ReidAboutSex http://reidaboutsex.com Sex and Relationship Expert Reid Mihalko's offical site Thu, 22 Jan 2015 10:14:26 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1 Don’t let $$$ be the reason your relationships (or career) crash and burn… Shift it all THIS Saturday! http://reidaboutsex.com/dont-let-money-be-the-reason-your-relationships-or-career-crash-and-burn/ http://reidaboutsex.com/dont-let-money-be-the-reason-your-relationships-or-career-crash-and-burn/#comments Thu, 08 Jan 2015 08:55:15 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7430

Did you know that money conflicts are one of THE BIGGEST reasons romantic (and business connections) fail? And that fear of having money conflicts or shame around money is a main reason people don’t start new relationships of any kind?

Young couple doing online banking in the living roomI want to help… In my typically geeky and “what’s your self-expression” way.

You know I don’t give cookie cutter answers or tell you how you “should” express yourself. AND its so important to know what your options are and to learn new skills and perspectives so you even know what options are out there!

The thing is, even though lots of people have asked me to talk about money and to help them with how they handle money in their relationships. While I’m glad to help folks with the difficult conversations around money, I’m not a financial expert.

So I teamed up with some people who ARE super savvy around money. And I’m inviting you to join me!

Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com and I are running a special, one day virtual intensive on Money and Relationships on Saturday, January 10th. This is a full day, online series of calls designed to bring the best out of your relationships and your money!

We’ve pulled together internationally recognized experts in the field of money management, and relationships, to create a clear path for you to discover new communication skills and learn best practices for taking care of your money so it can take care of you.

Its surprisingly easy to take the first, powerful steps to achieving financial freedom and clear intentions and boundaries around money!

For the FREE Virtual Intensive, we’ll be starting at 10am Eastern on the 10th and rolling with different articulate, funny, and rather brilliant people all day! And since we know life happens… You’ll have free access to the recordings for 24 hours. (But be there live with us if you can! The energy of being with us live is lots of fun!!)

You’re going to learn some amazing things… Including:
– Money Etiquette
– How to set your intentions with money, and learn your money style!
– Setting and sharing money boundaries
– Savvy money tips from top experts
– How to resolve money conflicts when you have different money styles!

So sign up now, and save the date so you can learn up-to-date, savvy ways to communicate about money and deal with money, all in one day, from the comfort of your home!

http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/mar-intensive

See the lineup and schedule when you sign up. See you there!

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Does your family need a “Holiday Safeword”? http://reidaboutsex.com/holiday-safeword/ http://reidaboutsex.com/holiday-safeword/#comments Wed, 24 Dec 2014 18:27:13 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7388

Do you and your family need a Holiday Safeword? Do you know what your “Chill Down Styles” are?

As my holiday gift to you, here are some fun tips that might just help you get through the “holidaze” of friends and family with more grace and ease…

First, I want to invite you, if you haven’t already – Register for The Question (a free webinar designed to give yourself clarity and insight in YOUR LIFE so you can blast off in 2015!)

This call was SO much fun! And the replay is a great way for you to tune in to what’s really important to you for the next year.

Thank you and Cathy sooooo much you for a killer call!!! Addressed EXACTLY what I was most struggling with: macro versus micro, baby steps vs. life trajectory. Pleasantly surprised to realize I have a surplus of resources and needs-providing loved ones, folks who have my back, but who’ll also hold me to my 90-day totally-achievable deadlines. And realized “shit, I know exactly what I want, and I’m already doing it,” it’s just a matter of seeing that and breaking things down into “ok, I am actually on track, I’m just prioritizing what I need to prioritize right now to maximize the range of options and skill-sets I’ll have available to me to realize my mega-project goals down the line.” As usual, post-Reid-event, feeling 10+ times better than two hours ago going into the call. Rocks to be on the receiving end of live-streaming genius at work :) ~Casey 

As several people said on the call… This is doable! One person shared “This the first time I’ve ever seen a clear path forward to creating what I really want!”

I want YOU to have that kind of focus and purpose for the new year, whatever it is you want to create! http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/thequestion

Okay… On To Chill Down Styles.

Last year at this time I talked about Cool Down Styles where I shared how different people cool down from a fight: http://reidaboutsex.com/cool-down-styles/

Everyone has a “Cool Down Style,” or several. With whatever holiday you celebrate, however you ring in 2015, and all the pressures and people (not to mention the fruitcake!)… It can be useful to not only know your Cool Down Style… But your Chill Down Style.

