ReidAboutSex http://reidaboutsex.com Sex and Relationship Expert Reid Mihalko's offical site Fri, 27 Feb 2015 15:00:32 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.1 Stuck in the Friend Zone http://reidaboutsex.com/stuck-in-the-friend-zone/ http://reidaboutsex.com/stuck-in-the-friend-zone/#comments Fri, 27 Feb 2015 15:00:32 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=6726


Cathy: Some people end up being friends with everyone they’re interested with romantically. It doesn’t ever quite transition to romantic. They end up being buddies. That can be really frustrating.

Reid: The friend zone.

Cathy: Yes. It can be very frustrating.  What would you do, Reid Mihalko, from http://wwwReidAboutSex.com?

Reid: I don’t know, Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. What would I do? What a weird segue. Being stuck in the friend zone. For a lot of people, it’s like a real thing. Certainly been made fun of and been a basis of a lot of romantic comedies and things like that. I mean, are you telling these people that you “like them” like them? What is it about you not asking? Are you not asking them out? Are you not telling them, “I’m romantically attracted to you.” What do you say?

Cathy: It can help to be really specific. I’ve actually been on several dates and I didn’t realize like two years later they were dates. At least for some people, actually being informed that it’s a date can help. I remain friends with those people because I didn’t realize that there was a romantic attraction.

Reid: Which basically meant that they were really horrible at telling you that this was a date. If you share similar shyness, you’re not good at speaking up about those kinds of things, guess what you get to work on because building those muscles and being able to be honest with people and tell them what you’re afraid to tell them, your ability to put those things out there in the universe doesn’t guarantee results but it improves your odds a lot. Obviously if you get stuck in the friend zone a lot, you must be a nice person because people want to be friends with you. Whether you’re picking people that are romantically unavailable and then just kind of pining away for them and you’re a geek with unrequited love.

Cathy: We’ll do another video on that.

Reid: We will? Okay. Yes. If you’re one of those people, really get clear about what are you not saying, what are you not speaking up about? Build the communication muscles and get the communication tools that allow you to speak up because the other thing that you’re doing when you get better communicating like that, you’re also role modeling for the people that you’re in relationships and friendships with that they can speak up to. Often, you may have people around you who are romantically attracted to you that aren’t speaking up either.

Cathy: You may or may not be attracted back. If you could share, we both talk off in about getting your needs met outside of relationship, if you have some of your needs met, and you’re not like so hungry and like, “I really want to go out with you.” Which can be like people get nervous and a lot of people, rather than talking about it, people are always afraid it will ruin the friendship. If you can share from a place of power like, “I’m really happy being your friend. I love being your friend and I noticed that I have some romantic feelings, would you like to explore those?” can feel like there’s a doorway and nothing’s going to fall apart necessarily. You can share it in a way, from a place of power, and without the pressure of, “I have to have you” kind of thing.

The feeling a lot of people aren’t comfortable with saying no, a lot of people aren’t good with boundaries so it can end the friendship if someone’s like feeling pressured or uncomfortable and not, if you can help them feel comfortable saying yes or no and give them the feeling that you’re going to be able to handle them either way. That makes it a lot more comfortable for people to, “Let’s try a date and see. We can still be friends if it doesn’t work out.”

Reid: Yeah, it’s not necessarily easy but it is fairly simple. Speaking of about what you’re actually thinking about, what you actually would like to explore and try can be, oh my God, so nerve wracking. I’m actually being real with people. Honestly, that’s your best bet for having a healthy relationship at all. You need to start speaking up sooner than later and then ideally because you’re speaking up, you start attracting other people that appreciate you for being that kind of person. They also tend to be people who speak up as well and then your entire life what’s possible starts to transform.

Cathy: Yeah, that’s a beautiful place. Even if the person isn’t interested, if you share it from a place of empowerment and that you can handle it, it can still, I mean, people generally feel special when someone sees them as valuable and interesting. So it’s possible it could even deepen their friendship, whether it goes some place or not.

Reid: Comments. Let us know what you think. Bye.

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Trouble Orgasming http://reidaboutsex.com/trouble-orgasming/ http://reidaboutsex.com/trouble-orgasming/#comments Tue, 24 Feb 2015 15:00:00 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=6725

 

 

Cathy: A lot of women have trouble orgasming.

Reid: What? That explains everything.

Cathy: They may not be able to orgasm with a partner or by themselves or they may just be, it may take them a long time or it might be a struggle for them.

Reid: I just thought it was me.

Cathy: It is you sweetie.

Reid: It’s me, so me, if anyone can orgasm around me is a miracle. I’m Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com

Cathy: I’m Cathy Vartuli from the http://TheIntimacyDojo.com

Reid: Alright, so we’re going to put a little humor into what can be a frustrating situation.

Cathy: There is pressure, if you’re having trouble orgasming and your partner is starting to take it personal, there’s more pressure. It can cause, there can be stress in a relationship because of it. We’ve been taught as a society that an orgasm is a goal, it’s what were supposed to go for. If our partner is not helping us orgasm they may feel they’re not doing a good job. There can be, it can put stress in our relationship; which makes it even harder to orgasm.

Reid: Yes.

Cathy: One of the things I like to do is, I recommend for my clients, is they just take some time that’s not; your agreement is you’re not going to orgasm. You can spend …

Reid: Reverse psychology, that’s good.

Cathy: Yeah.

Reid: You’re not allowed to orgasm; enjoy yourselves.

Cathy: Just set aside, you can set a timer if you’d like. Where you’re just going to have an hour to touch and play and enjoy each other’s bodies.

Reid: No orgasms, none. Did I scare you?

Cathy: Yes, you can play that in the background if that does anything for you.

Reid: Schnell with no orgasming.

Cathy: It does take the pressure off. Talking about it, a lot of people just get caught up in their own heads about it. They’re not sharing with their partners and so their both; you might be in your head, “Oh my God she didn’t orgasm.” I might be in my head, “Oh my God, I didn’t orgasm. He’s going to think I’m not responsive or I don’t care.”

Reid: You’re not attracted to him and then he’s going to get triggered that he’s not a man, because a real man always makes his woman cum. I don’t know.

Cathy: It can be spiral, so difficult conversation formula is a good one to follow; links below. To help people talk about, just getting it out in the open could relieve some of the pressure.

Reid: Yeah. Mostly have those conversations when you’re not trying to have an orgasm. That will help. Talking about this stuff when you’re not in bed, when you’re in situations where it’s okay to have the conversation but not have to have, go to have sex right after the conversation. I would also recommend setting the goal of not, we’re going to play and try not to have an orgasm.

Maybe if you guys want to, if it’s not so frustrating and overwhelming emotionally. For some people have been wrestling with this stuff for years, so the advice we’re giving right now may seem insurmountable. Try playing with not having an orgasm, or not trying to go for the orgasm. Play with that for several days. Let the erotic energy, let the tension build up in a fun way.

You’re winning because you’re playing and not trying to orgasm. Sometimes that reverse psychology can help, because then what you’re doing is, you’re having fun, you’re doing something positive. The tensions and the energy is building up on its own, rather than being diverted to, I’m failing, this is frustrating; now there’s anxiety. Which whether this is real or not, it is a more empowering framework. The energy that would normally be released in orgasm, I am releasing in the anxiety and the frustration.  Can you re-frame it and make it a win that you have this tension that’s the good frustration not the failure frustration.

Cathy: Also, our society generally teaches us not to talk about what’s going on and what we need in bed. Just, instead of aiming for the orgasm, what can make me orgasm? You can play around and try different things, different touched, different types of sensation. Just start communicating with each other. Wow, I really like that.

Reid: Yeah, going for the pleasure rather than for the goal.

Cathy: Talking about, I like that. That, maybe if I were more excited. I really love if the person can orgasm when they masturbate, but if they’re having trouble orgasming with a partner; have the person masturbate while the other person holds them and watches. You can actually see what people like. What they do themselves, they know works. They’ve run experiments.

Reid: Yeah, but there’s biofeedback thing. It’s me touching myself very different than you touching me. There’s all that too.

