June was a busy, busy month for me and ReidAboutSex… It was busy mostly because I was decompressing from a month on the road in May (see May’s newsletter), dealing with pesky website virus warnings (my website’s healed now! Hallelujah!), and hitting the road again.

June was two weeks in Oakland, then off to New York City and then Chicago, with a quick wedding stop in between in lovely Akron, Ohio (My first time!). And then -boom!- back to Oakland to finish out the last two days of the month. Whew!

No sooner am I’m back at Fruitopia, my East Bay event space, than it occurs to me that I might not want to unpack. Why? I leave on Monday to teach in Los Angeles for 10-days. But… But…. When I was calendaring this all out, it looked so relaaaaaaxed.

I think it’s time to call Delta or Virgin America to see if they’ll sponsor me… Hehehe… Virgin Airlines, official sponsor of ReidAboutSex? Hmmmm…. Who’s got Sir Branson on their speed-dial?

Where ever I am this month, will you’ll join me? Yes? Great! Can’t? No worries, I’ve got a few things you can check out from where ever you are… One of ‘em just so happens to be this newsletter!

Picture of the Month: Three’s Company…

I’ve included some more pics down below from my workshops, but THIS one, which is obviously NOT from my travels had to get top billing, as I’m sure you can agree…

I had to post this on account that it made me laugh so hard. Tip of the hat to my friends from the Poly-Living conference who sent it along. Apparently, this frustrated feline might have gotten more tail (sorry, couldn’t resist) if they’d listened to my Initiating Successful Threesomes podclass, but who can say for sure, right? Join me in Seattle this October, why don’cha? I’ll be teaching my Negotiating Successful Threesomes workshop at the Poly Living West Cost conference, happening from the 23rd to the 24th.

Got Facebook? Fan me, why don’cha!

Video of the Month: Joseph Kramer!

It’s taken me forever to get around to editing some of the valuable footage I’ve got sitting in my hard drive. With apologies to the patient pioneer of Sexological Bodywork and founder of the New School for Erotic Touch, Joseph Kramer, for taking months to get this uploading to YouTube, here is Part 1 of what turned out to be an amazing interview. I was deeply honored that Joseph granted me the interview and took time out of his busy schedule to drive into San Fran in hallacious traffic it turns out.*

Thanks again, Joseph, for sharing so deeply your views, opinions and journey. It was a blast!

(*Traffic on the Bay Bridge was unbelievable that evening and ended up making Joseph late for the interview. As an added bonus, go to my ReidAboutSex YouTube channel to see the Prologue bit from Joesph’s interview, the part I edited out. Watch it to find out how a soccer game made Joseph late and what we did in response to that…)

College Speaking Tour

As many of you who’ve attended my workshops know and can see from the Joseph Kramer interview above, I’ve been dutifully filming footage of everything I’ve been teaching for about a year now. As some of you know, footage doesn’t edit itself! And while I’ve got a long history of working in the film and television world (actor, writer, producer), I’m not the fastest film editor in the West… Heck, I’m not the fastest editor anywhere in the U.S. for that matter!

To make matters worse,  I’ve also been gathering and digitizing lots of old footage of me teaching and being interviewed. I even have a bunch of my old Soap Opera acting gigs and old commercials on disc now (I was an actor, film producer and fight choreographer prior to launching my career as a sex and relationship expert, if you didn’t know).

Here’s the headshot that landed me a McDonalds commercial where I played a… Wait for it… Wait… You guessed it: a hockey player! Just wait till I show you my ESPN2 commercial with me as a Swedish lumberjack! Flannel never looked so sexy…

Thanks Ron Rinaldi at www.RonRinaldi.com for the headshot!

As my friend and old bartending/waitering buddy, Hollywood actor Billy Crudup (who’s also the voice for MasterCard in those commercials) would say, “Priceless!”

Short story long, I hope to have a lot of fun video stuff available for you in the coming months, including some really fun and insightful clips from some past in-store teaching gigs and college gigs. I know it’s Summer now and school’s out, but if you want to book me to come to speak at your College or University this September and October, I’m beginning to book my Fall Tour now, so email me at Reid (at) ReidAboutSex.com.