What I mean here is it can be really useful to take time to preemptively chill out BEFORE things escalate to fights, or you hit the egg nog and can’t resist telling Uncle Bart what you really think of his latest Facebook rant. And no matter how much you adore Great Aunt Hazel and Uncle Charlie, even too much of a good thing can be overwhelming at times.

So I encourage you to figure out how you want to take a break and take care of yourself, and implement some of them well before good intentions go flying out the window! Let’s call it our “holiday insurance,” shall we?

First, think about what helps you recharge? Are you someone who needs some alone time? Or do you love having someone to vent to for a few minutes (“Can you believe she asked me THAT?!)? Does it help you to go outside for fresh air and whatever sunshine you can find at the end of December, or would you prefer to hide in a room (any room) by yourself? Do you want to meditate or go for a run?

Actually creating a list of things you know would recharge you and let you re-enter the “ring” with new humor and energy can remind you to take care of yourself.

What’s your Holiday Safeword?

Safewords are a sex geeky concept from the BDSM/kink community. Generally speaking, they are code words or phrases that you use to slow down or halt an activity or “scene.”

If your holidays are anything like mine when I was growing up… It would have been awesome if I could have “safeworded” out of family gatherings. And, perhaps, you actually can! Here’s how…

Start with a Shared Intention. Sometimes finding shared intentions for the holidays can get everyone on the same page. “Connecting and creating fond memories while we’re together,” is hard for even the Grinch’iest of family to argue with, right? Train everyone to use a “Safeword” if any of them need to hit the eject button and leave the room or house for a reset or to cool down. Normalizing the idea that we’ll all have a better time and fulfill on the family’s “holiday intention” if we take care of our alone-time needs, and establishing that it’s healthy to excuse yourself from the reunion to “walk off that Christmas goose and get some fresh air”… Instituting these kinds of “permissions” can help everyone have a better time!

If some of your family aren’t buying the idea of intentions and safewords, then start enlisting your “saner” relatives who are onboard. There is strength in numbers! If your sister needs quiet time, and that’s a good fit for you, too… Have her drop the Safeword to you so you two can declare you’re going to get some quality sister time by taking a nice long drive (and then go vent or be quiet together). Get the picture?

Target Pre-emptive, Focused Time. Realize that different families have different ways of connecting, and that taking some alone time for yourself can literally feel like “taking” from some of your family members, especially the ones who don’t see you often. To them, you’re actually stealing opportunities to make memories. My tip, if you know who those relatives are (and you like ‘em): Schedule some focused one-on-one time with them early-on in your holiday plans. There’s a good chance that Quality Time is their #1 Love Language for feeling loved, and 15-30mins of your focus early on can all of a sudden have them turning into your personal “Give you alone time” champion. Your milage may vary. :)

Have a Fall Back Scheme. In an emergency, when you need alone time, do what a friend of a friend did: Create a contest that the looser has to do all the dishes, then make sure that YOU “lose the bet.” She lost the bet with her sister and had to do the dishes by herself… All alone… In a quiet kitchen… With all the left overs. The dishes, and her peace of mind, were never so squeaky clean.

So, as you plan your Fail Safes, think of some ways you can chill down and recharge a bit before and during the “fray” called Family Time. Intersperse a few of these strategies through out your day, and if you can, plan to give yourself a favorite treat when you get home– Whether it’s a massage, a long bubble bath, a good venting session (I can’t believe she said that AGAIN!), a hot love making session, or a ritual dance of joy that your relatives live so far away (or so close you can see them often).

Self-care during the holidays can be challenging, but even a few small “breaks” to Chill Down and the option to Safeword-Out can make the difference between a day to endure and time to enjoy.

I hope your holidays are full of love and deep satisfaction. Thank YOU for believing in my work and calling. I can’t wait to kick-off 2015 with you!

Lots of love, appreciation, and just a sprinkle of silliness…
xxREiD

 

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Reid Mihalko & James Deen & Jessica Drake to share their geekery at AVN’s Sex Is… Fan Seminar Series, Jan 21-24th, Las Vegas http://reidaboutsex.com/reid-mihalko-james-deen-jessica-drake-to-share-their-geekery-at-sex-is-avns-fan-seminar-series-jan-21-24th-las-vegas/ http://reidaboutsex.com/reid-mihalko-james-deen-jessica-drake-to-share-their-geekery-at-sex-is-avns-fan-seminar-series-jan-21-24th-las-vegas/#comments Tue, 23 Dec 2014 17:53:41 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7383

Adult performer James Deen and sex educator Reid Mihalko's pictures side by sideJoin Reid, James Deen, Jessica Drake, et al, at AVN’s “Sex Is…” Fan Seminar Series at Vegas’ Hard Rock Hotel, Jan 22…

I’m geekily excited and honored to have been invited to Las Vegas to teach along side some impressive sex geeks at AVN’s prestigious, 2015 Adult Entertainment Expo (AEE), more popularly known as “The Porn Awards!”