Cathy: You can learn, you can learn …

Reid: You can, I’m just saying. It’s not always fail safe.

Cathy: It can be really hot.

Reid: It is often hot. Also if you haven’t been practicing or playing with or exploring using toys and different positions. For a lot of women or female bodily people, people with clitoris’s. Vibrational stimulation on their clit can work really well and enhance a lot of things. If you haven’t been trying those things, exploring those things, and if you’re not exploring them because your partner is, “I’m being replaced by a vibrator.” Dudes… professional tools, create professional results. I’m just telling you, I’m just telling you. Go open up the conversation about brining toys into the bedroom to enhance and play with things. Sometimes those things help a lot. They’re not always the magic, the silver bullet, the magic bullet that solves everything.

Explore your options and have fun with exploring. Don’t make exploring, the need to explore options mean that you’re a failure. You’re not.

Cathy: Yes. If you’re still struggling and you tried these suggestions and you’re just not making headway. There’s some amazing coaches out there; sometimes getting a different perspective, someone to listen to you who can go … we get in ruts, we don’t even realize we’re going something.

Reid: Like a golf pro, just a little adjustment to the wrist there. Everything is great now.

Cathy: Talking to a coach or a therapist about this can be really helpful. You deserve to feel really good.

Reid: Sometimes it’s useful to talk to somebody else, rather than always processing with your partners. That can be helpful too. I would encourage you to be talking to your partners as well.

Cathy: Yeah.

Reid: Awesome. Comments, leave comments.

Cathy: Good luck.

Reid: Let’s know what it’s like. How it’s going for you. Bye.

 

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San Diego! Put More Pleasure Into Your Sex Positive Business THIS THURS FEB 26! http://reidaboutsex.com/san-diego-put-more-pleasure-into-your-sex-positive-business-this-thurs-feb-26/ http://reidaboutsex.com/san-diego-put-more-pleasure-into-your-sex-positive-business-this-thurs-feb-26/#comments Tue, 24 Feb 2015 07:15:11 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7466

Sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com in front of a room full of adults teaching one of his many workshops.

Learn How To Have Less Stress, More Fun, & Make Living as a Sex-Positive Professional

If you’re tired of being the best kept secret in your field… Of struggling to make ends meet while your friends and family disapprove… Of worrying if it’s really worth sharing your gifts with the world and doubting if sex education will ever payoff financially as a career… If you’re ready to quit sacrificing your wellbeing and peace of mind, and hungry to make a difference in people’s lives AND MAKE A LIVING, then this evening is for you.

Too many smart, savvy sex educators/healers/workshop facilitators and sex-positive professionals struggle to pay the rent. You have a message that is worth sharing. A message that people NEED. Yet, it seems like people are always asking you to lower your rates, teach for free, and give another chunk of yourself for nothing.

How can we get people to see the value and transformation great sex, intimacy, and relationship information brings to their lives? And how do we get them to help support OUR lives financially while we transform theirs emotionally/physically/spiritually?

Being a sex-positive professional and making a decent living can seem at odds. Too many amazing healers, educators, coaches, and wellness professionals are on the verge of financial and emotional collapse from the worry, burnout, and frustration of trying to make ends meet while sharing their calling with the world. What if you could change lives AND get paid decently for it? What if there were ways to reach more people with your message using less effort? And what if there was a learnable approach to sharing your amazing knowledge that would augment your strengths, make you more prolific with less stress, inspire your fans and clients, free up more time for you to relax and recharge, and help you make money without feeling “salesy,” pushy, or creepy?

The good news: This is all possible, and you can do it, too! Join sex and relationship expert and business geek, Reid Mihalko, creator of SexGeekSummerCamp.com for an informative and humorous evening where he’ll show you 3 crushing mistakes most sex-positive professionals are making that leave them frustrated, burnt out, and broke, AND the successful business models and practices that will help you turn your calling into a life-long, successful career.

Date: Thurs, Feb 26, 2015
Time: 7pm-9:30pm
Cost: Sign up Online and get an Early Bird Discount! First 5 people: $15, Next 10 after that: $20, Door price: $30
Where: The Muddy Lotus, 5949 Madra Ave, San Diego, California 92120 – Go HERE to for more info!

Go To The Facebook Event HERE and INVITE Your Friends!

ABOUT REID: Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

From his rated-PG/PG-13 workshops (Cuddle Party, Speed-Flirting) to the rated-R (Iron Slut Sex Educator Showdown) to his explicit, NC-17 rated, Show-N-Tell sex education workshops (where audiences get to watch, take notes, and ask questions), Reid’s workshops have been attended by close to 30,000 individuals from myriad walks of life, orientations, relationship styles, countries and religions. Known for his charisma, wit and emphasis on integrity, Reid travels the country teaching, coaching, consulting and collaborating on fulfilling his mission: Create more self-esteem, self-confidence and health for adults in and out of the bedroom.

Reid has been a featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive stores across the country.

Reid has been a writer and producer on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships, and appears regularly in the media. He has also appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in Marie Claire, GQ, Details, People, Newsweek and The National Enquirer, as well as media across the globe in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.

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Cathy On Tuning http://reidaboutsex.com/cathy-on-tuning/ http://reidaboutsex.com/cathy-on-tuning/#comments Sat, 21 Feb 2015 15:00:41 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=6736

Reid: Hi this is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com.

Cathy: Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com

Reid: You use this phrase “tuning” to somebody. Please explain for our viewers. Your esoteric languaging.

Cathy: Yes, OK. Well, there’s two levels you can do that at: 1) you can communicate with your partner and understand what … you have them explain verbally what they would like to do.

Reid: Mm-hmm.

Cathy: What turns them on, what stimulates them. And so you can, I love to–you actually taught me this–use your hands as a way when you’re touching someone, it’s not just about forcing them to have pleasure, it’s about enjoying how your hands or your mouth or your body is touching them. But you can do it in ways that you know are pleasing to them, so you are tuning to their stated wants and desires. And you can also energetically tune to them. Would you like to explain that?

Reid: No, you keep going. Tuning is what you call it.

Cathy: That’s what I call it.

Reid: Go to work. This is Cathy’s video. I’m making her do this one.

Cathy: You didn’t even tell me what it was about.

Reid: Nope, surprise.

Cathy: When we tune into someone, it might be that they’re in the mood for something, a real gentle connection and part of that can be a verbal discussion, but we can also look at their body language and ask, “Hey, you seem to be in a quiet, connected mood”, or “You seem to be in a really rowdy mood”. You can kind of, if you choose to, you can tune your energy to that because it’s fun. I love collaboration. I love creating energy together. So if my partner’s in a kind of rowdy mood and have the band width for that, I can kind of tune in to the more rowdy or the more quiet. And I think it’s just really delightful when you can allow yourself, instead of deciding up here this is what I must do to be a good partner, this is what we have to do to have sex, you can allow yourselves to have different moods and different energies at different times. And you can allow yourself to enjoy pleasing your partner in what is useful for them or really delightful for them at the moment.

Reid: Cool, awesome, thank you for that.

Cathy: Sure.

Reid: How do you tune?

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R10x 2015 FAQ http://reidaboutsex.com/r10x-2015-faq/ http://reidaboutsex.com/r10x-2015-faq/#comments Thu, 12 Feb 2015 06:50:10 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7463

Relationship10x LIVE FAQ:

The info you’ll probably need more frequently this weekend has been moved to the top… Hope this helps! :)

Where is R10x LIVE happening? R10x LIVE is happening at the beautiful and elegant Oakland Marriott City Center.

Oakland Marriott City Center
Address: 1001 Broadway, Oakland, CA 94607
Phone:(510) 451-4000

http://www. Marriott.com/hotels/hotel-photos/oakdt-oakland-marriott-city-center/

What about food? You are responsible for your own meals. The hotel is literally across the street from BART, and surrounded by many amazing restaurants, bars, etc. Here are some places you may want to check out:

Google Restaurants, near hotel
Google Restaurants, Jack London Square
Yelp Restaurants, near hotel
Yelp Restaurants, Jack London Square

R10x LIVE Schedule

Registration is at 8:30 am on Friday in Room OCC 202. We start at 9am with some powerful geekier!