Speaking of college tours, hopefully, I’ll be able to include your school in something really BIG and exciting that I’ve been plotting now for several months… Nothing is certain yet, but, if I can manage to pull it off, it’s going to be awesomely fun and make for some great video footage, and maybe bring me to your Campus. Keep your fingers crossed and wish me luck!

Rhode Island Sexpert Megan Andeloux of OhMegan.com doin' what she does best: Talkin' to students 'bout sex...

Reid with a group of delighted (and silly) college students after presenting one of his first ever "Stand-Up Sex Ed" comedy talks, which was to a packed room of over 200 students!

And for the sex educators among you who’re interested in booking college teaching/speaking gigs, if you’re in the East Bay this July 21st, come spend the day with one of the busiest sexperts in the biz, Megan Andeloux and yours truly as we share our gig-landing secrets in Booking U.: How To Book Paid, College and In-Store Sex Ed Teaching Gigs.

Month in Review, in Pics…

It’s been a busy month on the road… And I’ve got the pix to prove it!

Whoa! Look at that Brooklyn, NY, sunset!... Hey! Who put that cool refreshing beverage in my hand? I'm supposed to be workin'!

I swear I was busting my hump the four days I was in the Big Apple; however, my trip home to New York City was nearly entirely filled with Relationship Coaching and Sex Ed Mentoring Clients. The one night I did have a few free hours, I stole away to Brooklyn to a BBQ hosted by the amazingly smart (and cute) sexual civil rights lawyer Diana Adams, Esq., who collaborated with me on the Women Who Give Too Much teleclass series.

After a quick skip to Akron, Ohio, for a wedding, it was back on a plane to the Windy City for…

And so it begins…

It was my first trip to Chicago as a sex and relationship educator and, truth be told, I was a tad nervous…

At Chicago's The Pleasure Chest letting off a little nervous energy before my first Chicago workshop EVER: Dildos, Dental Dams and Deep Throating!

Dildos, Dental Dams, and Deep Throating has begun... As evidenced by the... proliferation of... Dildos! Double fisting, you say?

My patented Neo from The Matrix's "over the shoulder" move got a good laugh from the workshop participants... "Are you saying I can dodge dildos?" "No, Neo. I'm saying one day, you won't have to!"

Demonstrating how to properly place a dental dam on a store display (displaying a strap-on harness, btw) in my Dildos, Dental Dams and Deep Throating workshop...

Now it's a mask!... Demonstrating how to properly use a dental dam to the audinece at Chicago's The Pleasure Chest during Dildos, Dental Dams and Deep Throating!

Under NO circumstances should you try to deep throat THIS!... Showing off one of my favorite toys to NOT deep throat, NJoy's ever awesome "The Eleven!"

Day-2: Anal Pleasure for Beginners. Time to help folks put the "Us" in anus...

Describing how you can access the G-spot and P-Spot (the prostate) via anal pleasuring... Yes, that's an official latex "Belladonna Extreme Pussy and Ass" in my lap. How'd THAT get there?!?

I'd always dreamnt of working with Belladonna... I should have been more specific. (The Secret DVD warned me this might happen.)

Demonstraing a trick Nina Hartley likes to teach called the "door bell," which can create lots of exciting sensations without ever penetrating the anus... (Belladonna was kind enough to tirelessly hold her butt cheeks apart for me during the entire workshop!)

I love my job... Deep, hearthfelt thanks to the amazingly knowledgable staff at Chicago's The Pleasure Chest! See you in November!

I was very pleased with how well The Pleasure Chest gigs went. Thursday in Chicago was devoted to Relationship Coaching and Sex Ed Mentoring (and catching up on emails). Friday was devoted to prepping for the two and a half day long Foundations of Facilitation Weekend Training Intensive, which got kicked off by an awesome, 22-person Chicago Cuddle Party! White Sox and Cubs fans cuddling together! Unbelievable!

Potential Cuddle Party Facilitators and workshop leaders at Chicago's Foundation of Facilitation weekend intensive. After nearly 14 hours of intense but fun training (with several more hours to go), it's time to let off some steam by applying serious facilitator skills sets to none other than... a silly game of Itsy Bitsy Spider!

All work and no play... LET'S EAT! Lunch time at Foundations of Facilitation. (Many thanks to Roman, our chef, who prepared some of the yummiest FoF Training grub yet!)

