[Danny]
Summer lovin’ had me a blast
[Sandy]
Summer lovin’ happened so fast
[Danny]
I met a girl crazy for me
[Sandy]
Met a boy cute as can be
[Both]
Summer days driftin’ away, to uh-oh those summer nights
~Grease - Summer Nights
Summer luvin’ is upon us!
As Summer heats up across the country, I hope Spring Fever wasn’t tooooo hard on you! 
I’ve been my characteristically busier-than-a-bee these last few months, and while I’ve got lots to share about my whereabouts and what-tos, I’m equally (if not more) excited about what’s coming down the pipeline! (Hint: This week’s Cracking The Midlife Code and Safer Sex Talks, and this October’s ASEP Conference!)
Without further adieu, here’s a collage of What I Did On My Summer Vacation (So Far) and What I’m About To Do This Summer!
Spread the word, people, and get your “Sex Geek Chic” on this summer!
What I Did On My Summer Vacation (So Far)
In March, I whirl-winded through Phoenix, Arizona, for my Earning Your BLACKBELT In Relationships DVD screening and to work with a small group of sex-positive professionals on building better boundaries and agreements in our work.
To me, a “sex-positive professional,” which I think should be a self-selected orientation/definer, is anyone whose work/profession/calling/hobby is in alignment with the following intentions:
- Helping people to talk about sex and relationships in more empowering, normalizing ways
- Providing people with accurate sexual health information (Sexual health, after all, is a basic human right!)
- Working from or towards an awareness of sex-neutrality, informed consent, and a sense of relationship choice and freedom of sexual self-expression
- Includes pleasure as a worthwhile reason to have sex, if not one of THE best reasons!
I’m nervous to share the above bullet-points because they are a work in progress for a future post; however, I think sitting on my definition of “sex-positive professional” until it’s “perfect” isn’t the most useful thing to do. Thus, I’m sharing it now (And I reserve the right to make amends as my thinking improves!).
Better boundary-setting and agreement making skills among sex-positive professionals (whether you’re a sex blogger, work for Planned Parenthood, write how-to books, teach Tantra, sell toys to bachelorettes, or do sex work, etc., etc.) has been a small, personal crusade of mine for several years now.
If we the “sexperts” aren’t being great role models for clear communication and taking care of our selves, what kind of example are we setting for those who seek us out?
The larger version of this crusade of mine would culminate at the end of April when I returned to Arizona, to give an important talk on Sex Addiction, Erotic Integrity and Best Practices in Tantra at Sedona’s 10th Annual ISTA Sex and Consciousness Educators Conference, which I was also honored to help Emcee.
- Giving my Sex Addiction and Erotic Integrity Talk at the ISTA 10th Anniversary Sex and Consciousness Educators Conference in Sedona, AZ.
- Posing with Taoist sexual energy icon Master Mantak Chia and Tantra educator Triambika after Master Chia's keynote at the ISTA 10th Anniversary Sex and Consciousness Educators Conference. Since I was co-Emcee, I got to help introduce Master Chia! My inner Sex Geek was a'squealin'!
But before I’d get to give my talk in Sedona, I would spend many weeks on the road teaching workshops and working with relationship coaching clients, and a truly amazing weekend in Washington, D.C., helping keynote a panel discussion with some of my sex ed heroes at Momentum Conference! It was an honor to sit at the same table as Tristan Taormino, Dr. Carol Queen, Jenny Block, and Lynn Comella. I also gave a few lectures and rented a bus we nicknamed the Sex Geek Bus to take 36 Sex Geeks to Baltimore and back for a night of networking and dancing as I emceed Sugar’s The Red and Black Ball. Big thanks to TRUST Intimacy massage oil for sponsoring the Sex Geek Bus…
- Sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko and his gaggle of 34 Sex Geeks all dressed in black tie and red at the Red and Black Ball
See more Momentum Con and Sex Geek Bus Pics HERE.