AVN's 2015 fan seminar education track "Sex Is..." logo

Sex Is… is the name of their fan education seminar track, and I’ll be teaching the porn fans some savvy communication and negotiating skills via my popular Negotiating Successful Threesomes workshop scheduled to happen Thursday, Jan 22nd…

More info on my Negotiating Successful Threesomes class…

The menage a trios is a popular fantasy with twice the pleasure potential, but navigating a three-way romance (if only for one night) can be tricky. Join world renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com for this R-rated, fun-filled workshop (with live demonstrations!)…

Sex Is… Fan Seminar Schedule HERE

Date: January 21-24, 2015
Tickets: Get Tix Here!
Where: Hard Rock Hotel and Casino, 4455 Paradise Road, Las Vegas, NV 89169

The topics featured in “Sex Is…” are diverse and appeal to a wide range of attendees—there’s truly something for everyone. In addition my Negotiating Successful Threesomes workshop, there will also be workshops describing what happens on an adult film set, sex tips from Wicked Pictures contract star Jessica Drake, info about the swingers’ lifestyle, and more. Here’s a list of some of the workshops:

  • Tales From the Set
  • Jessica Drake’s Guide To Wicked Sex
  • The Men of Adult
  • Love The One You’re With
  • The Swinging Set
  • Playing Dress-Up
  • How To Shoot A Porno
  • The New Girls
  • How To Negotiate A Threesome
  • Ask James Deen
  • How To Find The G-Spot
  • Everything You Wanted To Know About Vibrators But Were Afraid To Ask
  • Meet The Hosts of the 2015 AVN Awards
  • Ask The Experts
  • Whip Me, Beat Me, Call Me Bad Names

Here’s hoping to see you in fabulous Las Vegas!

 

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

Reid has appeared on Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, People, Details, Marie Claire, The National Enquirer, The Washington Post, on VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio, Playboy Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

To date, Reid’s workshops and lectures have been attended by close to 40,000 men and women. Reid has been a featured speaker and keynote at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive organizations across the country. Reid has also been a writer, producer and behind the scenes consultant on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex. Like and subscribe to his Facebook page, Facebook.com/ReidAboutSex!

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Rough Sex For Nice Guys Workshop with Reid at The Pleasure Chest LA http://reidaboutsex.com/rough-sex-for-nice-guys-workshop-with-reid-at-the-pleasure-chest-la/ http://reidaboutsex.com/rough-sex-for-nice-guys-workshop-with-reid-at-the-pleasure-chest-la/#comments Mon, 22 Dec 2014 18:30:25 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7379

Martial Arts Techniques for the bedroom so YOU can be a blackbelt at sex…

If you’re a lover, not a fighter, but you or your lover like it a little rough, let America’s favorite sex geek (and double black belt), Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com, show you how you can safely be a bad ass in bed. From wresting to rough sex to advanced ergonomic techniques, join us for this humorous and informative workshop (with live demos!) on how to unleash your inner Bruce Lee of the bedroom.

 

Date: Tues Jan 20, 2015
Time: 8pm-10pm
Cost: Free!
Where: The Pleasure Chest LA, 7733 Santa Monica Blvd, West Hollywood, CA 90046 – Go HERE to for more info!

In this 2 hour class for men and women we’ll cover:

  • Rough sex for nice guys
  • The best sex positions, proper body positioning and ergonomics for harder, stronger, longer sex
  • Why and how wrestling can be a turn-on
  • Wrestling techniques that are safe, easy and fun
  • Hair-pulling 101
  • How to move your partner’s body around the bed with more ease
  • And much more!
No matter your experience level, orientation, relationship status, this class is going to be educational, fun, and give you some delicious bedroom kung-fu.  Sit and watch as Reid demonstrates how easy it is to be a black belt at sex! We’ll even have plenty of room for your questions! Join us! Bring friends! Bring a note book!