The next upcoming Foundations of Facilitation Weekend Intensives in are in Toronto, Canada, and Washington, D.C. in September and October. Wanna come?

I flew back to Oakland, CA, and promptly slept twelve hours! Woke up at 6am, went for a run, and been at my desk ever since, making phone calls, updating the website, and cranking out the June newsletter before it officially turns into July…

And what a busy, event-full July it’s going to be… Better make myself some more coffee!!! Shall I pour you a cup?

Back at my desk working at the 'puter... I can haz coffee and Bailey's, plz?

Events In July…

Juuuuuust in case you’re in the neighborhood…

JOIN REID IN LOS ANGELES and SANTA MONICA…

July 7th: Join Reid at LA’s The Pleasure Chest for an outrageiously funny night of eXXXtreem sex education…

Dildos, Dental Dams and Deep Throating!

July 10-11th: Join Reid in Santa Monica for two days of amazing exploration into the world of energetic sex!

Energetic Sex 2-Day Intensive

Reid demonstrates an energetic orgasm and what he calls "Tantric Twitchies" (Kriyas) for the audience with the generous help of Amber Seitz at a workshop in Oakland

JOIN REID IN SAN FRAN/OAKLAND…

July 21st: Join two of the busiest sexperts in da’ bid’ness as they walk you through what you need to do to get paid to teach across the country!

Booking U.: How To Book Paid, Sex Ed Teaching/Speaking Gigs at Colleges and Stores!

July 31st: Join sexperts Reid Mihalko and Sheri Winston for an afternoon of experiential, one-on-one and group learning designed to make Energetic Sex simple and attainable, and fun!

Breath-gasms and Energetic Sex Revealed! with Sheri Winston and Reid Mihalko

July 31st: Watch as two sexperts go pelvis-to-pelvis… Reid Mihalko Vs. Nurse-midwife and Gynecology Nurse-practitioner-turned-Workshop Guru Sheri Winston in an all-new…

Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown!

Well, I almost got the June newsletter out while it was June, but no worries. What’s a few hours between friends, right?

No matter what month it is, like I’m fond of thinking Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the bedroom!”

Hope yours was a fulfilling June, now go and have an amazingly explosive July. And while I’m at it: Happy birthday, America!

Till next month, yours in savvy, accessible and sexy sex ed…
REiD

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• Are you a workshop facilitator looking to enhance your facilitation kung-fu?
• Do you lead groups or create experiences for people that focus on, explore or involve intimacy and trust?
• Are you interested in leading Cuddle Parties or creating and running your workshops like Reid Mihalko runs his?
• Curious about how Reid and Marcia Baczynski have managed to train their growing organization of 50+ Cuddle Party facilitators across five countries and three continents in less than 5 years?

Foundations of Facilitation Training, created by world renowned sex educators Reid Mihalko and Marcia Baczynski, is a weekend-long intensive program designed to provide you with the skills you need to create powerful, transformative workshops. Created by the inventors of Cuddle Party, this training will provide you with the tools you need to enhance your confidence, create new depth to your presentations, and improve your ability to create relatedness with just about anyone. Whether you are new to running events for groups, or have been facilitating for years, this interactive, hands-on training has much to offer.

If you’re a Yes to any of the above questions,

come spend the weekend with Reid!

“I took my first facilitator training 30 years ago, and it’s been a long, long time since I learned so much in one weekend.” — Ankha, Minnesota

Read this Extraordinary Testimonial from Madeleon HERE!

Over the course of the weekend, you will learn how to:

• create safe, non-sexual space to explore intimacy on both a personal and professional level
• lead workshops that leave your participants feeling touched, open, valued and nurtured
• generate an environment where women and men communicate more authentically
• listen profoundly
• create a powerful relatedness with strangers quickly and easily
• be more open to others and able to give and receive comfortably
• create strong boundaries for yourself without shutting others down

You will also learn:

• tools for building a strong, intimate community
• advanced tools for handling rejection
• communication techniques that open people up to discuss intimacy, desires, fears and needs

Foundations of Facilitation has trained over 200 men and women. They have consistently rated FoF as one of the best training workshops available… and these workshop junkies, facilitator black belts and self-help gurus know workshops!

“Most training weekends of this kind cost nearly a $1000. The Foundations of Facilitation training weekend is only $495 and comes with my money-back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied. So what have you got to loose? Come to Chicago and spend it with me!”

