Making The 1st Kiss Less Awkward [Answer]
The first kiss, like first impressions, can be powerful!
First kisses can be deciding factors in whether a relationship blossoms or withers. They lay the foundation for how all other physical contact goes… If the first kiss is playful or hot, there is likely to be a second, a third… A good first kiss opens up the possibilities for all kinds of other delightful hanky panky.
But how do you make the first kiss less awkward? How do you even initiate?
A lot of people end up waiting for a clear signal, or for the other person to make the first move… And sometimes they move at a bad time, or never move at all! Sometimes they end up friends who “might have been,” now exiled forever to The Friend Zone.
But this doesn’t have to be you!
So how do you make that first kiss less awkward? How do you make the first kiss playful and fun? How do you open up dialogue that will make all physical connection easier and more natural?
ANSWER: What’s THIS Answer, Cathy?!
- Take deep breath.
- Think to yourself, “The Awkward is Upon us!” (This will train your brain to automatically use this formula whenever things get awkward).
- Say to the other person in a fun, playful tone, “I have an idea!”
- When the other person says, “Yes?” or “What?”
- Reply, “I’d like to kiss you but I’m feeling all 7th grade awkward right now.”
- You will likely find yourself getting kissed! If not… and if they haven’t pulled away physically, ask, “May I kiss you anyway?”
If they say “no,” a clever, two step solution is:
A) Say “Thank you for taking care of yourself!” – This simple phrase respects their boundary (which fosters a feeling of safety) while sending a message that you’ll probably respect their boundaries moving forward.
B) You can ask them, “May I ask you again in the future for that kiss?” – Asking this follow-up question with a calm smile gives them space to say no (which let’s you know to back off) while opening up the opportunity for them, if they are interested, to give you the green light for future attempts by answering yes. If they aren’t interested at all, its better to know now and spend your time looking for someone who is a yes! If they do say no that second time, thanking them for taking care of themselves is a super classy, respectful way to wrap it up, which also helps to Aikido feelings of rejection.
If you get a “yes”, a couple quick tips to make that first kiss special:
– Be Present: Do notice the texture of your partner’s lips on yours.
– Be Gentle: Do NOT use your tongue! Keep your lips either closed or just slightly open.
– Be Respectful: Keep the 1st kiss short and sweet (), and pull back to let your partner absorb the experience and give them room to want more.
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