Friday night, as an unannounced bonus, I’ll be taking all of those who want to join to Bawdy! I have your tickets and we’ll be taking a shuttle to San Fran, where I’ll be telling a story!

And Saturday night, we’ll be heading to Jack London Square for dinner as a group (dinner is on your own dime, but I’ll buy a round of drinks at the Salon after). Join if you want, or do your own thing- whatever works for you!

The schedule below is subject to change, but should be pretty close!

R10x Schedule
(times are approximate)

Friday

8:30am Registration/Check in room OCC 202
9:00am R10x LIVE Doors Open and We Start!
~ 12:30 or 1pm Lunch: 90 minutes
6:00pm Finish R10x for day
6:15 to 7pm Educators Behind The Curtain with Reid (Filmed)
Dinner on own
9pm-ish shuttle to San Fran for Bawdy
Done around midnight. Shuttle back 12:30 approximately.
(miss the shuttle, get your own way back)

Saturday

9:00am Doors open and Day 2 of R10x LIVE Begins!
~ 12:30 or 1pm Lunch: 90 minutes
6:00pm Finish R10x for day
7:30pm Dinner at the Marriot for whoever wants to join the group – pay for your own
Then Drinks in Jack London Square afterward- Reid to buy a round of drinks: First and Last Chance Saloon.

B Shuttle every 10-15 minutes right in front of the hotel, Goes to Jack London Square.

Sunday

Check out for those leaving Sunday*
9:00am Doors open and R10x LIVE’s Day 3 Begins!
~ 12pm Lunch: approximately 60 minutes
4:00 or 4:30pm R10x LIVE concludes

*If you’re leaving Oakland Sunday we recommend checking out of the hotel BEFORE the morning session begins since check out is at 11am.

If you have questions, please ask a Support Team member in the back of the room, email: support@relationship10x.com

Other Info and FAQs…

What are the costs of the hotel rooms? As of the drafting of this email, current online rates are $144 a night, but it IS Valentine’s weekend so rooms may book up soon, and the rates will go up.

I recommend arriving and checking in on Thursday, February 12th, so you’ll be set for registration between 8-9am Friday morning. We will start R10x LIVE at 9am.

We’ll be wrapping up around 4 or 4:30pm on Sunday the 15th, and Monday is President’s Day, in case you have that off from work and want to stay an extra day to go frolic in San Fran.

What about parking? There is a paid parking garage attached to the Marriott. I recommend using it. It’s $25 a day. OR, spring for the slightly cheaper room rate that includes self-parking!

What airport do I fly into? The best airport to fly into is Oakland (OAK), which is only a $30-ish cab ride from the hotel, but you can get there from San Francisco (SFO) airport on public transport (BART). We recommend you fly in the day before, and fly out Sunday evening or Monday morning. (Monday is President’s Day, just in case you have the day off!)  

What are the hours of the event? It runs from Feb 13-15th. 9am to 6pm on Friday and Saturday. On Sunday, we’ll end a bit earlier -4pm- so you can catch your flight or go out and celebrate your new found skills.

What should I wear? Business casual is great! Be comfortable and ready to work, and you may want to bring a sweater since the rooms are sometimes cool and the evenings are chilly this time of year.

Why are you doing this on Valentine’s Day Weekend? We want you to give you and your R10x LIVE Buddy an amazing Valentine’s Day gift that will transform your relationship life forever! (And make Valentine’s Day a day of growth and triumph rather than just a burdensome holiday)

I’m single, which makes Valentine’s Day horrible, what do I do Saturday night? Squeeeee! We’ve got it all covered! Valentine’s Day daytime, we’ll be learning awesome stuff, and I promise to make Valentine’s extra funny and silly AND powerfully life changing. And, we know Valentine’s evening has been really lonely and/or tough for some of us sometimes. Soooo… We’re planning an R10x optional evening event for anyone who wants to attend. Plan on fun, laughter, and blowing off steam with lots of warm people.

My partner and I want to work on improving our relationship, but aren’t ready to spend Valentine’s evening alone together, what do we do Saturday night? No problem! We know Valentine’s Day can be really tough on couples, too! Soooo… We’re planning an R10x optional evening event for anyone who wants to attend. Plan on fun, laughter, and relaxing with lots of warm people.

My partner and I are doing great, but aren’t sure what to do on Valentine’s evening… what do we do Saturday night? The hotel will have options, AND… In case you’re interested… We’re planning an R10x optional evening event for anyone who wants to attend. Plan on fun, laughter, and social shenanigans with lots of warm people.

What if I don’t have a partner to use my bonus ticket? No problem! Bring a friend, a sister or brother, a co-worker, or someone you think would like to have a better relationship life. We encourage you to bring someone who’ll enjoy sharing the experience with you. It will also help you anchor your new knowledge to share it with someone you know!

I’m in a relationship, but my partner can’t attend R10x LIVE, what do I do? No problem! Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean you have to come as a couple. Bring a friend, a sister or brother, a co-worker, or someone you think would like to have a better relationship life, too. We encourage you to bring someone who’ll enjoy sharing the experience with you.

Are meals included? No. You’re responsible for your own meals. We’ll give you breaks for lunch, and you can bring snacks to the event.

Are rooms included? Nope. You’re responsible for your room.

What is the refund policy? Within 3 weeks of the event, there are no refunds or returns; you may transfer tickets to another person. Outside of the 3 weeks, for the first 30 days after puchase you can get a full refund.

Any other questions? Send us an email at support@Relationship10x.com and we’ll get back to you asap!

 

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Spend Valentine’s Weekend Transforming Your Love Life 10-Fold: Relationship10x LIVE! http://reidaboutsex.com/spend-valentines-weekend-transforming-your-love-life-10-fold-relationship10x-live/ http://reidaboutsex.com/spend-valentines-weekend-transforming-your-love-life-10-fold-relationship10x-live/#comments Thu, 29 Jan 2015 22:47:14 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7458

Want to transform your relationships 10-fold? Spend THIS Valentine’s Day Weekend with Reid Mihalko and friends and get your black belt in relationship geekery…

R10x LIVE Heart Blast cropped

All info and registration HERE:

http://ReidAboutSex.com/i-believe-in-better-relationships

Logo for Reid Mihalko's Relationship10x LIVE event

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Energetic Play Party with Reid and Monique in Oakland Feb 21st http://reidaboutsex.com/energetic-play-party-with-reid-and-monique-in-oakland-feb-21st/ http://reidaboutsex.com/energetic-play-party-with-reid-and-monique-in-oakland-feb-21st/#comments Thu, 29 Jan 2015 22:36:32 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7425

Sex and Relationship Expert Reid Mihalko

Join Reid Mihalko and Monique Darling for an explosive 4 hours of playing in the energetic field!!!!

We will begin the evening with one hour devoted to getting everyone on the same page about energy play resonance style……where we will cover many topics including…..

Would you like to expand the range of your ENERGETIC sexual experience? And also…

  • Turn YOUR life into an orgasmic playground that doesn’t have to look anything like “sex”…
  • Learn to get in touch with your own energetic field, manipulate it, and turn it into a powerful source of connection and bliss.
  • Discover how and where to touch another to tune into, access, tease and play with their erotic energy, the energy of two people, or the energy of a entire group!
  • Tap into the energy of all 7 major chakra’s by yourself, with a partner, or in a group
  • Discover the differences in “taste” between energetic orgasms from chakra to chakra
  • Let me show you our tools, tips and tricks for unlocking your stuck sexual energy
  • AND of course be shown and get to play with Monique’s Infamous creation… the “Heart Fuck!”

Bring a partner, find a partner there, switch partners, or experience the course on your own. Many options will be offered to support each individual experience.

Next up…Let us lead you through a welcome circle where a room full of strangers slowly opens up and winds up on the same page, having the opportunity to be seen, heard, and understood in ways maybe you have never even imagined!!

What is Play with a capital “P”? 