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

Reid has appeared on Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, People, Details, Marie Claire, The National Enquirer, The Washington Post, on VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio, Playboy Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

To date, Reid’s workshops and lectures have been attended by close to 40,000 men and women. Reid has been a featured speaker and keynote at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive organizations across the country. Reid has also been a writer, producer and behind the scenes consultant on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex. Like and subscribe to his Facebook page, Facebook.com/ReidAboutSex!

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The Question http://reidaboutsex.com/the-question/ http://reidaboutsex.com/the-question/#comments Mon, 15 Dec 2014 18:01:11 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7371

Hey, Sex Geek!

Have you noticed that time passes, sometimes too quickly? As kids, the holiday countdown for school break lasted foooooooorevvvvvvvvver! As adults, the things we long to accomplish and experience get lost in the blur and noise of everyday life! Whizzzzzzzzz! BAM! It’s December already?!


As we approach the end of 2014, I want to set you up powerfully for 2015! But we need to do it before the mad crush of last minute shopping! (And before our relatives show up and drive us crazy!)

YOU deserve to have your goals and dreams realized. And I want to help. YOU deserve to kick some butt in 2015! We both know how easily time can have it’s way with us and, poof!, another round of lost opportunities. But not THIS year! Not for you and me… Why? Because…

THIS Wednesday, I’m holding a free, special training (December 17th at 8:30pm Eastern) where I’ll walk you through a profound call on answering “The Question.”

We’ll spend 60-mins digging powerfully (and easily!) deep, guiding YOU to clarity and insights on what you want (head and heart, not just “shoulds”) to create in 2015 towards a fulfilling, deliciously rich life.

As I mentioned, this call is free. Show up with a pen and paper, and a curious mindset, And I’ll help you tune in and turn up your desires. AND together, we’ll create an inspiring, transformative plan to upgrade and recalibrate how you spend your energy, focus, and time in 2015 so you’re ready and aligned to kick some major tushy!

Register here right now:

http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/thequestion

Here’s just a taste of what you’ll learn on this special online training:

* Identify what really matters and where you can focus to create fulfillment.
* What subconscious (or maybe conscious blocks) are stopping you.
* What assets and opportunities you have that you might miss…
* And what inner strengths you can bring into play to create the 2015 of your dreams!

Plus, tons more… All in just 60-mins!

Here is the link to get registered now:

http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/thequestion

See you there,
xxREiD

P.S. There will be a recording sent to everyone who registers- but I encourage you to be there live. The group energy can help you see more clearly and get past resistance. (I could go into the geeky neurology of community and all- but trust me, there is science behind this!)

http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/thequestion

 

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Negotiating Successful Threesomes at The Pleasure Chest in NYC on Jan 6th http://reidaboutsex.com/negotiating-successful-threesomes-at-the-pleasure-chest-in-nyc-on-jan-6th/ http://reidaboutsex.com/negotiating-successful-threesomes-at-the-pleasure-chest-in-nyc-on-jan-6th/#comments Wed, 03 Dec 2014 01:14:25 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7366

Double your pleasure without destroying your relationships…

The menage a trios is a popular fantasy with twice the pleasure potential, but navigating a three-way romance (if only for one night) can be tricky. Join world renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com for this R-rated, fun-filled workshop (with live demonstrations!)…

Date: Tues Jan 6, 2015
Time: 8pm-10pm
Cost: Free!
Where: The Pleasure Chest NYC-Upper East Side, 1150 2nd Ave, NY, NY 10065 – Go HERE to for more info!

Not only will you get a chance to ask questions in this workshop, but we’ll cover:

  • What are the best techniques to satisfy two lovers at once?
  • Ways to overcome fears and concerns – Yours AND your partner’s!
  • The most common threesome mistakes (and how to avoid them!)
  • How to negotiate boundaries and safer sex protocols to make your next menage a trios tré bien!

Interested in M-F-M threesomes, F-M-F threesomes, F-F-F threesomes or M-M-M threesomes?… Whether you’ve had more threesomes than Jim Morrison or are just beginning to consider three-in-a-bed might be something you’d like to explore, this workshop will give you plenty of tools, tricks, perspectives and laughs to enhance your love life and strengthen your relationships! Bring your loved ones, bring your friends, and enjoy an educational and entertaining evening on how to successfully navigate one of the most common sexual fantasies: the threesome!

Even if you would NEVER be interested in a 3-way, this fun-filled class will give you lots of ways to talk to your loved ones about the things you DO WANT in the bedroom – no matter how tame or outrageous!

