Misc

An Apology To You For Disappearing For a Year…

If someone says I harmed them, I start with believing them. Period. Any other response, for me goes against my values. Any other response would be inappropriate. I wasn’t interested in adding myself to the list of men who deny, retaliate, or minimize the harms they’re being invited to hold themselves accountable for.

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I Put My Dick In And She Screamed, What Do I Do When She Says Stop?

I Put My Dick In And She Screamed, What Do I Do When She Says Stop?             Cathy: So this might be somewhat trigerring question but I think it’s really important to answer. Someone wrote in and said I put my dick in a pussy and she screamed, what do […]

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Reid Mihalko Has Been Nominated for 2 XBIZ awards!

Reid Mihalko Has Been Nominated for 2 XBIZ awards!       Cathy: So Reid you’re here all dressed up from XBIZ, can you tell us about XBIZ?   Reid: So first everyone needs to know I’m Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com   Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com   Reid: And the Airlines lost my […]

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How Do I Tell Them That I’m Only For A Casual Hook Up Without Making Them Feel Rejected?

How Do I Tell Them That I’m Only For A Casual Hook Up Without Making Them Feel Rejected?           Cathy: What do you do if you’re into someone for a casual hook up but not for anything deeper and you’re not sure how to tell them without kind of making them […]

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A Few Resources on Power Dynamics…

An area that often gets overlooked in relationship and sex education is the area of individual/institutional power dynamics and how they impact relationships. This is an area that I was sorely lacking understanding in, but as I continue to journey further down the rabbit hole, slowly developing more awareness and understanding, I would be remiss if I didn’t shout from the rooftops, “Learning how power dynamics are impacting your relationships changes everything!”

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As A Sex Educator, What Do I Do If Sex Organizations and Conferences Don’t Pay Their Presenters?

As A Sex Educator, What Do I Do If Sex Organizations and Conferences Don’t Pay Their Presenters?   Cathy: Someone wrote in and said what about sex positive and kink organizations and conferences that don’t pay their presenters, what can we do about this as an educator? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com Reid: And […]

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Reid’s Safer Sex Elevator Speech – UPGRADED for Your P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E.

Many people find it difficult to have a safer sex conversation because no one ever taught us how! I use the P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E. acronym to help me recall each of the Safer Sex Elevator Speech’s 8 steps…

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How Can You Create More Sex Date When You’re In A Long Distance Relationship?

How Can You Create More Sex Date When You’re In A Long Distance Relationship?     Cathy: How can you create more sex date and phone play times when you’re in a long distance relationship this is Reid Mihalko http://www.ReidAboutSex.com Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com Cathy: Why, you don’t remember after all this time? Reid: […]

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Where Do You Find Sexy, Kinky Sex Geeks?

Where Do You Find Sexy, Kinky Sex Geeks?             Cathy: Where do you find sexy, kinky, sex geeks? Reid: Look where the tuxes are that’s where you’ll find them. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com my luggage got lost this morning and all I […]

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Safer Sex: E is for Essentials About Me

Use your safer sex/STI status conversation as building blocks towards creating a sexy, satisfying win-win by including an Essentials About Me segment! In my Safer Sex Elevator Speech post, I share my favorite way to have a safer sex , STD/STI status conversation. I use the P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E. acronym to help remind me of each step. […]

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