Play with a capital “P” is whatever it means to you. You are invited to co-create whatever feeds your soul. Participation (also with a capital “P”) can mean many things and voyeurs are as warmly welcomed as the most actively engaged. It’s a sensual space where participants are encouraged to explore themselves and others in ways that are stimulating, nurturing, exciting, safe and FUN!

This is the Play party you want to come to if you’ve never been AND this is the Play party you want to come to if you want to experience how to take generating safe play space for you and your loved ones to the next level.

This Party will dive deep into the realms of the energetic, we encourage you to wear your most outrageous and sexy underwear, as this event will be playful, sensual, and energetically “sexual” but undies will stay on for the evening.

Let Monique, and Reid energetic experts, open and hold a sweet container where you can explore all aspects of an “energetic sex” playground you have ever imagined…..

We will close with a very rich closing circle…

The entire 5 hours will be $35 per person or $60 per pair

Date: Saturday, Feb 21st, 2015
Time: 7:00-11pm
Location: Oakland, CA – address upon registration
Cost: $35 per person or $60 per pair
REGISTER HERE!

Invite Your Friends To Join Us Via FACEBOOK HERE

 

ReidSeatedCheckeredShirt-206x300About Reid:  Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

Reid has appeared on Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, People, Details, Marie Claire, The National Equirer, The Washington Post, on VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio, Playboy Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

To date, Reid’s workshops and lectures have been attended by close to 40,000 men and women.  Reid has been a featured speaker and keynote at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive organizations across the country.  Reid has also been a writer, producer and behind the scenes consultant on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.  Like and subscribe to his Facebook page, Facebook.com/ReidAboutSex!

 

 

Healer and teacher Monique Darling with a huge, happy, laughing smile and flowing brown hair in a flowery bushABOUT MONIQUE: Monique Darling of www.divineinterludes.com is dedicated to empowering people who are questioning the assumptions of how their life should be; and to offer tools for self expression that create trust, inner knowing and wisdom to make the life they want. It’s a lot of hard work, but it’s the kind of work that makes life easier.

Since 1990, Monique has felt the calling to learn from some amazing teachers including Wayne Dyer, Matt Kahn, Reid Mihalko, WhiteBear, Shawn Roop, ABDY, Kamala Devi, and Scott Catamas to name a few. She has through workshops, courses, and client sessions, experienced how spirit/love moves through her using intuition, touch, play and emotional release in helping people embrace the truth of their divinity.

Her specialty is transmuting fear and repression into courage, love and freedom to express truth in ways that nourish all.

She is devoted to helping YOU uncover your magnificence!!! To empower YOU, who dream of something more, to awaken further and discover it is within you. You have all the answers, let her help you remember the questions.

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Reid Mihalko and Monique Darling Yummify Phoenix & Tempe April 1-5, 2015 http://reidaboutsex.com/reid-mihalko-and-monique-darling-yummify-phoenix-tempe-april-1-5-2015/ http://reidaboutsex.com/reid-mihalko-and-monique-darling-yummify-phoenix-tempe-april-1-5-2015/#comments Thu, 29 Jan 2015 22:27:57 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7427

Sex and Relationship Expert Reid Mihalko

Join Reid Mihalko and Monique Darling for 5 Days of Fearless Relating!

If you’re near Phoenix, Arizona, or can get yourself there this April 1st thru the 5th, please join us for several events that will transform, educate, and entertain you! And don’t forget to tell all your friends! Facebook links below, too…

Speed Flirting and Vulnerability Circle, Wed, April 1st
Navigating Successful Threeways, Thurs, April 2nd
Fearless Relating Weekend, Friday Apr 3-5

 

 

Speed-Flirting: Have Fun! Meet People!

Speed-Flirting: Have Fun! Meet People!

Speed-Flirting and Vulnerability Circle

Day 1…We start these 5 days of Reid with a Fearless Relating Panel on Wed April 1st!

Join Monique Darling, Reid Mihalko, Laurie Handlers, Seva Khalsa, and Leela Sullivan as we co-lead a question and answer portion of the evening. YOU bring the questions… We will do our best to answer each and every one. What are you dying to know about dating and relationships? About life? What has you super curious, but there never seems an appropriate place to bring up your inquiry? This Wed night is your chance! Ask away! And allow some authenticity and vulnerability when we four sex geeks use our life’s journeys and wisdom and courage (balls) to answer anything you throw our way.

Sometimes all that is left is to scream your heart out… it seems no matter what you say you’re not being heard. No matter how clear you feel yourself to be, what comes out of your mouth makes no sense to the other side.

Come and explore with us how to hold difficult conversations, understand the different love languages you and your loved ones might have as your filter of giving and receiving love, learn to communicate what’s not being said in a way that will empower and connect you with others better. We will explore different modes of communication, verbal and non verbal… and different relating styles, open relationships, agreements, flirting, transparency — taking off your masks so that you can REALLY relate. Interspersing our favorite tools, and taking questions from the audience.

Next get ready to laugh through all your old 7th grade awkwardness as Reid, sex and relationship educator for an exciting and comical hour of flirtation. Add more aliveness to your existing relationships. Make new friends in the most exciting way possible. Speed-Flirting features a series of structured exercises with lots of easy-to-apply tools for breaking the ice, overcoming awkward moments, and for deep-connection through play. Get inspired about meeting new people as you learn to break habits of shyness and release your “inner flirt.” Increase your self-esteem by giving people permission to smile, to wink, to have fun, and to never forget how to flirt again!

Speed-Flirting will teach you to: 

  • Break the ice with ease and confidence.
  • Make your dating and relationship life pressure-free.
  • Say No without feeling guilty.
  • Keep people from misunderstanding your intentions.
  • Relate with rejection gracefully and leave people feeling better for having met you.
  • Get anyone to make the first moveBring a partner, find a partner there, switch partners, or experience the course on your own. Many options will be offered to support each individual experience.
  • Overcome shyness and embrace your bold, exuberant ability to connect deeply and playfully with anyone you choose.
  • Drop the “dating and relationship B.S.” and get to know people by how they flirt, not what they write their online profiles or how they rattle off their resumes!
  • Already in a relationship, then learn how to reignite the romance by flirting with the one you love! Speed-Flirting is a rambunctious, 1 hour workshop/social event for men and women of all ages. The usual definition of flirting as just “a sexual thang” limits our ability to engage with people playfully. What if flirting meant “increasing the fun and play in any interaction?” Perfect for singles, couples, and entire communities, Speed-Flirting gives us the tools to go deeper than just a wink and a smile…

Next let Monique lead you through a vulnerability circle where a room of strangers slowly opens up and winds up on the same page, and friends connect ever deeper having the opportunity to be seen, heard, and understood in ways maybe you have never even imagined!

It begins with a beautiful circle where you will be led through some heart opening communication exercises to connect within and with each other. Then we will go into silent connection exercise where you will get to meet one another beyond words, and finally we will finish up with some amazing connective exercises, that will leave you feeling expanded beyond believe and you will leave with your own knowing of how great connection can feel when held in such safe and loving container, where ALL of YOU is accepted, exactly as you are.

Date: Wednesday, April 1st, 2015
Time: Panel 7:00-8:30pm, Speed Flirting 8:30-9:30pm, Vulnerability Connection Circle 9:30-10:30pm
Location: Home of Laurie Handlers
Cost: $30 pre paid or $40 at the door, SPACE IS LIMITED!

REGISTER HERE!

Invite Your Friends To Join Us Via FACEBOOK HERE

 

Sex and Relationship Expert Reid Mihalko

Navigating Successful Threeways with a live laboratory: AKA Phoenix’s first threeway puja!

Three doesn’t necessarily have to be a crowd… Let Reid show you how on Thurs April 2nd!

It’s a popular fantasy with twice the pleasure potential, but navigating a three-way romance (if only for one night) can be tricky.

Join world renowned sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko for this FREE, fun-filled, 1.5 hr workshop (with live demonstrations!)