 

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

Reid has appeared on Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, People, Details, Marie Claire, The National Enquirer, The Washington Post, on VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio, Playboy Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

To date, Reid’s workshops and lectures have been attended by close to 40,000 men and women. Reid has been a featured speaker and keynote at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive organizations across the country. Reid has also been a writer, producer and behind the scenes consultant on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex. Like and subscribe to his Facebook page, Facebook.com/ReidAboutSex!

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Polyamory and Non-Monogamy Resources http://reidaboutsex.com/polyamory-and-non-monogamy-resources/ http://reidaboutsex.com/polyamory-and-non-monogamy-resources/#comments Tue, 02 Dec 2014 19:37:38 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7364

ThreesomesCompanyResources! Resources! Rah! Rah! Rah!

It’s hard enough to have a successful relationship with one person and you want to explore open relationships and non-monogamy?! You came to the right place!

Congratulations on being the kind of person who’s smart enough and courageously curious enough to fortify themselves with resources on open relationships and non-monogamy! Let the brain-sex begin…

Recommended Books

Opening Up by Tristan Taormino

The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

Radical Honesty: How To Transform Your Life By Telling The Truth by Brad Blanton

The Art of Living Consciously: The Power of Awareness to Transform Everyday Life by Nathaniel Branden

The Hard Questions by Susan Piver – This is a book that focuses on marriage, but the questions in it are AMAZINGLY POWERFUL. Super useful!

Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss what Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen, and Roger Fisher

More Than Two:  A practical guide to ethical polyamory by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert

The New Intimacy: Open-Ended Marriage and Alternative Lifestyles by Roanld Michael Mazur

Recommended Podcasts

Life On The Swingset Podcast – Podcasts on Non-Monogamy. This link is set to find all of Reid’s appearances, btw.

Sex Nerd Sandra Podcast – One of my favorite sex-positive podcasts. This link jumps to a podcast where Sandra, Allison Moon and I talk about Threesomes.

Sex Out Loud Podcast –  Being a guest on Tristan Taormino podcast is always an honor! This link jumps to one of my episodes on the show.

Recommended Websites and Organizations

Loving More, national polyamory organization – http://www.LoveMore.com

Tristan Taormino’s website from her Opening Up book with a GREAT poly group directory – http://OpeningUp.net

Kasidie, international swinger website run by great people – http://Kasidie.com

FetLife, the Facebook for Kinky People and the Kink-Curious… As with Facebook, be sure to read and be clear on their privacy policy. Because posting explicit photos. That’s why. It’s just good to know what you’re agreeing to. – http://FetLife.com

Reid-Created Courses and Programs…

Free Communication Skills Videos from R10x

Before you take your relationship geekery and communication skills to black belt levels with Reid’s R10x Course, check out the free training videos that will help you reboot the 2 biggest relationship mis-steps.

Earning Your BLACKBELT In Relationships

Check out Reid’s humorous and informative polyamory advice DVD with Kamal Devi from the Showtime show, Polyamory: Married and Dating!

Poly-Curious 101: Understanding Non-Monogamy e-Course

Curious about this new “lovestyle” you’re hearing a lot about called polyamory? With articulate and generous Relationship Specialists, LiYana Silver and Reid Mihalko, learn all you ever wanted to know (and probably a little bit more) about Polyamory: the movement for responsible non-monogamy that is opening up hearts and relationships in even the most unexpected of places.

Finding Your Perfect Poly Match

Join renowned sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko and expert in interpersonal relationship dynamics, Dr. Beth, for this downloadable, 3-call teleclass series (click link above for Call Outlines) designed to teach you to stop picking Mr. and Ms. Wrong, and how you can find better matches for your open relationships.

Creating Connection with Women – Free download

Join Reid Mihalko as he gives up his techniques and shares his philosophy on how to meet and connect with the women of today in this candid interview with self-esteem coach Andrew Schwartz.

Initiating Successful Threesomes Teleclass and Workbook

In this downloadable podcast, designed for adults of any orientation and relationship status, Reid will share his basic, foundational approaches on how to take an exciting, erotic idea (in this case, the threesome) and turn it into an actuality. This approach you can implement across all sorts of other intriguing desires in your lovelife, not just menagé à trios, btw!

Oral Sex Expertise Made Simple

Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko for the next installment in his Sexual Self-Confidence Series: Oral Sex Expertise! 2-hours of humorous, down to Earth, clothes-on-sex education where Reid personally walks you through his best teachings and techniques for creating AND receiving oral pleasuring.