April would also bring with it more true-life, dirty storytelling, something I’m finding out is A LOT of fun! It’s been my pleasure to have become sort of a regular fixture of San Fran’s Bawdy Storytelling, telling stories of lesbians and something NOT lube, and a tale which included Lindsay Lohan, even! (Little did I know in April that I’d be trekking down to Los Angeles in June to pop Bawdy’s “on the road” cherry in their first road trip show, a show I quickly dubbed The Sex Geek Road Trip!)
Here are videos from those shows… Enjoy!
And here is an inspiring story from youth sex activist Xandir…
For pictures of all the other workshops I taught this summer, check out my Facebook Albums HERE.
What I’m About To Do This Summer!
While this might not be in chronological order or by order of importance… Here are a bunch of things I’m super excited about… (When in dobut, check my Calendar for upcoming events and links!)
Cracking the Midlife Code THIS MONTH!
Now that I’ve succeeded in staying alive long enough to “age-out” of the TNG crowd… I’m honored to be doing my part to eradicating mediocre Midlife Sex! Join me for a month-long event, of which, I’m a part HERE!
Not only will you get a slew of great FR*EE downloads and stuff from me, but the gaggle of amazing experts Nina Price has herded together promises to be worthwhile! I’m excited. Are YOU!?!
If you’re curious about Midlife and how you can kick it’s ass… Check it out!
Oakland, San Fran, and San Jose: Safer Sex Talks, SlutWalkSF and Reid gets a green thumb at Annie Sprinkle’s Eco-Sexuality Symposium…
For those of you in the East Bay of NorCal this weekend, please spread the word on Reid’s whereabouts!
- Satuday afternoon: Safer Sex Talks in Oakland, June 18th
- Satirday night, June 18th: SexEcology Symposium Panel moderated by Reid Mihalko at San Fran’s Center for Sex and Culture
- Sunday, June 19thy: Reid puts on his walkin’ shoes for SlutWalkSF!
- Sunday, June 26th: The Full Body Kiss and Ask-Anything Q&A -WOMEN ONLY!- in San Jose!
Save the Date Events (‘Cause they’re not on the Calendar yet!):
In or around San Francisco early August? Put these down on your calendar toot-sweet!
- Aug 1st: Sex Geek Industry Night in San Fran: TBA – check Reid’s Calendar HERE.
- Aug 2nd: From Hand To Mouth: Pleasuring Women’s Bodies! at Good Vibrations in SF.
Emceeing the AVN Novelty Expo’s “O” Awards!
I can’t believe I get to be the Billy Crystal of the adult toy novelty’s version of the Academy Awards! This event is the premier Business-t0-Business event for folks near and dear to the adult, sex toy industry. I’m SUPER excited to be able to contribute my sex geekery to the festivities!
Are you a sex blogger/educator/toy reviewer? YOU SHOULD BE WITH US!
Learn more HERE!
If you work in or around the adult toy novelty business, then the AVN ANE (and festivities!) are definitely where you want to be! Mix business with pleasure ’cause pleasure IS your business!
- Sex and relationship expert Reid Mihako drinking out of a prototype, stainless steel, dildo flask created by NJoy founder Greg DeLong at 2011's Momentum Conference in D.C.
And after the AVN ANE and ‘O’ Awards excitement, join me at LA’s historic Pleasure Chest for two nights of group sex know-how…
Join me and a slew of Sex Geeks in Florida this Fall!
I’m organizing this year’s conference for that Association for Sexual Energy Professionals and it’s happening on St. Pete’s Beach in warm, sunny Florida THIS October! If you consider yourself a sexual energy professional, then get thy energetic, sex-positive butt to the TradeWinds beach resort ASAP!
- Join Reid on the Floridian beaches of St. Pete for one of the best Sex Geek gatherings of the year!
Need more info about ASEP’s 2011 Conference? You can find it HERE.
Keynoting and rabble-rousing at Playground in Canada… Oh, Canada!
Join me and a slew of other amazing Sex Geeks in Toronto this November HERE! It’s going to be SO MUCH FUN!
For my upcoming calendar of events and the like, please visit my calendar HERE.
I think that’ll do for this month! Let me know what you’re yearning for, okay? And I’ll see if I can’t whip something up for you all!!!!
Yours in savvy sex ed,
REiD
