, Canada.