Not only will you get a chance to ask questions, but we’ll cover:

  • What are the best techniques to satisfy two lovers at once?
  • Ways to overcome fears and concerns – Yours AND your partner’s!
  • The most common threesome mistakes (and how to avoid them!)
  • How to negotiate boundaries and safer sex protocols to make your next menage a trios tré bien!
  • Whether you’ve had more threesomes than Jim Morrison or are just beginning to consider three-in-a-bed might be something you’d like to explore, this workshop will give you plenty of tools, tricks, perspectives and laughs to enhance your love life and strengthen your relationships!

Even if you would NEVER be interested in a 3-way, this fun-filled class will give you lots of ways to talk to your loved ones about the things you DO WANT in the bedroom – no matter how tame or outrageous!

Bring your loved ones, bring your friends, and enjoy an educational and entertaining evening on how to successfully navigate one of the most common sexual fantasies: the threesome!

The second half of this class, you will get to break out into threesome pods, Leela and Monique will lead you through different connection exercises where you will get to practice, in real time, what Reid just offered you about navigating this tricky territory.

This will be Phoenix’s first 3way puja, where you can come with a couple of partners and do all the negotiated exercises with one another, or you can choose to rotate through the room, where at each station (Exercise) you will have a chance to interact with 2 new partners.

This is an excellent safe fully clothed structured space, for you to get move through the potential awkward moments of a three or moresome, so if you ever decide you want to try one later, you will have practiced those muscles necessary to more successfully navigate those waters.
Plus it will just be a fun, connective, humorous evening, where in we get permission to laugh at ourselves, to not have to “get it right” as you dare to try out something new.

Date: Thursday, April 2nd, 2015
Time: 7:00-10:00pm
Location: TBA
Cost: $30 pre paid (single), $75 (threesome), SPACE IS LIMITED!

REGISTER HERE!

Invite Your Friends To Join Us Via FACEBOOK HERE

 

Sex and Relationship Expert Reid Mihalko

Fearless Relating Weekend Intensive With Reid Mihalko & Monique Darling

Are you ready to take an intensive weekend of FEARLESS RELATING with two of the most dynamic relationship geeks on the planet today? Come blow your mind and open your heart with vulnerability diva Monique Darling, and sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko Friday, Apr 3-5!

If you could have anything, do anything, what would you choose? What do you really want? What is keeping you from having it? Is someone else better qualified? better looking? more financially stable? Do you have “problems”? What if every limit you have, every chain that binds you, is only there because you believe it is? What if the limits disappear, the chains dissolve?. Your life is alive with an abundance of possibilities, opportunities, and potential all you have to do is be willing to say “yes”.

So much of the fear and hesitation in life comes not from the self, but from fretting about what others may think,or what they will say or whom they might share it with afterwards rather than being able to enjoy the moment. Another set of fears come from passed-down beliefs that we accept without questioning them.

What if you could make decisions and follow your heart…follow your body and your desires without worrying about what others thought? What if you were fearless in relating – first, to yourself and then, to others?

We all have feelings of ferocity and tenderness, but we must feel safe in order to be vulnerable and intimate with another. Part of that safety is being confident in our own ability to say ‘NO’ and take a stand for our boundaries. Only then can we play in the realm of our true ‘HELL YES!’

Come join us for a unique weekend of exploration around such topics as:

  • How do we establish boundaries and create safe space for ourselves to explore with others?
  • Shifting paradigms from blame, shame, guilt & judgement, to love, acceptance, understanding and presence.
  • Factors that promote or inhibit intimacy:
  • The power of no and boundary (understand why your “no” says more about you than your “yes”)

In this workshop you will learn, play, and practice: 

  • To ask for what you want, skillfully, without attachment to the response.
  • To honor, respect, and be grateful for the answer “no”, and still be hopeful for the answer “yes”.
  • To be honest and vulnerable about your wants and desires without shame, without deflection, without armor.
  • To hold space for someone who has not yet learned these skills.
  • To own your fears, instead of them owning you.
  • To not be afraid to be the one who loves the most
  • To learn to be even more vulnerable when you want to isolate or close down.
  • Release shame and haunting memories
  • Modalities of communication: verbal and non verbal

You will gain tools and leave with the ability to relate with everyone in your life with more ease, grace, and blissful contentment from your own center.

Are you confused about dating, mating, and relating in the 21st Century?

Dating, marriage and the reasons we stay in relationships have changed a lot since the days of our great grandparents.

Join us for this humorous, frank and informative, intensive workshop where sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko boils down over 150,000 conversations he’s had about sex and relationships and walks us through his best thinking and advice on making sex, dating, relationships and mating work!

Participants will leave this interactive workshop experience discovering:

  • Tools to determine if someone is a good or horrible fit for you…
  • Communication Skills to ask for what they want and how to avoid past relationship mistakes…
  • A few of Reid’s and Monique’s “black belt” relationship tips and tricks!

Then, let Monique Darling, Consent Geek Extraordinaire, lead you through all of the tools, tips, tricks and how to uplevel the questions you are asking yourself and others to truly be able to find and live from your own “Hell Yes”!! Monique has been leading Cuddle Parties (just facilitated her 346th)all over the country, which are 3 1/2 hours of practicing this concept.

How amazing would it be to live life offering every “no” without apology and every “yes” without being ashamed? Learn that it really isn’t about anyone else, it’s about tuning in and taking care of you, and then you can relate with ease and joy with others, wherever they are at.

Learning better sexual technique will boost your sexual self-confidence, raise your self-esteem, and make you more confident and competent in sex and love! Being THAT kind of person is attractive in AND out of the bedroom! Part of the weekend will cover how to increase your sexual self-confidence ten-fold and start becoming a more attractive, self-expressed and fearless person in all your relationships!

Through no nudity, interactive, hilariously “edutaining” demonstrations, you will learn:

  • Tools to determine if someone is a good or horrible fit for you…
  • How to use fantasy to turbo-charge a lover’s orgasm…
  • How to listen to your partner’s body in bed…
  • How to create your own “sexual positions decoder ring” so you naturally “think” about lovemaking in an exciting, Kama Sutra way!
  • How to slow down sexual experience for greater pleasure learning to STOP judging ourselves and our partners
  • Understanding how to expand our own sexual energy and our PLEASURE Body
  • Opening to Full Body Energy Orgasms
  • The different stories you and others are telling about your sexual identity
  • Developing Emotional and Sexual Safety for Intimacy
  • 5 tips that will give you oral sex super powers!
  • 3 Powerful Perspectives that will help you understand pleasure and orgasm, and how to give and receive both!
  • 3 ways to use your hands sexually that will drive your partner wild AND leave you feeling more confident as a lover!
  • 2 BIG differences between penises and vulvas, and 1 thing that’s the same that will make you 10-times better in bed…
  • And still more!

If you ever begin to understand who you are, you could not possibly ever compare yourself to another, to envy, wish to impress, to BE different than you are. For in the beauty, wonder, and awe at discovering how magnificent “your” puzzle pieces fit together, at the ever changing infinite ways YOU shift, dance, I Need Your Love – Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead weave together, each one so unique, so extraordinary, it would take an entire lifetime to only just begin to discover. Yet so often we abandon the quest of self discovery, to follow another, or to invest in relationships, doing what we have been told is the “right” way to be. The greatest freedom that we could ever express or imagine, is by simply giving ourselves permission to gently keep returning to us and we can transform the world by simply being 100% ourselves.

Come with an open heart and a willingness, a longing, to bring your stories into the light, so that they can stop you running away from your shadow.

There will be times, over the weekend, when the atmosphere will be sensual and energetically sexual. All activities and exercises will be guided and are always optional. You can participate in the workshop solo, with a partner and in small groups. All participants are asked to practice with each other, or by oneself, in whatever manner supports you best. Many options will be offered to support each individual experience.

set your sights on registering for this breakthrough weekend, and get a two for the price of one deal by paying only what it ordinarily costs to learn from just one of these facilitators.

So say ‘HELL YES’ to discovering ‘YOU’!!

Date: Friday, April 3rd-Sunday, April 5th
Location: TBD
Cost: $347 by March 10, $397 after, or sign up for all 3 events for only $299!

