Bolster Dates And How It Works | Facebook Walk With Reid
Reid: Hello sex geeks! It’s Reid Mihalko from https://reidaboutsex.com/ I am at a business retreat right now and we’re on break and I almost forgot that I haven’t done a I haven’t done a my life today. We haven’t gone for a walk. So we’re going to go for a walk as the a, as the sun starts to set here. I’m in Los Angeles for for Callan Rush she’s one of my business mentors has an event called Magnetize Your Audience and one of the things that it was coming up for me to share today is a Hi Sean! Sean! We’re having fun over here my friend! But we’re on break so I’m gonna make this quick ‘coz break is almost over. Reid: Hello sex geeks! It’s Reid Mihalko from https://reidaboutsex.com/ I am at a business retreat right now and we’re on break and I almost forgot that I haven’t done a I haven’t done a my life today. We haven’t gone for a walk. So we’re going to go for a walk as the a, as the sun starts to set here. I’m in Los Angeles for for Callan Rush she’s one of my business mentors has an event called Magnetize Your Audience and one of the things that it was coming up for me to share today is a Hi Sean! Sean! We’re having fun over here my friend! But we’re on break so I’m gonna make this quick ‘coz break is almost over.
Bolster dates. I have I have an online course with some free video training and stuff like that you can go check it out and in that course we talk about bolster dates which is this idea of if you’re in a relationship or you can even do this with your friends or with your family and your kids, scheduling time when you’re going away like so I’m going away for I’ll actually be in L.A for almost ten days or something like that and and so bolster dates being this idea of what can I do for myself and for my partner or my friend or, or you know my kids or whatever to schedule some special time to bolster to kind of fill up their tanks if I’m gonna be away for a little bit. And thinking about and knowing yourselves and what works for you and what works for your loved ones and how you can design those kind of but you know plan those things into advance and really schedule them. And one of the things that we talked about in relationship 10X if you want to go check that out it’s http://www.relationship10x.com/ and you can sign up for some free videos is you know figuring out like what would be really great bolster date for you? Like what would be a home run if you know what your love languages are? And your partner love languages are like how could you schedule and create your bolster dates? So that it’s filled with really hitting the sweet spot. If gift makes your loved one feel seen and heard you know can you get them a little gift to give them on your bolster date before you go on your business trip. And if they really like gifts you know can you order something and have it delivered in the mail before you know while you’re gone? So if I’d really thought ahead I would have.. I would have mailed that one but I forgot to do that one this time.
Other things that you know bolster dates are kind of the kissing cousin of bolster dates is this idea of what I would call a re-entry date which is when you get back home, what you know did you schedule time to really drop in and be with each other. Hi Art! And hi Jean Marie! So like did you schedule time to really drop back in with each other because I know for me when I’ve been gone for a couple of days or or a couple of weeks there’s a bunch of stuff I want to get done when I you know when I get home I re-enter and I want to do my laundry, I want to go through my mail, I want to do this, I want to do that and then sometimes I’m so exhausted from my trip that I don’t really have a lot of bandwidth and energy to hang out with Allison. So we will often schedule a date or date night or some specific time for re-entry so that we really get in and settle in and get and feel connected back to each other. And for some of those of you who have kids you know maybe that’s what you need to do is drop back in with your kids. So how can you schedule those things and know things about yourself? You know for you when you get back home you might need alone time for half a day to get all caught back up and then do you know proper re-entry that sounded dirty, proper re-entry with your loved one.
But the idea of bolster dates and how can you front load filling up each other’s tanks before you leave and also you know re-entry. My my alarm just went off so that means break is almost over. I’m gonna leave it here. Again you can go to http://www.relationship10x.com/ and sign up for some free training videos and then there’s of course we’re we’re going we go deep into bolster dates and there’s hand-outs and worksheets and all kinds of stuff in the course but check out the free videos first and see if it’s a good fit.
Other than that, thank you so much and I’m so sorry that I almost forgot about going on our walk and the.. tomorrow I’ll try to I’ll try to not forget so much. But again I’m at a weekend retreat and I hope you’re all wherever you are about to have a great weekend.
Hit some hit some hearts and some thumbs up or whatever; make it rain some emoticons as I start to rush back off and share in the comments like, what do you think would be what do you think would be some things that would be a really good win-win for you around bolster date stuff? And remember it doesn’t have to be romantic dates. This can be you know time that you schedule with friends and family and loved ones ‘coz you know it’s not just romantic relationships where we have needs for connection and, and tanks that need to be filled up to.
Alright, so some relationship intimacy advice for you right there.
Thank you so much for being a part of these walks and I’m glad we didn’t miss our walk today! And I’ll talk to you all later. Bye! Mwah!