Get your official SEX GEEK tshirt

Make it easy for other open-minded men and women to spot you from across a crowded room by flagging your sex geekery!

A smart phone self-portrait of Kimmie David, owner of New York City's Blue Stockings Independent Bookstore, in bed on white sheets wearing ReidAboutSex.com's cranberry colored SEX GEEK t-shirt

Wearing a Sex Geek tee is one of the easiest conversation starters to get folks sharing their views on sexuality because it allows them to come up to you and ask… Just sayin’.

 

 

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How Appreciation Can Change Your Relationships… And The Appreciation Game http://reidaboutsex.com/the-appreciation-game/ http://reidaboutsex.com/the-appreciation-game/#comments Thu, 30 Oct 2014 03:00:48 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7200

Thank you for being so amazing.

There are days when I’m tired, or frustrated, and its thoughts of you and your devotion to having amazing relationships that get me back at my computer, planning ways I can help make your life and love better.

I appreciate your curiosity and your desire to create a more loving and intimate world for yourself and those you love. You keep showing up and making the changes that make the difference!

By now, you know I’ve got a penchant for “the meta”… Meaning, I love to point out what’s going on behind “the curtain” of how we subconsciously operate and behave as humans. And I like teaching about teaching, and geeking out about geeking out! Why? Because, when you love scouring the world for new ideas and skills, and taking those new skills and ideas and pouring them over all the “old ideas” and what we know about being human… Well, you end up taking things to a whole new, next level.

That being said, let me do just that for you around the often never talked about but incredibly simple and powerful world of… Appreciation.

Most people were taught that to get appreciation, they had to work really hard and hope. My approach can leave you and those around you feeling powerful, seen and heard… Leave them warm and loved with appreciation. AND, you end up teaching your loved ones (yourself included!) how to get their own needs met better so you don’t have to be a mind-reader!

Behold: The Appreciation Game!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q67k0YXiAAo

The Appreciation Game can transform how you get your needs met and how well (and quickly) you can fill your partner’d, friends’, co-workers’, and kids’ needs.

Would you let me know what you think? And what you appreciate about this topic?

xxREiD

P.S. I’m sending some extra appreciation to Avid Aware, who was the winner of the Woodhull Twitter Contest. She’ll have a free registration to Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit 2015! If you missed the replay of my Social Media Webinar (the contest is over, sorry folks!) you can see it here:
http://www.reidaboutsex.com/woodhull-contest

P.P.S. You may have heard all the buzz about Sex Geek Summer Camp 2014! It was a blast, and I survived! If you want to see photos, you can check them out here:
https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.261696754020054.1073741829.185806781609052&type=3

P.P.P.S. If your a Sex Ed Professional and you want to join us for Camp 2015, get your deposit in now! I expect next year to sell out, with 37 campers already onboard!
http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/SummerCamp2015

 

Appreciation can light people up. The Appreciation Game can transform how you get your needs met and how well (and quickly) you can fill your partner, friends, co-workers, and kids needs. Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com share.

Reid: This just in. You know who you are. We won’t say your name but you left this comment, “I never comment in these but I always watch and absolutely adore this channel.” You’ll be watching this video. We’re talking to you. You rock.

Cathy: Thank you.

Reid: Thank you for leaving your first comment or whatever comment it was and for watching these videos. We know who you are and we’re talking to you. You’re amazing. I’m Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com.

Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com.

Reid: We don’t know what we’re talking about. We just hit record because we wanted to thank you. That goes to all of you who watch, who never left a comment, we like you too.

Cathy: We can talk about appreciation.

Reid: Appreciation. What would you like to be appreciated for, Cathy?

Cathy: I would like to be appreciated for my patience.

Reid: Really?

Cathy: Yes.

Reid: Cathy Vartuli, I would like to appreciate you for your patience.

Cathy: Thank you.

Reid: Thank you for being patient with me in times that I have tried your patience.

Cathy: Yes, you have. Thank you for …

Reid: That’s a lot.

Cathy: What would you like to be appreciated for, Reid?

Reid: I would like to be appreciated for shooting these videos when I’m often cranky and don’t want to shoot them because when we hit record, it changes my mood. I want to be appreciated for showing up.

Cathy: Thank you very much for showing up. I appreciate you, Reid.

Reid: Thank you. I want to appreciate you for showing up through my cranky pantsness to shoot the videos.

Cathy: Thank you. It’s worth it. It’s fun.