REGISTER HERE!

Invite Your Friends To Join Us Via FACEBOOK HERE

 

ReidSeatedCheckeredShirt-206x300About Reid:  Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

Reid has appeared on Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, People, Details, Marie Claire, The National Equirer, The Washington Post, on VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio, Playboy Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

To date, Reid’s workshops and lectures have been attended by close to 40,000 men and women.  Reid has been a featured speaker and keynote at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive organizations across the country.  Reid has also been a writer, producer and behind the scenes consultant on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.  Like and subscribe to his Facebook page, Facebook.com/ReidAboutSex!

 

 

Healer and teacher Monique Darling with a huge, happy, laughing smile and flowing brown hair in a flowery bushABOUT MONIQUE: Monique Darling of www.divineinterludes.com is dedicated to empowering people who are questioning the assumptions of how their life should be; and to offer tools for self expression that create trust, inner knowing and wisdom to make the life they want. It’s a lot of hard work, but it’s the kind of work that makes life easier.

Since 1990, Monique has felt the calling to learn from some amazing teachers including Wayne Dyer, Matt Kahn, Reid Mihalko, WhiteBear, Shawn Roop, ABDY, Kamala Devi, and Scott Catamas to name a few. She has through workshops, courses, and client sessions, experienced how spirit/love moves through her using intuition, touch, play and emotional release in helping people embrace the truth of their divinity.

Her specialty is transmuting fear and repression into courage, love and freedom to express truth in ways that nourish all.

She is devoted to helping YOU uncover your magnificence!!! To empower YOU, who dream of something more, to awaken further and discover it is within you. You have all the answers, let her help you remember the questions.

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Energetic Sex Practicum and Playground Weekend with Monique Darling April 10-12, Woodside, CA http://reidaboutsex.com/energetic-sex-practicum-and-playground-weekend-with-monique-darling-april-10-12/ http://reidaboutsex.com/energetic-sex-practicum-and-playground-weekend-with-monique-darling-april-10-12/#comments Thu, 29 Jan 2015 22:15:59 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7449

Sex and Relationship Expert Reid Mihalko

Join Reid Mihalko and Monique Darling for 18 hours of deep, playful, powerful exploration, self-discovery and energetic sex “geekery!”

This is a BEAUTIFUL home out in the woods. Hammock, Hot Tub, Swimming Pool, Out Door Shower’s, common sleeping room and plenty of room to camp if you plan to join us ALL weekend. Please RSVP with Monique at teacherdarling@yahoo.com, 619 655-6877 if you plan to sleep over as there is limited space available.

Join sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com and Authenticity and Vulnerability Coach Monique Darling of Divine Interludes in Woodside, California, for Part 2’s continuation of 6-hours of deep, playful, powerful exploration, self-discovery and energetic sex “geekery!”

Only $347 for a full weekend and $297 if you are one of the first 10 to get your weekend pass (includes a pot-luck styled meal breaks) designed to give you plenty of powerful personal attention, lots of group practice, and the opportunity for you to discover how much sexual energy you can run!

Tap into your own sense of ecstatic, sensual energy while expanding your understanding of how energy can be generated and released. Bring your energetic abilities to the next level.

Regardless of what belief system you subscribe to, our bodies are giving off signals. These cues and clues can be read and tracked with practice, especially during sex! Engaging these subtle and powerful energies, and interacting with them in a focused state, can make for a deeply transformative experience.

When sexual impulses are free flowing in the body, something natural and beautiful happens in our psyche and life pulsates with aliveness. Sexual energy is a profound whole-body healer and can bring forth delicious feelings of bliss and ecstasy from endorphin release. We will explore underlying principles and approaches to playing with sexual energy, energetically.

In this 15-hour intensive “dojo” where we will play, learn, and practice, you will:

  • Learn Reid and Monique’s underlying principles and approaches to playing with sexual energy energetically.
  • Continue to deepen and anchor your ability to transform life into an orgasmic playground that doesn’t have to look anything like “sex”…
  • Claim your right to sexual pleasure and passion
  • Communication skills that encourage asking for what you want
  • Get in touch with and expand your own energetic field, manipulate it, and turn it into a powerful source of connection and bliss.
  • Reinforce your abilities and awareness for engaging in group energetic play
  • Strengthen and hone your skills to engage and play one-on-one with individuals
  • Tap into the energy of all 7 major chakra’s by yourself, with a partner, or in a group
  • Deepen your discernment for the differences in “taste” between energetic orgasms from chakra to chakra
  • Ways to use pressure, body weight, and sound to enhance you and your partner’s making out
  • Hone and deepen your abilities to keep your energy “clean,” ways not to be “clingy” or “creepy” with your energy, and how to support yourself and others in feeling safe and grounded before, during, and after play.
  • Continue to practice how to take care of your physical body when your orgasmic body doesn’t want to stop and keeps moving more and more ecstatic energy!

This event is intended to be sensual, and energetically sexual, but not physically sexual.
All playful activities and exercises will be guided and are optional, and you can do the entire workshop by yourself or with a partner or in groups. Clothes can stay on completely. All participants are asked to practice with each other or by yourself in whatever manner supports you best.

There will be a hot tub available during break, please bring a bathing suit if you so desire to wear one!

Bring a partner, find a partner there, switch partners, or experience the course on your own. Many options will be offered to support each individual experience.

Date: Friday, April 10-12
Time: TBD
Location: Skywood Temple, Woodside, CA
Cost: $347 ($297 for the first 10) SPACE IS LIMITED!

REGISTER HERE!

Invite Your Friends To Join Us Via FACEBOOK HERE

 

ReidSeatedCheckeredShirt-206x300About Reid:  Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

Reid has appeared on Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, People, Details, Marie Claire, The National Equirer, The Washington Post, on VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio, Playboy Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

To date, Reid’s workshops and lectures have been attended by close to 40,000 men and women.  Reid has been a featured speaker and keynote at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive organizations across the country.  Reid has also been a writer, producer and behind the scenes consultant on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.  Like and subscribe to his Facebook page, Facebook.com/ReidAboutSex!

 

 

Healer and teacher Monique Darling with a huge, happy, laughing smile and flowing brown hair in a flowery bushABOUT MONIQUE: Monique Darling of www.divineinterludes.com is dedicated to empowering people who are questioning the assumptions of how their life should be; and to offer tools for self expression that create trust, inner knowing and wisdom to make the life they want. It’s a lot of hard work, but it’s the kind of work that makes life easier.

Since 1990, Monique has felt the calling to learn from some amazing teachers including Wayne Dyer, Matt Kahn, Reid Mihalko, WhiteBear, Shawn Roop, ABDY, Kamala Devi, and Scott Catamas to name a few. She has through workshops, courses, and client sessions, experienced how spirit/love moves through her using intuition, touch, play and emotional release in helping people embrace the truth of their divinity.

Her specialty is transmuting fear and repression into courage, love and freedom to express truth in ways that nourish all.

She is devoted to helping YOU uncover your magnificence!!! To empower YOU, who dream of something more, to awaken further and discover it is within you. You have all the answers, let her help you remember the questions.

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Reid and Monique Darling Yummify Philadelphia, April 22-26th http://reidaboutsex.com/reid-and-monique-darling-yummify-philadelphia-april-22-26th/ http://reidaboutsex.com/reid-and-monique-darling-yummify-philadelphia-april-22-26th/#comments Thu, 29 Jan 2015 22:09:36 +0000 http://reidaboutsex.com/?p=7450

Sex and Relationship Expert Reid Mihalko

Attn: East Coasters… Join Reid Mihalko and Monique Darling for 5 Days of Fearless Relating!

If you’re in or around Philadelphia -or can get your butt there- or have friends nearby… Please join me and some amazing teachers for one, some, or all of the following events…

Cuddle Party, Wed, April 22
Speed-Flirting and MORE, Thurs, April 23rd
Fearless Relating Weekend Intensive: Friday, April 24rd-Sunday, April 26th

 

Singles Only Cuddle Party!Cuddle Party

Day 1… Join Cuddle Party founder Reid Mihalko and Cuddle Party Facilitator extraordinaire’s Edie Weinstein, AND Monique Darling for an official Cuddle Party experience! Between the three of them, they have facilitated over 1,000 Cuddle Parties!! Between the three of them, they have facilitated over 1,000 Cuddle Parties!!!!!