~Reid

2010's Oakland FOF Intensive Group after their Friday night Cuddle Party kick-off!

Whether you simply want to enhance your own leadership skills or become a certified Cuddle Party Facilitator, this is one weekend you won’t want to miss. Join us for one of our upcoming 2010 FoF training weekends:

Jun 18-20, 2010 in Santa Cruz, CA

Jun 25-27, 2010 in Chicago, IL with Reid Mihalko!

Sep 24-26, 2010 in Toronto, ON, Canada

Oct 01-03, 2010 in DC/Mid-Atlantic Area

Jan 21-23, 2011 in Atlanta (area), GA

Feb 25-27, 2011 in Oakland

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Change people’s lives. REGISTER NOW for Foundations of Facilitation Training. For more information, visit the training schedule or our Training FAQ.

“I encourage anyone with a hankering to become a CP facilitator to take the leap and DO IT!  It has been one of my greatest joys for the past 3 years…after all, how many people can say that they come to work in their p’j's, get paid to touch and be touched and it’s legal?  <3″

— Edie Weinstein, Philledelphia, PA

“Of all the workshops I’ve attended, the [Foundations of Facilitation] Training has given me the most practical and useful tools to create and maintain direct, open and honest communication with EVERYONE in my life DAILY.”

— Tracy, Alabama

Cuddle Party creator, Reid Mihalko, leading a week’s worth of amazing education in the Windy City!

Chicago, IL • June 22-27th, 2010

• July 22nd: Dildos, Dental Dams and Deep Throating
• July 23rd: Backdoor Luvin’: Anal Play for Beginners
• July 25th: Chicago Cuddle Party with Reid!
• July 25-27th: Foundations of Facilitation Weekend Intensive (See below)

Foundations of Facilitation Weekend with Reid

• Are you a workshop facilitator looking to enhance your facilitation kung-fu?
• Do you lead groups or create experiences for people that focus on, explore or involve intimacy and trust?
• Are you interested in leading Cuddle Parties or creating and running your workshops like Reid Mihalko runs his?
• Curious about how Reid and Marcia Baczynski have managed to train their growing organization of 50+ Cuddle Party facilitators across five countries and three continents in less than 5 years?

If you’re a Yes to any of the above questions,
come spend the weekend with Reid!

Click HERE for more info!

What does it take to show up as someone who creates a space for people to discover themselves?

From a recent attendee of my Foundations of Facilitation Weekend Intensive that happened in Oakland, CA. The next one I lead will be in Chicago, June 25-27th… Thanks, Madelon!

It’s been almost two weeks since I returned from taking The Foundations Of Facilitation 3 day training in San Francisco with Reid Mihalko and Marcia Bazcynski, the creators of Cuddleparty – among many other things – and I’m beginning to get enough perspective to filter my experience into words.

Being taught about facilitation by being expertly facilitated in a workshop on facilitation is a bit of a rabbit hole to go down. I was given space to discover my own ability to create space and what my obstacles are:  Creating space in me creates space around me for others to have their own space. Whew, that’s a brain twister!

The truth is this paradox was everywhere and the lines between who is teaching, who is learning and what is being taught all blur together. Facilitating is all about giving and receiving and, as one particular exercise in the workshop made clear to me, they are truly one and the same.

Reid and Marcia created an extraordinarily safe space. They set a tone of playful and intelligent allowing, brimming with respect and downright kindness, that facilitated me going deeply into my own insights. Everyone in this workshop was my teacher and I’ve walked away with more trust and assurance in myself and the ability to reflect that to anyone who comes to one of my events. When I know my participants already have everything they need and we can really play and have fun together. This is the kind of facilitator I like being!

So there, I’ve tried to give it words and now I can just step back and say. “This workshop is amazing!” I could take it over and over and keep getting just as much out of it. For the facilitator to be facilitated is the biggest gift ever. It shows me how much I am giving when I receive it. It shows me my responsibility as a participant for how I show up. It shows me how powerful the non-doing of facilitating is – how what is NOT said can be much more powerful that what IS said.

Speaking of taking it over and over again… I’ll be doing just that June 25th – 27th when Reid Mihalko comes here to give this workshop in June. And I’m not the only one, another participant is already signing up to come here from San Franciso. I am sending this to you because I want to have my friends come play in this space too.