Reid: It is. That little game, what can I be appreciated for? I would like to be appreciated for, let’s just teach that.

Cathy: My old method was I go, “Well, I worked really hard.” I would kind of hint at things or I would appreciate someone else with the hopes of being appreciated back. It didn’t work a lot. Or if I did get appreciation, it wasn’t for the thing I wanted. I love this example. Reid’s like just go up and ask somebody.

Reid: Train your communities, your friends, your families, your kids if you have kids, to ask for appreciation by doing this, “I would like to be appreciated.” Then you reply, “What would you like to be appreciated for?” Their job is to tell you specifically what it is they want to be appreciated for and then you get present with them and appreciate them for that thing. Then usually, people will argue, “Oh, it doesn’t feel organic.” Listen, dropping hints …

Cathy: Is not okay.

Reid: In trying to get people to pick up hints and then appreciate you for the wrong thing, that just sucks. That’s not organic at all.

Cathy: It doesn’t feel very powerful.

Reid: Then you get resentful. Asking for things clearly but building in and this is where the kick back is or the payoff, when you role model for your friends and family and your community that it’s okay to ask specifically for what they want to be appreciated for, they will often come to you and be really specific about when they need to be appreciated which then you get to win, they win and then you can stop reading their minds and listening for weird hints.

Cathy: When our tanks are low, it’s harder to be kind and present and generous with people. I know when my tanks are low, I’m crankier. I’m just not as fun to be around for myself or others. When I ask for what in need and my tanks get filled up, I just feel good. Sometimes, if I see Reid being cranky, I’ll say, “Hey, do you need to be appreciated for something?”

Reid: I’ll say no. No. You didn’t get any of my hints. All right, maybe I…okay. I would like to be appreciated for such and such.

Cathy: Usually if I appreciate him for being amazing and awesome and incredibly generous with his time.

Reid: I’d be grudgingly feel just a little better.

Cathy: Make it genuine though. I’m not appreciating him just because, if you fake it, people can tell. Look for the real appreciation. The real genuine stuff.

Reid: If you’re really scrubbing the bottom of the boat because you’re like, “Oh my God, why don’t you just get it? Why do you always come to me with this appreciation?” The winning thread is if I appreciate them, if I really thank them for telling me what they needed, oh, they’re telling me exactly what they need. That saves me a buttload of bullshit later from them being cranky because I couldn’t figure out their hint. “Oh my goodness, I really can thank you. I really can appreciate you for needing appreciation about this thing that you brought me. Thank you so much.”

Cathy: And trusting, to be vulnerable and requesting something, that’s really heartfelt.

Reid: That changes relationships over time. Leave your comments. What would you like to be appreciated for right now?

Cathy: Come back. We have another video on a similar topic that’s going to rock your world.

Reid: We do?

Cathy: Yes.

Reid: Amazing.

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Blowjobs and Beyond with Reid at Good Vibes in San Francisco Nov 11th http://reidaboutsex.com/blowjobs-and-beyond-with-reid-at-good-vibes-in-san-francisco-nov-11th/ http://reidaboutsex.com/blowjobs-and-beyond-with-reid-at-good-vibes-in-san-francisco-nov-11th/#comments Mon, 27 Oct 2014 20:06:30 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7259

A woman's mouth with a peeled banana entering itTaking the “Ow” out of Blowjob was never more simple, nor more fun!

If you…

  • Want to leave your insecurities behind and master the craft of fellatio…
  • Thrill at the satisfaction of a job well done…
  • Appreciate the oral arts…
  • Want nothing more than your lovers squirming in their seats and screaming in pleasure…

Let sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com show you how to use your mouth, hands, and more to give mind-blowing blowjobs.

In this class with plenty of room for Q&A, you will learn:

  • Male anatomy from tip to taint!
  • Reid’s best tips and tricks for using your hands and other body parts to up the thrill…
  • Reid’s “the slow jerk” technique…
  • Things to do when you have a strong gag-reflex (all is not lost, folks!) and how to deepthroat
  • How to use pressure and body-leverage to augment your “blackbelt” fellatio skills!
  • Plus a few other sexy secrets that are sure to have them begging for more!

This class is opened for all orientations, relationship statuses, genders and levels of experience! Make Steak And a Blowjob Day memorable this year!

Date: Tues Nov 11th, 2014 – Blow Jobs And Beyond!  
Time: 6:30-8:30pm
Cost: $20 in advance; $25 at the door
Tickets: HERE! 
Where: Good Vibrations, 1620 Polk St, San Francisco, CA 94109

Curious about booking Reid for a private class? Go HERE!