Cuddle Party is a 3 hour workshop experience where participants engage in communication exercises, explore touch in a non-sexual space, experience personal exploration and intimacy, and have fun with like minded friends from the community.

Nurturing and consensual loving touch is good for maintaing healthy blood pressure, a strong nervous system and a balanced emotional health. One’s ability to connect with and develop greater trust in others is emphasized during the group exchanges during Cuddle Party’s. Self-care is a cornerstone of Cuddle Party experience.

As seen on CBS’s the DR’S – http://thedoctorstv.com/videolib/init/6154

Cuddle Party is a formal, non-sexual event that offers participants an opportunity to explore intimacy with like-minded others. In a relaxed environment, that upholds personal boundaries and maintains a professional atmosphere, at all times, one is encouraged to engage in communication and touch, in a non-threatening, share-affirming environment.
Cuddle Party is a holistic, social environment, that attracts fascinating people from all walks of life. It provides a special and unique opportunity for connection, learning and growth. Come cuddle with us!

About Cuddle Party from Monique:

I have facilitated 100′s of Cuddle Parties. I am as passionate about the Cuddle Party experience today, as I was the first one, over five years ago. YES! It helped me reclaim my voice and I am passionate about helping others do the same.
Cuddle Party experiences teach participants, they alone create their own safety container. How did it change my life? When I was growing up and received a NO, it felt like I was being rejected. The result was my emphasis on being nice, being lovable and being unconditionally available. The profound learning came when I realized my unyielding YES’s became a subconscious inability to trust another person’s YES, without their own personally vocalized NO!

I am very appreciative and honoured by the courage shown by those who have clear boundaries, and an ability to voice their YES and NO decisions without guilt, shame or fear. It gives me the confidence to ask for what my own heart desires, instead of censoring myself, knowing the receiver of my request has the voice and courage to embrace or withdraw, based on their own perimeters. “Thank you for taking care of your self”

IMPORTANT CUDDLE PARTY NOTES:
BRING: Comfortable PJS, Blankets, Pillows and any kind of soft fluff to enhance your experience.

PLEASE BE ON TIME: Make certain to account FOR TRAFFIC AND PARKING.

Doors will lock at 7:15 The opening Welcome Circle is for introductions and to go over the rules of Cuddle Party. This is an important aspect of the Cuddle Party experience and creates a safe container for all participants. It is essential that everyone be on time.

Date: Wednesday, April 22nd, 2015
Time: 7:00-10:00pm
Location: TBD
Cost: $30 pre paid or $40 at the door, SPACE IS LIMITED!

REGISTER HERE!

Invite Your Friends To Join Us Via FACEBOOK HERE

 

MoniqueReidWorkshopSpeed-Flirting, Discussion Panel, and More… All in 1-Evening!

Day 2 is our Fearless Relating Panel. Join Monique Darling, Reid Mihalko, Rusty Stewart, Kali Morgan as we co-lead a question and answer portion of the evening. YOU bring the questions… We will do our best to answer each and every one. What are you dying to know about dating and relationships? About life? What has you super curious, but there never seems an appropriate place to bring up your inquiry? This Wed night is your chance! Ask away! And allow some authenticity and vulnerability when we four sex geeks use our life’s journeys and wisdom and courage (balls) to answer anything you throw our way.

Sometimes all that is left is to scream your heart out… it seems no matter what you say you’re not being heard. No matter how clear you feel yourself to be, what comes out of your mouth makes no sense to the other side.

Come and explore with us how to hold difficult conversations, understand the different love languages you and your loved ones might have as your filter of giving and receiving love, learn to communicate what’s not being said in a way that will empower and connect you with others better. We will explore different modes of communication, verbal and non verbal… and different relating styles, open relationships, agreements, flirting, transparency — taking off your masks so that you can REALLY relate. Interspersing our favorite tools, and taking questions from the audience.

Next get ready to laugh through all your old 7th grade awkwardness as Reid, sex and relationship educator for an exciting and comical hour of flirtation. Add more aliveness to your existing relationships. Make new friends in the most exciting way possible. Speed-Flirting features a series of structured exercises with lots of easy-to-apply tools for breaking the ice, overcoming awkward moments, and for deep-connection through play. Get inspired about meeting new people as you learn to break habits of shyness and release your “inner flirt.” Increase your self-esteem by giving people permission to smile, to wink, to have fun, and to never forget how to flirt again!

Speed-Flirting will teach you to: 

  • Break the ice with ease and confidence.
  • Make your dating and relationship life pressure-free.
  • Say No without feeling guilty.
  • Keep people from misunderstanding your intentions.
  • Relate with rejection gracefully and leave people feeling better for having met you.
  • Get anyone to make the first moveBring a partner, find a partner there, switch partners, or experience the course on your own. Many options will be offered to support each individual experience.
  • Overcome shyness and embrace your bold, exuberant ability to connect deeply and playfully with anyone you choose.
  • Drop the “dating and relationship B.S.” and get to know people by how they flirt, not what they write their online profiles or how they rattle off their resumes!
  • Already in a relationship, then learn how to reignite the romance by flirting with the one you love! Speed-Flirting is a rambunctious, 1 hour workshop/social event for men and women of all ages. The usual definition of flirting as just “a sexual thang” limits our ability to engage with people playfully. What if flirting meant “increasing the fun and play in any interaction?” Perfect for singles, couples, and entire communities, Speed-Flirting gives us the tools to go deeper than just a wink and a smile…

Next let Monique lead you through a vulnerability circle where a room of strangers slowly opens up and winds up on the same page, and friends connect ever deeper having the opportunity to be seen, heard, and understood in ways maybe you have never even imagined!

It begins with a beautiful circle where you will be led through some heart opening communication exercises to connect within and with each other. Then we will go into silent connection exercise where you will get to meet one another beyond words, and finally we will finish up with some amazing connective exercises, that will leave you feeling expanded beyond believe and you will leave with your own knowing of how great connection can feel when held in such safe and loving container, where ALL of YOU is accepted, exactly as you are.

Date: Thursday, April 23rd, 2015
Time: Panel 7:00-8:30pm, Speed Flirting 8:30-9:30pm, Vulnerability Connection Circle 9:30-10:30pm
Location: TBD
Cost: $30 pre paid or $40 at the door, SPACE IS LIMITED!

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Sex and Relationship Expert Reid Mihalko

Fearless Relating Weekend Intensive With Reid Mihalko & Monique Darling

Day 3 thru 5… Come join us in Philadelphia as two top teachers in the fields of sexuality, vulnerability, and self-acceptance weave their diverse perspectives into a weekend retreat like you have never experienced before.

Are you ready to take an intensive weekend of FEARLESS RELATING with two of the most dynamic relationship geeks on the planet today? Come blow your mind and open your heart with vulnerability diva Monique Darling, and sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko Friday Apr 24-26!

If you could have anything, do anything, what would you choose? What do you really want? What is keeping you from having it? Is someone else better qualified? better looking? more financially stable? Do you have “problems”? What if every limit you have, every chain that binds you, is only there because you believe it is? What if the limits disappear, the chains dissolve?. Your life is alive with an abundance of possibilities, opportunities, and potential all you have to do is be willing to say “yes”.

So much of the fear and hesitation in life comes not from the self, but from fretting about what others may think,or what they will say or whom they might share it with afterwards rather than being able to enjoy the moment. Another set of fears come from passed-down beliefs that we accept without questioning them.

What if you could make decisions and follow your heart…follow your body and your desires without worrying about what others thought? What if you were fearless in relating – first, to yourself and then, to others?

We all have feelings of ferocity and tenderness, but we must feel safe in order to be vulnerable and intimate with another. Part of that safety is being confident in our own ability to say ‘NO’ and take a stand for our boundaries. Only then can we play in the realm of our true ‘HELL YES!’