I know you as someone who is very interested in creating space for others to discover their own truths and share your authentic self in the process. If you’re interested in deepening your ability to do this, in strengthening your facilitation “kung fu”, as Reid calls it, come sit with a Ninja who generously shares his secrets. And come play with me!

Go to www.foundationsoffacilitation.org for more info and to register. If you’d like info about payment options – or about my experience – call or email me.  madloni@comcast.net or 773-320-7571

With Love,
~Madelon

P.S. I invite you to pass this on to anyone you think may benefit from it as well.

The slower you go, the faster you get there…

Curious about anal play and pleasure but not sure how to proceed? Maybe you’ve tried it once or twice with some success and want to upgrade your info and level of self-confidence? Perhaps you know it’s something you love, but you don’t know how to talk to your loved ones about it?

While everyone has a butt, anal play isn’t for everyone. But unless you have good intel on what to do and how to best explore your rear (or your lover’s), it’s all too easy to mess up what, for some people, is a whole new world of exciting, stimulating fun lurking right around the bend!

While everyone has a butt, anal play isn’t for everyone…

Date: Wed, June 23rd, 2010
Time: 8-10pm Central
Cost: FREE!
Where: Chicago’s The Pleasure Chest
3436 North Lincoln Avenue
Chicago IL 60657
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Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com for 2-hrs of laughter and useful information designed to loosen up the “uptight” and give you tools to put the “us” in anus…

In this R-rated workshop where you get to ask all your questions, we will cover:

• The common misconceptions surrounding Anal Sex
• Ways you can talk about backdoor desires while lessening the chances of a partner freak-out
• The ins and outs of anal anatomy
• Safer sex as it applies to butt-play
• Hygiene tips and tricks
• Lube, lube, lube! – and why it’s important!!!
• Butt toys for girls and boys!
• And much, much more…

Bring a friend, bring a notebook, and be sure to bring your questions! Drop by and let Reid do what he does best: Up your self-esteem and self-confidence when it comes to sex and relationships!

Even if you’re not sure you’d be into anal pleasuring, the communication skill sets and pragmatic sex information covered in this workshop can be applied to the areas of sex and lovemaking that you ARE into.

This workshop is part of June’s…

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationship and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health for everyone in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

An Outrageous Evening of Safer Sex Info and XXXtreme Sex Education with Reid Mihalko

Feel a little intimidate or embarrassed by the idea of adult toys? Do you think deep throating is impossible to learn? Perhaps your asking yourself, “Dental dams? What the heck are dental dams!?”

Let’s face it, most people want to feel confident in between the sheets and our culture does a horrible job educating us on being sexually savvy. Worse, when it does, sex education often feels like going to the dentist.

That was, until now…

Date: Tues, June 22rd, 2010
Time: 8-10pm Central
Cost: FREE!
Where: Chicago’s The Pleasure Chest
3436 North Lincoln Avenue
Chicago IL 60657
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Join world renowned sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com for an outrageously informative, irreverent and hilarious evening of R-rated, adult education and demonstration.

In this 2-hour workshop, you will learn…

• The ins and outs of dildo use
• Why the phrase “professional tools create professional results” is key to building an amazing sex life!
• Why using sex toys means you’re awesome and not “less-than” as a lover…
• What a dental dam is and how to use one
• How to deep throat and how to teach your lovers!
• Great tips for oral sex on men and women
• The basics of safer sex and how to negotiate safer sex with ease

If you (or your partners) think “prophylactic” is the name of a Star Wars character, get your butt to this workshop!

If you want a dildo or want to upgrade on the one you already have, if you don’t have a clue where to start or which one is right for you or your lover… If you think that deep throating is only for porn stars or that dental dams are just for the dentist’s office… Then Reid’s Dilods, Dental Dams and Deep Throating is for you!

This is a two-hour, co-ed workshop for all sexual orientations, identities, and relationship statuses. This workshop includes some live, fully-clothed demonstrations, explicit language and lots of laughter. Like all of Reid’s R-rated workshops: No participation or nudity required by participants. Bring a notebook, watch, giggle and ask questions!

This workshop is part of June’s…

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid has worked with thousands of individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health for adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.