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

Reid has appeared on Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, People, Details, Marie Claire, The National Enquirer, The Washington Post, on VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio, Playboy Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

To date, Reid’s workshops and lectures have been attended by close to 40,000 men and women. Reid has been a featured speaker and keynote at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive organizations across the country. Reid has also been a writer, producer and behind the scenes consultant on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex. Like and subscribe to his Facebook page, Facebook.com/ReidAboutSex!

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And The Winners Are… The 1st Annual Sex Geek Summer Camp Video Toy Review Contest Winners Announced! http://reidaboutsex.com/and-the-winners-are-the-1st-annual-sex-geek-summer-camp-video-toy-review-contest-winners-announced/ http://reidaboutsex.com/and-the-winners-are-the-1st-annual-sex-geek-summer-camp-video-toy-review-contest-winners-announced/#comments Sat, 25 Oct 2014 20:26:08 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7256

 

Reid Mihalko's 2014 Sex Geek Summer Camp group photo with camp sponsor CalExotics sex toy award winners

Campers from Sex Geek Summer Camp 2014 proudly touting their sex toy bounty provided by our generous sponsor CalExotics!

And The Winners Are…

At Sex Geek Summer Camp, the only business retreat for sex educators, I shared my enthusiasm for finding promotional partners/sponsors to fund your workshops/projects, how video sex toy product reviews can up your credibility as an expert, and how sharing vulnerably inspires your followers…

I taught how combining all three dynamics expands your reach, income, and professionalism as a sex educator.

We held a contest for our campers for best toy review using our fabulous sponsors’ products, and I was blown away by the enthusiasm, sheer talent, and variety/creativity of the videos submitted to our first annual Sex Geek Summer Camp Video Toy Review Contest!

After a lot of agonizing time trying to rank them… Honestly, it was tough! I finally have winners to announce!

(drum roll, please!)

4th Place Winner Receives:

  • 30 minute business and marketing consult with me
  • 30 minute story or website review with Cathy Vartuli of TheIntimacyDojo.com
  • 1 SexGeek Gift Bag

4th Place Winner:
Emilina with her Demerit Wear Review!

LIKE Demerit Wear on Facebook and thank them for us!
-Visit Demerit Wear’s website HERE-

3rd Place Winner Receives:

  • 30 minute business and marketing consult with me
  • 30 minute story or website review with Cathy Vartuli of TheIntimacyDojo.com
  • 1 SexGeek Gift Bag

3rd Place Winner:
Kenneth Yim with his Njoy Review!

LIKE NJoy on Facebook and thank them for us!
-Visit NJoy’s website HERE-

2nd Place Winner Receives:

  • 1 hour business and marketing consult with me
  • 45 minute story or website review with Cathy Vartuli of TheIntimacyDojo.com
  • 1 SexGeek Gift Bag

2nd Place Winners:
Dan Powers and Elizabeth Wood with their Trust Review!

LIKE TRUST on Facebook and thank them for us!
-Visit TRUST’s website HERE-

1st Place Winner Receives:

  • 2 hour business and marketing consult with me
  • 1.5 hour story or website review with Cathy Vartuli of TheIntimacyDojo.com
  • 1 SexGeek Gift Bag
  • Social media blast of winning video by both ReidAboutSex, TheIntimacyDojo, and the sponsor

And…

The 1st Place Winner is…
Jessica Crystal Joy with her Cal Exotics Embrace Toy Review!

LIKE CalExotics on Facebook and thank them for us!
-Visit CalExotic’s website HERE-

Congratulations to each winner, and to all the amazing Campers who shared their experiences, their vulnerabilities, and insights.

I’m so proud of your self-expression and courage… for many of you, this was your first review, or maybe your first video ever!

If you’d like to see all the videos in the contest (there is some fabulous ideas, lots of clever ideas, and powerful shares about all kinds of sex geeky toys and products)!

And if YOU would like to join us for Sex Geek Summer Camp 2015, reserve your spot NOW with a refundable deposit before seats sell out: www.ReidAboutSex.com/camp2015

Great job to everyone who submitted! I am so proud of you! And whether you attended camp of not, thank YOU for being sex geeky and wanting to make the world a better, more sex-positive, pleasure-positive place!

xxREiD

P.S. Watch for the winner of the Cal Exotics Video Toy Review Contest, ending November 5! Did you vote for your favorite yet? – Announcement coming very soon!!

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