Dating

How Long Should I Wait To Tell My Partner That I Fell In Love With Someone Else?

How Long Should I Wait To Tell My Partner That I Fell In Love With Someone Else?   Cathy: So, someone wrote in and said they fell in love with someone who’s already in a poly relationship. They didn’t mean to fall in love it was not but the partner should not.   Reid: It […]

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Where to Find Places for Play Parties

Where to Find Places for Play Parties           Cathy: Someone wrote in to you Reid and said, Hello I found out about you from reading Neil Strauss’s The Truth. I’ve thrown my own play parties before and even intended a few but I wanted to know where I can find more […]

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What is Pegging? | Facebook Walk With Reid

What is Pegging? | Facebook Walk With Reid       Reid: Hello everybody! It is Reid from http://reidaboutsex.com/ and it is our little Facebook live walk today. So as you as you jump on, let me know that the sound is okay. I’ve got my little extra battery today so I shouldn’t be able […]

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Polyamory And Being Honesty-Oriented | With Reid Mihalko and Cathy Vartuli

Polyamory And Being Honesty-Oriented | With Reid Mihalko and Cathy Vartuli       Cathy: Someone wrote in with a question said. I don’t know if you can answer this or not. But how do I find Poly people that know how to be transparent and honor and an honest. I’ve been wondering? This is […]

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What Are Things To Consider and Goals When Merging Policules

What Are Things To Consider and Goals When Merging Policules         Cathy: If you’re merging household and determining compatibility, what are some thoughts about poly styles and goals to talk about with the partners that are merging? We want to have a really peaceful powerful group as we merge our polycules.   […]

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I Can’t Orgasm With My Boyfriend, What Do I Do?

I Can’t Orgasm With My Boyfriend, What Do I Do?       Cathy: Someone wrote in and said that. I have tons of orgasms when I’m by myself masturbating. But having orgasms with my partner is challenging. I’d love to hear what you have to say about that. And how can I go about […]

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Do You Feel Like You’re Not Good Enough?

Do You Feel Like You’re Not Good Enough?       Cathy: Someone wrote, oh. You want to finish picking your teeth?   Reid: No, I’m good. Oh! Oh! We started.   Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, I really been trying really hard to be a good fit for someone else because I don’t […]

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How Do You Navigate Consent Violations In The Community?

How Do You Navigate Consent Violations In The Community?       Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “How do I navigate consent violations on a group and what about accusations for spaces where I might be in a facilitation role or even brave enough to step into one when no one else can or […]

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How Do You Deal With Feast Or Famine In Dating- Identity: Part 1

How Do You Deal With Feast Or Famine In Dating- Identity: Part 1         Reid: One of us is drinking coffee and one of us is not. Can you guess who? Cathy: [Laughing] it looks like a lot I can see from here. Reid: It does. This is Cathy Vartuli from http://theintimacydojo.com/ […]

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Single And Celebate For Years… Is There Anything Else To Try Around Dating?

Single And Celebate For Years… Is There Anything Else To Try Around Dating?   Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, “I’ve been single and celibate for years. I’ve tried online dating, approached men, lost weight, joined a gym, joined a church, dyed my hair, volunteered in my community and still never got asked out even […]

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