Come join us for a unique weekend of exploration around such topics as:

  • How do we establish boundaries and create safe space for ourselves to explore with others?
  • Shifting paradigms from blame, shame, guilt & judgement, to love, acceptance, understanding and presence.
  • Factors that promote or inhibit intimacy:
  • The power of no and boundary (understand why your “no” says more about you than your “yes”)

In this workshop you will learn, play, and practice: 

  • To ask for what you want, skillfully, without attachment to the response.
  • To honor, respect, and be grateful for the answer “no”, and still be hopeful for the answer “yes”.
  • To be honest and vulnerable about your wants and desires without shame, without deflection, without armor.
  • To hold space for someone who has not yet learned these skills.
  • To own your fears, instead of them owning you.
  • To not be afraid to be the one who loves the most
  • To learn to be even more vulnerable when you want to isolate or close down.
  • Release shame and haunting memories
  • Modalities of communication: verbal and non verbal

You will gain tools and leave with the ability to relate with everyone in your life with more ease, grace, and blissful contentment from your own center.

Are you confused about dating, mating, and relating in the 21st Century?

Dating, marriage and the reasons we stay in relationships have changed a lot since the days of our great grandparents.

Join us for this humorous, frank and informative, intensive workshop where sex and relationship expert Reid Mihalko boils down over 150,000 conversations he’s had about sex and relationships and walks us through his best thinking and advice on making sex, dating, relationships and mating work!

Participants will leave this interactive workshop experience discovering:

  • Tools to determine if someone is a good or horrible fit for you…
  • Communication Skills to ask for what they want and how to avoid past relationship mistakes…
  • A few of Reid’s and Monique’s “black belt” relationship tips and tricks!

Then, let Monique Darling, Consent Geek Extraordinaire, lead you through all of the tools, tips, tricks and how to uplevel the questions you are asking yourself and others to truly be able to find and live from your own “Hell Yes”!! Monique has been leading Cuddle Parties (just facilitated her 346th)all over the country, which are 3 1/2 hours of practicing this concept.

How amazing would it be to live life offering every “no” without apology and every “yes” without being ashamed? Learn that it really isn’t about anyone else, it’s about tuning in and taking care of you, and then you can relate with ease and joy with others, wherever they are at.

Learning better sexual technique will boost your sexual self-confidence, raise your self-esteem, and make you more confident and competent in sex and love! Being THAT kind of person is attractive in AND out of the bedroom! Part of the weekend will cover how to increase your sexual self-confidence ten-fold and start becoming a more attractive, self-expressed and fearless person in all your relationships!

Through no nudity, interactive, hilariously “edutaining” demonstrations, you will learn:

  • Tools to determine if someone is a good or horrible fit for you…
  • How to use fantasy to turbo-charge a lover’s orgasm…
  • How to listen to your partner’s body in bed…
  • How to create your own “sexual positions decoder ring” so you naturally “think” about lovemaking in an exciting, Kama Sutra way!
  • How to slow down sexual experience for greater pleasure learning to STOP judging ourselves and our partners
  • Understanding how to expand our own sexual energy and our PLEASURE Body
  • Opening to Full Body Energy Orgasms
  • The different stories you and others are telling about your sexual identity
  • Developing Emotional and Sexual Safety for Intimacy
  • 5 tips that will give you oral sex super powers!
  • 3 Powerful Perspectives that will help you understand pleasure and orgasm, and how to give and receive both!
  • 3 ways to use your hands sexually that will drive your partner wild AND leave you feeling more confident as a lover!
  • 2 BIG differences between penises and vulvas, and 1 thing that’s the same that will make you 10-times better in bed…
  • And still more!

If you ever begin to understand who you are, you could not possibly ever compare yourself to another, to envy, wish to impress, to BE different than you are. For in the beauty, wonder, and awe at discovering how magnificent “your” puzzle pieces fit together, at the ever changing infinite ways YOU shift, dance, I Need Your Love – Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead weave together, each one so unique, so extraordinary, it would take an entire lifetime to only just begin to discover. Yet so often we abandon the quest of self discovery, to follow another, or to invest in relationships, doing what we have been told is the “right” way to be. The greatest freedom that we could ever express or imagine, is by simply giving ourselves permission to gently keep returning to us and we can transform the world by simply being 100% ourselves.

Come with an open heart and a willingness, a longing, to bring your stories into the light, so that they can stop you running away from your shadow.

There will be times, over the weekend, when the atmosphere will be sensual and energetically sexual. All activities and exercises will be guided and are always optional. You can participate in the workshop solo, with a partner and in small groups. All participants are asked to practice with each other, or by oneself, in whatever manner supports you best. Many options will be offered to support each individual experience.

set your sights on registering for this breakthrough weekend, and get a two for the price of one deal by paying only what it ordinarily costs to learn from just one of these facilitators.

So say ‘HELL YES’ to discovering ‘YOU’!!

Date: Friday, April 24rd-Sunday, April 26th
Location: TBD
Cost: $347 before April 1st, $397 after, or be one of the first to sign up and get all 3 days for only $299!

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ReidSeatedCheckeredShirt-206x300About Reid:  Reid Mihalko of www.ReidAboutSex.com helps adults create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health in their relationships and sex lives, no matter what their self-expression of those happen to be.

Reid has appeared on Oprah’s Our America With Lisa Ling on OWN, the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Dr. Phil’s The Doctors on CBS, Bravo’s Miss Advised, Fox News, in Newsweek, Seventeen, GQ, People, Details, Marie Claire, The National Equirer, The Washington Post, on VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, and the short-lived Life & Style, on NPR, Sirius’ Maxim Radio, Playboy Radio and Cosmo Radio, and in thirteen countries and at least seven languages.

To date, Reid’s workshops and lectures have been attended by close to 40,000 men and women.  Reid has been a featured speaker and keynote at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality and is a sought-after presenter and teacher at colleges and sex positive organizations across the country.  Reid has also been a writer, producer and behind the scenes consultant on a number of films and television projects about sex and relationships.

Follow Reid twittering as @ReidAboutSex.  Like and subscribe to his Facebook page, Facebook.com/ReidAboutSex!

 

Healer and teacher Monique Darling with a huge, happy, laughing smile and flowing brown hair in a flowery bushABOUT MONIQUE: Monique Darling of www.divineinterludes.com is dedicated to empowering people who are questioning the assumptions of how their life should be; and to offer tools for self expression that create trust, inner knowing and wisdom to make the life they want. It’s a lot of hard work, but it’s the kind of work that makes life easier.

Since 1990, Monique has felt the calling to learn from some amazing teachers including Wayne Dyer, Matt Kahn, Reid Mihalko, WhiteBear, Shawn Roop, ABDY, Kamala Devi, and Scott Catamas to name a few. She has through workshops, courses, and client sessions, experienced how spirit/love moves through her using intuition, touch, play and emotional release in helping people embrace the truth of their divinity.

Her specialty is transmuting fear and repression into courage, love and freedom to express truth in ways that nourish all.

She is devoted to helping YOU uncover your magnificence!!! To empower YOU, who dream of something more, to awaken further and discover it is within you. You have all the answers, let her help you remember the questions.

 

ABOUT EDIE: Edie Weinstein. LSW, Dublin, PA is a colorfully creative journalist, dynamic transformational speaker, licensed social worker, interfaith minister, PR Goddess, radio host It’s All About Relationships www.vividlife.me and author of The Bliss Mistress Guide To Transforming The Ordinary Into The Extraordinary. She has been a certified Cuddle Party Facilitator since 2006 and finds it one of her greatest joys. She figures she has cuddled many thousands of people since then. Edie also holds FREE Hug Events http://youtu.be/_PN7-5ZA_XQ She refers to herself as an Opti-Mystic who views the world through the eyes of possibility. She dreams BIG and encourages others to live the lives of their dreams and desires. One of hers came true in 2008 when she interviewed His Holiness the Dalai Lama www.liveinjoy.org

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