Dating

Digging Deeping in Your Relationships

Cathy: Have you found that your relationship might be a little stagnant? Or that you’re not growing as fast as you would like? Reid: What? I thought everything was fine. What are you telling me? Cathy: Actually, digging into some of the deeper stuff in your relationship, having the conversations that you don’t normally have, can help […]

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Does He Love Me

Cathy: Does he love me? How can I tell? Someone wrote in and asked us that question the other day. It’s a great question. And this is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and I’m Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and apparently, we’ve killed him, so I’ll just do this talk without him. Reid: Oh, let me count the […]

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Doing Things In Bed That You Don’t Want to Do

  Cathy: We had someone write in to us and say that their partner is wanting them to try things in bed that they don’t really know they want to try. They’re not really sure and … Reid: Like eating cookies in bed? Cathy: Yeah. I’m sure that was it. Reid: That’s crummy. Cathy: Oh my god. Reid: […]

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How Do I Know When She’s Come

Cathy: How do you know when she has an orgasm, so you know when to stop? Someone wrote in asking about that and I love that the person wants to know more. There is a lot of pressure I think in our society to know when the person had an orgasm or not. Reid: Our society is […]

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Cathy On Tuning

Reid: Hi this is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com Reid: You use this phrase “tuning” to somebody. Please explain for our viewers. Your esoteric languaging. Cathy: Yes, OK. Well, there’s two levels you can do that at: 1) you can communicate with your partner and understand what … you have them explain verbally what they […]

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Did You Know YOU Have a Romance Groove?

Last week I shared my pragmatic definition of romance (leaving people seen and heard with warmth sprinkled over the top) and how jettisoning culture’s idea of romance can improve your love life. I also talked about the myth of mind reading around romance, and how sharing the process of identifying romantic gestures with your partner or those you’re […]

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No Mind Reading Required… Conscious Romance 101

In my last article, I talked about Kissing in the rain isn’t romance! – What is Romance and Why Does It Matter? In case you haven’t read the article, I shared that despite what media and culture tell us, if you cut through the BS and the music swelling/tear-jerking movie hype, romance just means leaving people feeling appreciated, significant, […]

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Kissing In The Rain Isn’t Romance! – What is Romance and Why Does It Matter?

Why kissing in the rain isn’t necessarily romance! Isn’t romance some story about a helpless damsel and a strong handsome man riding up on a white horse to rescue her? Or is romance Hallmark cards and flowers? Maybe you’re thinking romance is standing in the rain declaring your undying love… Ummmm… I think romance is none of these things. […]

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What Do Icebergs and Chocolate Have In Common? The Secret, Missing Ingredient…

A gift to make all of your special times more powerful, more memorable, and sweeter… A lot of people go for the big splashy moments when it comes to Valentines and love. We’re taught that the more important something is, the more sparkle and glitter it should have. While pizzaz and flare can make experiences […]

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Confidence and Instinct In The Bedroom [Article]

Am I Good In Bed… Yes, I am! Or Am I? It’s an ironic truth that being confident often makes people appear much sexier… And yet, in most people’s minds there is the question, “Am I good in bed?” Confidence in bed can be very attractive… it can spark interest, ignite passion, and explode into […]

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